Disenchanted: well, some of the comments were made from dp's family who do not seem to like me no matter what I do. His father is nice by all accounts but his GF (my dp's Mum died when he was young) seems to hate me and always makes snide comments and says stuff like 'Oh I believe you've never had to do this'. 'You know, this is how real people live, work, etc' 'Oh don't worry about the cooking, we'll find a restaurant, we don't want to burden you and then regret it later'. (I'm not a great cook and the few dishes I do very well are either German or Persian/Pakistani and they refuse to eat either. They certainly wouldn't 'regret' it...) It's a long story but she thinks I'm stuck up because of my family and education and always finds fault...
Anyhoo...sry, just got carried away in my misery: my dp and I were very open we had been trying and got lucky quickly. (Despite one of my ovaries not working.) That up front statement about us going at at it for 3 months has somehow shut them up.
As I worked on a trading floor the tone is quite rough and the boys give as good as they get. I said stuff like: 'You don't have a vag and you're still sitting at the same desk as 5 years ago so I guess some aren't born for glory'. Or: 'you must know what your talking about, how's your wife?' (To the guy that asked me if I'll have a wizard's sleeve' (they have 3 kids).
Girl's comments were more difficult but resorting to lies and a bit of cattiness solved it: To the slapper that pitied me I said: 'Well I guess you'll never find out.' (She has previously told me that her dh and her tried for a baby but nothing happened and now she's getting too old and has given in to her lot.)
The stupid receptionist got:'Oh, no worries, X (my dp) has just gotten a 500k basic contract, I'll be lounging in the sun all day, going for lunch and doing bits of hedge fund introduction which is going to earn me a bit on the side. X doesn't want me to work anyway, I'll get a nanny, maid, driver and cleaner and life will be bliss. How's it going with x (her BF, now ex), any chance he'll come back?'
It was bitchy and a bit of a lie, but I felt so much better. She's been effing half of the trading floor to get a BF that'll swathe her in Gucci. Serves her right to get FA.
hattyyellow: You know, for all my bitchy retorts, some comments did strike fear in my heart. I don't want wizard's sleeves (a fanjo that hangs down like a wizard's sleeve) and I am afraid that I'll never get back into my career again. Who wants to be parted from a little babe and go back to stressful 60h weeks? But I'll go along on the chosen path now and think about the rest later. I just find it absolutely out of order to make comments like this to a mum-to-be when it's a time of doubts, worries and dizzy hormones. I'm seriously wondering though since when has it become acceptable to insult a woman that's given birth naturally???????
What I also don't understand is the tutting and sheer antipathy people show you when you have more than 2 or max. 3 kids. What's that all about? Since when has it become unacceptable in society to have more than 2.4 kids? Wombfor1more let them stare. Their generation had kids as early as 18-20, anything older than 25 was considered too late.