11/12 weeks and bleeding - experiences?

[MrsB2019x]

Hi all,

I am 12+1 today and have been bleeding on and off since Monday. We had sex Monday morning and the bleeding started after that. I have had the odd spots of bright red but it has mostly been pink. There is enough to mark a pad but it’s worse on wiping.

I know that bleeding after sex can be normal but my boobs haven’t been sore for over a week, and today I have noticed they’re really soft where they have been quite solid up until now. The bleeding also sometimes has small stringy bits and I had two tiny clots yesterday, which makes me think that if it was cervical irritation there surely wouldn’t be stringy bits?

Does anyone have any experience of this? I have my dating scan at 3:40 today so I’ll know for sure later but I’m convinced I’ve had a MMC. I just don’t feel pregnant anymore.

Thank you 💐

[SnookyPook]

@MrsB2019x think I may have been on another thread with you recently. Really sorry you've got this worry ongoing. At least it's your scan today so not long to wait now.

In all honesty, I've had this go both ways. I had spotting starting at ~11wks with a pregnancy last year. The morning of my scan (11+4) it got a bit heavier and I just 'knew'. Unfortunately it was a MMC and baby had stopped developing at 7+5.

This time, I have had a couple of instances of spotting and a slightly bigger bleed with two small clots which happened at 13+4. I immediately feared the worst but scan showed baby still absolutely fine and no obvious cause for the bleed. Best guess was probably cervix.

In your case, I think the hopeful factor is that it seemed to be triggered by DTD, so hopefully it is just a tender cervix.

As I'm sure you know, there are so many of these threads and so many occasions where it has gone either way. And I'm sorry because I know it's not any comfort at all. And I know you will be going into your scan feeling so scared - I've been there.

I don't want to tell you that of course it will all be fine because there is no way of knowing. What I will say, is that, whatever the outcome today, you will get through it. If it's worst case scenario, it truly is shit but you will find strength you didn't even know you had. Hopefully it will all be fine and you'll be able to put this behind you.

Sending you a hand hold and a big hug for later. I've got everything crossed for you. Please update if you feel able. 💕

[MrsB2019x]

Thanks @SnookyPook, I guess I just want to be prepared for either outcome. Thanks for sharing your experiences and I’m so glad everything is okay with your little rainbow 🌈 I will definitely update later x

[SnookyPook]

💕

[Havingawobbley]

Thinking of you today 🫶🏻

[Kate3150]

Hope it’s good news for you @MrsB2019x x

[MrsB2019x]

Thank you all 🩷 just been to the toilet and the blood was a little darker red. I have pretty much lost hope.

[Havingawobbley]

Keep the faith, it's not over until they tell you it is. Hope it's good news 🙏🏻

[Kate3150]

Thinking of you @MrsB2019x x

[OopsieeDaisy]

I really hope everything is ok for you OP.

[MrsScotland]

Hope it is all ok for you, let us know

[MrsB2019x]

Not good news. No heartbeat and they think baby passed at 8+4. Got an appointment tomorrow to discuss options.

Thank you all for your well wishes, it meant a lot 🩷

[Anotheranxiousone]

Very very sorry to hear this. Sending a huge hug. I went through a MC last September (was a bit earlier than you, about 7 weeks) following a scan showing a heartbeat and it was such a difficult and lonely experience so I know some of what you may be feeling. You’ll get through it but take the time you need and lean on whoever you can in your network xxx

[Kate3150]

@MrsB2019x - I’m so sorry my darling.
How are you feeling?
I was really hoping you would get good news xx

[MrsB2019x]

@Kate3150

@MrsB2019x - I’m so sorry my darling.
How are you feeling?
I was really hoping you would get good news xx

Gutted, but not overly surprised.
How are you doing? Xx

[Kate3150]

@MrsB2019x - Bless your heart, what a week we have both had, cannot believe it myself.
Do you know what option you might go for?
I’m okay, getting my head around it all slowly.
Ive got surgery booked for Monday x

[MrsScotland]

Oh I am so sorry. It’s just one of the saddest things to come to terms with.

[MrsB2019x]

@Kate3150

@MrsB2019x - Bless your heart, what a week we have both had, cannot believe it myself.
Do you know what option you might go for?
I’m okay, getting my head around it all slowly.
Ive got surgery booked for Monday x

Glad they have got you booked in, closure is coming I hope 😔
I want surgery too, which I imagine will be booked in next week. I’m terrified of going naturally at home over the weekend, I really really don’t want that. Cramping and bleeding has ramped up a bit but I imagine that’s just from the pressure of the scan probe, I just hope it’s not starting x

[SnookyPook]

Oh @MrsB2019x I'm so sorry to read this update 😔 Sending you a massive hug. I was really hoping for a different outcome for you. 💕

Not that it might be much comfort but with my MMC last year I ended up passing it naturally while I was waiting for surgery and it actually wasn't anywhere near as bad as I had feared. It was manageable with paracetamol/hot water bottle. I stayed on the toilet a lot as it was coming out quite heavily and I did flood a pad when I was off the toilet. But it was certainly bearable - I found somehow the emotional side of it got put to one side whilst I was dealing with the physical side of things and hit me properly afterwards. I still kept my pre-op appointment where they ended up scanning me and confirmed I had passed everything.

Hope all goes ok for you and for you @Kate3150. It's a horrible horrible time. Sending you both courage and love. 💗

[Kate3150]

@MrsB2019x - Oh sweetheart, I completely get how you feel, I’m the exact same.

You already feel like you’ve been through enough this week without miscarrying at home.

But honestly, if it happend, you kind of go into autopilot. I’ve had one at home and it was all over pretty quickly, I had some bleeding after everything passed but then it was fine.

@SnookyPook - thank you my love. It is a horrible time. Already feel I’ve been hit by a bus and still more to deal with 😞

[Havingawobbley]

How are you feeling this morning OP?

A similar thing happened to me about 9 years ago. I had some brown discharge 2 days before our 12 week scan.

I went to the hospital and had to stay overnight to get a scan in the morning otherwise I'd have had to wait for our original appointment.

It was bad news, there was a yolk sac and nothing much more. It messed with my head that for 3 months I'd thought I was pregnant and really I wasn't.

You will be ok. Just take time for yourself and talk to someone if you need to.

Much love 🫶🏻

[WolfMother326]

@MrsB2019x I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a MMC in September. I also really didn't want to have it happen at home. I bled and cramped for about 10 days before I was able to have the surgical management, so just because you're bleeding doesn't mean it's imminent. Hope you're OK x

[MrsB2019x]

Thank you for sharing your experiences @SnookyPook @Havingawobbley and @WolfMother326 , I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this heartache too 🩷

@Kate3150 How are you doing today?

I’m trying to keep busy. My husband has been given the day off work so we’re at soft play with DD, she doesn’t do well with staying indoors! I’m staying at the table as I don’t want to dislodge anything being too active! Appointment is at 2:15 to discuss options so I’ll update on here after that

Thank you all for taking the time to think of me and send well wishes, you’re a wonderful bunch 🩷

[Kate3150]

@MrsB2019x - Yes let us know how you get on.
Ive done a bit more today (just round the house) I’m nervous to go too far but I remember from last time it didn’t just “happen”, so I could venture out, will see how things go over the weekend.
You are doing amazing 💜

[MrsB2019x]

So are you @Kate3150 , we’re in this together 🩷

[MrsB2019x]

Just coming to the end of my appt and surgery is booked in for Wednesday. Despite my hospital being huge and covering a large area they only do the procedure on Wednesday and Friday mornings 🤨 the wait is gonna be awful (if I haven’t gone already by then)