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Would you become pregnant at 47 if....

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Noangelbuthavingfun · 20/09/2024 12:17

You desperately know you've always wanted a 2nd child and it never went away ... tried but failed many times.... would you go for donor eggs and partner sperm and just do it ? Many celebrities do it late into 40s.... its now or never. I'm just thinking you regret the things you never did...

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CulturalNomad · 26/09/2024 16:19

I think it's wrong for anyone to give such a sweeping statement like it's 'unfair on the child' - I know people who lost parents at a very early age or who have parents battling long illnesses in their 40's and 50's

Of course - there are no guarantees in life! However, A child born to a mother in her late 40's will be dealing with an elderly parent while he or she is still a young adult. It was very difficult trying to help my widowed mother while navigating my own life as a newlywed and starting my own family. This is the reality of having significantly older parents. You lose the luxury of having the safety net of supportive grandparents for your own child while simultaneously taking on elder care responsibilities.

In many cases this is true but I also have a very good friend who, at 30 was nursing her 55 year old mother as she battled cancer.
Her mother was on her own so moved into my friends house with my friends new husband and their 2 kids so she also became a carer while juggling her young family. The mum passed when my friend was 32 and it was very traumatic for all involved. She wasn't elderly but the situation was otherwise very similar.

Also a school friend devastatingly lost their mum when he was 13, mum was only 36.

As you say, there are no guarantees in life. There is no guarantee that having kids younger means you will live a long life until they are also reaching retirement, no guarantees that they will stay in good health, no guarantees about the luxury of young grandparents.

We can only make the best of the cards we are dealt.

LonelyInDville · 26/09/2024 18:20

I would only if I was rich and could afford cleaning services and a chef. I was full of energy at that age working 50/60 hour weeks so I’m sure I could handle it with help

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