Venting - unannounced visitors at 39 weeks!

[Mishmish79]

Just need to vent. My friend and neighbor who knows I’m having a homebirth just dropped by unannounced at 39+4 to see if the baby had come. Wtf??!!!
now she’s making me out to be the bad guy after I sent out a text asking people to call ahead before visiting because she just wanted to drop off granola 🙄 so angry.

Geez, do you usually get angry at something like this? It wouldn’t worry me at all, I think it’s sweet of her.

Call the police !!! People wanting to visit where will it end? i'd be raging

I think you're just a bit strung out. It'll all be fine. Maybe get someone else to answer the door for you.

Yeah, you're being an unreasonable hormonal pain. Chill out.

So they dropped by and left? I thought that this would be a mn where they'd come to stay for a week!

She’s your friend! Why the anger?

And .. your hormones are angry and alert.
Giving birth sometime soon, are you?

Do make up a sign for the door:

LABOURING IN PROGRESS
CALL BY NEXT MONTH PLEASE

Well that's you fucked, you won't be getting anymore granola 😉

You could wait two more weeks before you have the baby. Is your entire world going to pause until then?!

What a bitch! How dare she?

Imagine - she was actually thinking of you and your family! How presumptuous! What a cow!

Harsh replies although probably true! Don’t worry though - in pregnancy I was a ball of rage. You do feel like the world should revolve around you and actually in your own home that’s not too much to ask sometimes. Hopefully she’s got the message now. No harm done.

So you wrote this at 4.47 am saying they had just dropped by? What time did they call?

Take a deep breath.
You have friends and neighbour's who care about you.
You might have been having a bad day, and not appreciated their efforts, but id guess they called round because they live you not because they want to piss you off.
The next fortnight could be very long if baby doesn't arrive til 42 weeks and you antagonise everyone who checks you are OK.

Surely no one is this unpleasant !

Spelling of neighbour as 'neighbor' would suggest OP is in the US. Also I know we eat granola here but it doesn't have quite the same cultural place that we'd be giving it and possibly home making it for gifts. Unless unreconstructed hippy.

Tbf I get it . But maybe that’s because I’m hormonal too

Your 37 weeks and hormones are raging mad. Don't send out any more texts OP.

Yabu but luckily your friend might excuse that due to pregnancy hormones.

Oh god. I was so angry and full of rage at the end of my pregnancy. I remember my MIL deciding she would visit about a week before my due date. I was LIVID. I felt like she was just trying to be around when I had the baby and she wanted first “dibs”. I thought she was pushing my parents out even though there were no grandkids on my parents side yet and she already had a grandchild. I was annoyed I wasn’t being left alone to relax and nest. In fact, I went out with my friends and refused to host her.

OP, I was horrible and I recognise that now. Totally normal feelings BUT you’re (I was) not being rational or reasonable.

I think it's stressful having unannounced visitors at any time but especially in this situation. You haven't said you don't want to see anyone, you've asked people to contact you before showing up. I don't think that's unreasonable at all!
Good luck for the birth when the time comes,op

Wow. How dare they, eh?

You might just owe them an apology. Good luck with the home birth, how exciting!

Just say 'I'm sorry, I'm really getting stressed, thank you for the granola.'

Then don't answer the door unless you are in the mood for visitors.

No I’m with you, you’ve asked friends family to call ahead yet they just turned up!?
I wouldn’t have answered the door, in fact I don’t when I’m not expecting anyone (for safety)

It might be weeks before you have the baby if you're own 39+4. I'm not sure I get the significance of that.

Also if someone rings the door and you are tired, uncomfortable, or in labour, just don't answer?