Announcing to grandparents

[AlyC]

How did people announce their pregnancy to the grandparents?
We would like to do it intimately but can’t think of any cute ideas for when we do 😊.

Nothing cute.
I told my parents we were engaged in Christmas Day. A year later I told them I was pregnant on Christmas Day. Couldn't repeat that as they would have known with my second long before Christmas!

I gave my mum a keepsake Christmas ornament that opens up. Inside was a scan photo and a chocolate (for the shock).

I'm not pissed off, I'm just offering my opinion. If it happened to me and my children felt they had to treat me like part of a show rather than just telling me and trusting me to be excited then I would be pissed off.

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"Good news Nana, I'm up the pole".

You could embroidery it on a doily if they are a bit fancy.

I framed my first scan picture, put a post it note over the picture which read "you can stop asking now..", and then wrapped it up to give to my mum & dad, telling them we'd had a picture taken recently and thought they'd want a copy.

(this only worked because I was 10 weeks pregnant when I got my BFP, and had a scan the week after. If I'd have found out I was pregnant sooner and needed to wait weeks for the scan, I wouldn't have waited for the scan pictures and I'd have found another way to tell them).

I just rang them and said I was pregnant!

I got my elder daughter to write it in my Father's Day card so when he read it out loud everyone found out at the same time, it was lovely. Better than my first unplanned pregnancy where everyone was crying 🤣

I waited until mother's day and made a photo book of my daughter with the last picture of her holding a big sister sign, and a photo of a pregnancy test on the next page.
My mother had the most underwhelming response 😂😂😂

This time I told her I had hyperemesis again and needed feeding please, same response as the cute gesture haha

You would be pissed off? That's surely extreme. Something can be not to your taste without it having to make you angry, I would be a bit confused if someone decided to pass me their used pregnancy test, but if that made them happy, I can't see why I would have any strong negative reaction to it. I'm also a little confused that multiple people have referenced showing scan pictures as being the same as passing around a pee'd on pregnancy test? I have never heard of anyone in real life viewing scan pictures as some uber-private intimate thing that's weird to share with even your parents. I've been shown scans from siblings-in-law, friends, neighbours, etc.

A bit pissed off yes. I'd be sad that they thought they couldn't assume I'd be excited by the news for its own sake and needed it dressed up into a stunt.

Plenty of us on this thread finding scan photos not a cute thing to share but an internal medical image and not automatically appropriate for sharing - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5150261-unsolicited-baby-ultrasound-photos-triggering?page=1.

I don't hugely object to being shown a scan picture but I do find it very odd.

It was MIL’s birthday so we put a scan photo in a frame and wrapped it up. We have a video of her opening it; it was a brilliant moment (pregnancy was a very long time coming for us) 🥰

Edit to add - the photo has been proudly on display ever since! Soon to be replaced by a real photo, all being well.

Like many others we just told them. I found the concept of showing people the scan pictures unsolicited really weird, so the only person aside from DH and I that have seen it is my Mum, because she asked to.

I think that’s reasonable.

In the ‘just say ‘ we’re having a baby’ camp’. (Also, when my SIL and BIL tried to be cute and gave my PILs a ‘grandparents’ Christmas card with a scan photo, my MIL just ripped it open while talking about some neighbour dying, glanced at the scan photo in passing, clearly not grasping its significance, stuck the card on the mantelpiece and went out of the room to put the envelope in the bin. They were v crestfallen😀.)

We just told my parents, we popped round there for another reason but we were having the first scan that afternoon, after the scan we were going to PIL they wanted some prints of our wedding photos which we were taking up, so slipped one of the scan photos in with those

Blerted it out. The day after we found out. I was pregnant naturally after ivf and it was a shock!

Just went round for a cup of tea and told them then. It was a lovely moment and perfect in its own way 🥰

Everyone is different OP and just do what you feel is right, don’t worry about people’s opinions - it’s your news xx

Just tell them. You don't need to announce anything.

Do you need to "announce" it? Could you just call them and tell them?

I told mine face to face twice and then had to tell them bad news twice. They're pretty old so I felt really bad and would wait until a bit further along if I get lucky and thing go better next time. If you make a big/cute thing if it and then it goes wrong that memory tends to add to the terrible pain as you can never get that moment back again

First time around, we wrote it in cards as it lined up with Mother’s Day. Sort of anyway, we told both sets of grandparents early (only about 6 weeks or so) as they were aware of our fertility struggles and one set was ready to pay for our ivf/treatment, seemed only right to tell them early!
This time, got a cute ‘big brother’ T-shirt for our son and just got him to show it to them. Waited until 11ish weeks this time.
If you want to do something cute, go for it. It’s your life and your pregnancy!

1st time - we made them cups of tea in these ‘New Grandma & Grandad’ mugs
https://amzn.eu/d/iwuBgIC

2nd time - our 2.5 year old proudly showed off his ‘Big Brother’ jumper off 😍

I just told my mum 8 was pregnant and that’s why I wouldn’t be able to lift heavy things when we were moving into our new house 2 weeks later.

dh and I visited his parents and just told them.

im not into fancy reveals, but each to their own,

We went for a private scan first to check everything was okay, went to my in laws and showed them a video of the holiday we'd just come back from. My DH is tech savvy so he added on a video clip from the scan and added a cute message to the grandparents with the month the baby was due.

A big surprise for them and they were so happy and loved how we told them.

With my grandmother we just said we had some news and took out the scan photo.

Aww these are so cute!