Would you become pregnant at 47 if....

[Noangelbuthavingfun]

You desperately know you've always wanted a 2nd child and it never went away ... tried but failed many times.... would you go for donor eggs and partner sperm and just do it ? Many celebrities do it late into 40s.... its now or never. I'm just thinking you regret the things you never did...

Sure do it!
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I've had my first at 39, planning for a second soon at 41 years old and will go for a 3rd at about 43 or 44.

My friend just had her 3rd child at 49 :)

No way.

Just because you can, doesn't mean you should

No .

If was a celebrity and I felt like this - yes but would pay for a surrogate. With my never-ending pool of money, I would hire round-the-clock nannies, personal trainers, cooks, cleaners and everyone else, then when I felt the urge to be creative again, I would have the fame and fortune to return to a great career.

If you and oh ate healthy and in a position to do so. I think I would try,

You have one dc so they will have a sibling to grow up with too.

It can only be your choice but I definitely wouldn't rule it out.

Good luck with whatever you decide x

Carrying your child makes them yours?

I adopted and did not carry him, is he no less mine?

Neither of us are biologically related to our children.

I wouldn't because I disagree with the use of donor eggs.

@Josette77 why do you disagree with donor eggs? I've never known anyone to do this before so never considered it x

There’s a reason why we go through the menopause and stop being able to have naturally. We’re not meant to.
The ethics of egg and sperm donation aside, if you need to resort to donor eggs to have a baby at 47 there’s a reason for that.

No. I had my last at 39. I'm 47 now & wish I'd done it 5 years earlier, but we had issues. I wouldn't judge anyone who did, though & think you must do what's best for you & a potential future child, not worry about what I would do. A lot of people were rudely judgemental about my age, so I refuse to do it to others.

Although recently I've noticed DH & I & our siblings have shifted to retirement type talk. Now THAT scares me!!

I'm curious about this too. I considered donating my eggs as I think it's great to help others, however there's genetic deafness in my family so automatically not allowed (although I'm fine).

I've never had fertility issues, but sympathize with women who do, hence wanting to donate my eggs.

Because it is essentially commodifying children.
Because of the impact on those children in terms of their lack of identity.
The reason why the law has changed to enable the children of donation to contact their biological parent at 18 is precisely because of the negative psychological impact that being the product of donation has on those children as they grow up.

Not for a second child. I wouldn’t want to take the risk to my health given my existing responsibility to my first child.

if I really felt my family wasn’t complete, I would think about it adopting an older child was a good fit for my family.

I wind rather go down adoption route if possible than egg/sperm donation. All the health risks of carrying a baby when the child still isn't genetically yours anyway.

No, I would focus on enjoying the child we had already. I'd worry that this level of desperation would be making them feel like they weren't enough.

Seeing these celebrities and knowing there's endless (but very expensive and unlikely to work) options is what's stopping you from moving on. The industry is manipulating and exploiting your emotions.

Put all the money this would cost you into a savings account for your DC, see the tangible cost of throwing that money away instead and start to feel good about that choice.

Because it's a basic human right to know where you come from. I myself was adopted in care.

I was separated from my siblings and didn't even know they existed until I was an adult.

I see egg donation like adoption but it's not treated that way. I don't think nine months of pregnancy justifies bringing a child into this world when you've already put them at a disadvantage.

Sorry you had a bad personal experience.

I think nowadays so many lessons have been learned about adoption and parents are encouraged to be much more open from the beginning, allow their children to meet siblings, learn about where they came from etc. Modern adoption is dealt with very differently to 25+ years ago thankfully.

I know several families with adopted children - my own darling nephew is adopted. I don't think egg donation is the same and I don't agree that any of these very much loved and wanted kids are being disadvantaged.

Yeah pregnancy is hard on the body, but on the flip side you get to control things like alcohol and tuna consumption during pregnancy.

@Josette77 I see it that way too, I just never thought of it as a disadvantage. But I can see your perspective

No because I do not think being a child of a parent that age is fair, 'I want a baby' is not enough of a reason to do that to a child

No, far too old, not fair on the child.

I would. I'm 47, don't feel "done"

I think I've completely missed the chance after a few miscarriages and probably wouldn't risk it again. The heartbreak alone from the miscarriages almost broke me.

Good luck to you if you feel you can do it.
My aunt was a first time mum at 46 and managed well.

Adoption has also changed in terms of that it’s no longer about adopting a baby that has been given up, but the children adopted have usually been removed in traumatic circumstances.
Sperm and egg donation is far more like previous adoption in that the child is born into the adoptive family and grows up with that lack of identity.
Add to that the possibility that the older parent may then rely on that child for care while they’re still young, and you have a recipe for that child to walk away because that’s not their real (biological) parent anyway.

I wouldn't. I'm in my fourth pregnancy at 34 and it is hard, so much harder than my pregnancies in my 20s. I don't know if it's just this pregnancy or whether my age has played a role in that. I definitely won't be doing it again.

I definitely didn’t want another child after my first, now that it’s got a bit easier I would have considered it but tbh I just feel too old in my early 40’s. I’m permanently tired already and I have a busy but not stressful life.

I’m 47 and have a 6 year old. I’m permanently knackered and there’s no way I would want to start again now.

A lot of those who said 'no' had their kids younger and feel they made the right choice.

I've had both mine in my late 40s using donor eggs and am very happy with my choices and with my beautiful babies 😊

I'd do what you feel is right for you and your family. You've already been through pregnancy, childbirth and bringing up baby, so you can make a decision based on your previous experience.

*All new mums are tired, and having a cleaner is great - it was before children too.