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18 weeks pregnant and binge drinking!

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Summergal1 · 14/05/2024 20:37

Hello everyone. I am FREAKING out. I found out I’m about 18 weeks pregnant and have had many episodes of binge drinking.
what I can recall: 11 & 12 weeks about a bottle of wine within 3 hours one Friday and one Saturday + two glasses of champagne!
Week 13 - a case of the four pack wine cocktail again within probably 2-3 hours
week 17- a bottle of wine again 2-3 hours

do you think I have caused FAS? :(

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60andsomething · 14/05/2024 20:38

we cant tell you, you need to discuss this with your midwife, or doctor xx

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Summergal1 · 14/05/2024 20:39

Also prior to this, probably around the first 4 weeks who even knows how much drinking.. had my friends wedding festivities all weekend

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Summergal1 · 14/05/2024 20:39

Thank you. I guess I was wondering if anyone has experiences such episodes of binge drinking but I definitely will discuss!

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jannier · 14/05/2024 20:41

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supersonicginandtonic · 14/05/2024 20:46

@Summergal1 first of all try and calm down, stress isn't good for the baby.
Don't feel bad you didn't know you were pregnant so you cannot change what has happened.
Ignore the poster saying see your GP, the amounts you have posted are not concerning and not out the normal limits and not something I would call binge drinking.
In regards to FASD, I'd say it is very unlikely. I work with mother who are dependent on alcohol and rarely are their children affected. The chances if your baby being affected are tiny.
I'd advise you to speak to your midwife about it, she will help you out your mind at rest. She will also be able to help with any anxiety that you are having.

supersonicginandtonic · 14/05/2024 20:48

@jannier what a silly comment to a worried mum to be. She has drank on a handful of occasions and not high levels at that.

Franticbutterfly · 14/05/2024 20:51

Baby will be fine. You aren't an alcoholic. Just abstain for the rest of your pregnancy.

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Summergal1 · 14/05/2024 20:52

Thank for your kind words. I know you are not medical professionals but I struggle with anxiety as is and basically just wanted to see if anyone was or has been in the same boat as me. I appreciate your reply more than you know!

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jannier · 14/05/2024 20:53

supersonicginandtonic · 14/05/2024 20:48

@jannier what a silly comment to a worried mum to be. She has drank on a handful of occasions and not high levels at that.

Binge drinking in her words ...and the amount on those occasions is a lot....it's sad people think downing so much is okay if it's not several times a week.
Needing to get drunk to socialise is a concern

CanUNotTry · 14/05/2024 20:57

@Summergal1

I found out I was 16 weeks pregnant with my first (I had been drinking a lot over the weekends as I was younger then lol .... multiple bank holidays / Fridays and Saturdays out on the town etc)
I spoke to my midwife who did an additional scan to reassure me - baby came out fine with no problems.

Obviously the minute I found out I was pregnant I stopped drinking anything until after she was born

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Summergal1 · 14/05/2024 20:58

I definitely understand.

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Summergal1 · 14/05/2024 21:00

First, congratulations!
how is your child now? :)
thank you for your reply!

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Summergal1 · 14/05/2024 21:02

I really hope so as I do understand the alcohol content is a cause of concern in such a short period.
Thank you for your reply! :)

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ancientpants · 14/05/2024 21:06

Stop worrying, your definition of binge drinking is pretty tame. It's sustained periods of alcohol intake that is a cause for concern. Relax and enjoy your pregnancy

Ttcagainnow · 14/05/2024 21:10

Oh op, try to relax. I'm sure your baby will be fine. Those amounts are not excessive and I say that as someone who doesn't drink very often at all! Ignore the previous poster making you feel guilty for having a drink!

pastaforever · 14/05/2024 21:13

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What's wrong with having fun? It would be different is she knew she was pregnant and did it anyway but she didn't. People are so weird about alcohol on MN.

Sa11yCinnamon · 14/05/2024 21:14

jannier · 14/05/2024 20:53

Binge drinking in her words ...and the amount on those occasions is a lot....it's sad people think downing so much is okay if it's not several times a week.
Needing to get drunk to socialise is a concern

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Where did she say she needs to get drunk to socialise? Stop being so judgemental.

AimeeLou84 · 14/05/2024 21:22

Hey OP. Not speaking from my own personal experience however I was binge drinking when I found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks. I know a lot of women who have drank throughout their pregnancies (bad I know) and not given up and the baby has been fine. If you mention it to your midwife or booking in appointment they’ll give an extra scan etc. Try not to worry. Hope all goes well

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Summergal1 · 14/05/2024 21:44

AimeeLou84 · 14/05/2024 21:22

Hey OP. Not speaking from my own personal experience however I was binge drinking when I found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks. I know a lot of women who have drank throughout their pregnancies (bad I know) and not given up and the baby has been fine. If you mention it to your midwife or booking in appointment they’ll give an extra scan etc. Try not to worry. Hope all goes well

Thank you for this!

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buffyslayer · 14/05/2024 21:46

I mean I wouldn't recommend it but a colleague didn't know she was pregnant and was drinking fairly heavily (binge drinking)
She found out 3 days before she gave birth
Baby is 19 now and absolutely fine

Soontobe60 · 14/05/2024 22:01

supersonicginandtonic · 14/05/2024 20:46

@Summergal1 first of all try and calm down, stress isn't good for the baby.
Don't feel bad you didn't know you were pregnant so you cannot change what has happened.
Ignore the poster saying see your GP, the amounts you have posted are not concerning and not out the normal limits and not something I would call binge drinking.
In regards to FASD, I'd say it is very unlikely. I work with mother who are dependent on alcohol and rarely are their children affected. The chances if your baby being affected are tiny.
I'd advise you to speak to your midwife about it, she will help you out your mind at rest. She will also be able to help with any anxiety that you are having.

I very much hope you don’t work with women who are dependent on alcohol if you’re telling them such rubbish.
I work with SEN children - many of them born to mums who binge drank in early pregnancy.

yumyumyumy · 14/05/2024 22:02

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Get off your high horse.

Soontobe60 · 14/05/2024 22:03

AimeeLou84 · 14/05/2024 21:22

Hey OP. Not speaking from my own personal experience however I was binge drinking when I found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks. I know a lot of women who have drank throughout their pregnancies (bad I know) and not given up and the baby has been fine. If you mention it to your midwife or booking in appointment they’ll give an extra scan etc. Try not to worry. Hope all goes well

It’s impossible to diagnose FASD via scans. Often it only becomes apparent as a child fails to meet their milestones, usually once in Nursery

Jaggy1 · 14/05/2024 22:06

jannier · 14/05/2024 20:53

Binge drinking in her words ...and the amount on those occasions is a lot....it's sad people think downing so much is okay if it's not several times a week.
Needing to get drunk to socialise is a concern

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When did she say she had to drink to have fun?
im sure if she knew she was pregnant she would have enjoyed herself just fine sober.
Not that there is anything wrong with anyone enjoying a bottle of wine if they want to now and then... strange you felt the need to add to her worries and judge her instead of just saying nothing?

Just speak to a professional OP, you can only do the best you can with the information you have at the time and if you didn’t know it can’t have been helped, now you do just seek some help and see what they say. All the best 🥰

Adamsapple89 · 14/05/2024 22:33

jannier · 14/05/2024 20:53

Binge drinking in her words ...and the amount on those occasions is a lot....it's sad people think downing so much is okay if it's not several times a week.
Needing to get drunk to socialise is a concern

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It’s sad that women like you feel the need to judge other women 🤢 people like you concern me there’s always one that will make people feel shit about themselves when they’re already down