Oh, its started already! So far I've been called a 'silly cow' and been asked 3 times if it was 'planned!'

[Disenchanted]

Heya... your not alone. Everyone thinks that they can be as rude as they please once ur expecting. I have a beautiful 10 month old son and a little girl due in 5 weeks time. I can honestly say that about 3 people said congratulations to me, the rest advised to get rid... gave me a lecture over how stupid i was or dont talk to me anymore. My mum wouldn't talk to me at first and at one point even threw me out. she was really angry as im 20 and in my second year of uni, it was just assumed that i was going to give up which i have no intention of doing, it has cost me an arm and a leg so i intend to complete my degree.
During the pg me and the dad have split up because he had a gambling problem. so as a result im a single mum with another on the way living in a council flat... lol i bet u can guess what my snooty middle class family and privately educated friends think of that. that aside you just need to remember its your own life and there is nothing wrong with filling your home with the happiness, laughter and joy that children bring. I certainly wouldnt change my life for the world and i bet ur the same. Just come on here for a rant... chances are everyone will see things from your point of view good luck with the pg

What is it about pg women that makes otehr people think thye can just say whatever they wish?? i had comments like 'was it planned' and 'had you been trying for one' - like it was anyone's business but mine and dh! They almost seemed cross that we hadn't kept them informed of our family plans.

(for info, totally unexpected and unplanned ) tee hee

Just let them get on with it and ignore them. some of them may actually just be jealous that they never had any or some such story, who knows? It's your life, enjoy your pg and dc and stuff the lot of them

I work in a very PC environment so no-one dares make comments like those alexa had to deal with!!

Wow, a lot of the stuff said here I can really relate too. I'm having triplets and ever since I found out everyone is like 'how will you cope?' and i've a few 'oh my gods'.

The best was a member of staff in Mothercare who seemed sympathetic that I was having three - i think she was just jealous that she was also pregnant but only with one!!

I also love the fact that people seem to think I CHOSE to have three children at once! I most definitely wouldn't terminate any of them just because it will be hard work - people really should just mind their own business!

I have got similar comments. All from MIL though. She thinks I have trapped DH despite both DS and the one I'm expecting being planned so how I trapped DH is what I'd like to know?

My nan did say "2 babies in nappies" in a shocked voice. But she has got 5 kids, 2 were adopted but she had them from a few days old. So I didn't mind it from her.

Timesofhope my friend is expecting twins and her mum asked her to terminate one of them as it would be to hard for her.

Some great advice Disenchanted!! [congrats again!!] Sod the lot of them! A lot of it comes from insecurities anyway, so just hold your head up and try to ignore. Tis hard I know. If/when I have no. 4 (after 3 dds) I'm going to wait as long as poss before spilling the beans!!
And please enlighten me on 'wizards sleeve', tis driving me mad!!!

Ahh just read, how crass . Good responses there though Alexa