Venting - unannounced visitors at 39 weeks!

[Mishmish79]

Just need to vent. My friend and neighbor who knows I’m having a homebirth just dropped by unannounced at 39+4 to see if the baby had come. Wtf??!!!
now she’s making me out to be the bad guy after I sent out a text asking people to call ahead before visiting because she just wanted to drop off granola 🙄 so angry.

I'd hate this because o hate unannounced visitors full stop.
But I wouldn't have let them in tbh
Perfectly reasonable to ask people to at least txt to check whether it's a good time to visit.
I think your reaction is a little extreme but I understand why you were annoyed and your request for notice in future was reasonable.
Just do not answer the door next time. It's stressful that some entitled people get annoyed that they can't have access to your home whenever they feel like it without asking.. but you just have to get thicker skin and just ignore them, don't open the door, keep reinforcing that no one will be visiting unless the actually ask beforehand.

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Oh are you saying she just turned up unannounced, knowing you could have been at home giving birth? Some replies on here are a bit harsh! I think its a bit inconsiderate and invasive of her! (I'm also hormonal though 😅, we can both be grumpy! 😉)

Your neighbour and friend dropping off granola does not constitute "unannounced visitors"! I doubt she would have been expecting you to get out of a birthing pool to answer the door for instance! Let's hope the postman or a courier doesn't knock with a parcel!

I don't get the replies on here at all. Yes of course it's nice to know people are thinking of you - but to knock on someone's door the week they're due to check on progress? Nah.

Wow some of you are absolutely awful. Yes she could have come by while I was laboring, she wasn’t bearing gifts, and no I don’t think it’s ok to drop by unannounced when someone is in their last weeks of pregnancy or newly postpartum to hang out.
since I don’t have the ability to delete this thread just kindly don’t reply

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Lol.

Lol... we'll see another thread in 6 months time complaining that nobody calls round to hang out anymore 😂

But if you were in labor you wouldn't have answered the door so what would the difference be?

Surely on MN that's the holy grail. Piss off your family and friends so much that they never feel entitled to catch a glimpse of your baby, never mind actually hold them.

Just wow!

I’d find this really annoying op.
youve either not had the baby - so don’t ask
you’re in Labour - so don’t call unannounced you’re busy
Or you’ve had the baby and chosen not to tell people yet or invite her round so again don’t come round.

I hate people turning up unannounced anyway, I think it’s rude, but I wouldn’t dream of turning up at someone’s door knowing they’re heavily pregnant / might have a new born. There’s a difference between checking you’re ok (a txt, a call, a note at the door) and knocking on to ask if the baby is here yet.

Oooo gosh. Pregnancy hormones, overacted just a tad.
Say sorry once you've calmed down.

I'm with you OP, when you're having a home birth there's an unwritten rule that says stay away from about 38/39 weeks. No exceptions unless arranged before and checked again just before turning up. Satisfying their own curiosity by finding excuses to visit is rude when there's a good chance you could be in labour.

Forget about it though, she was probably oblivious and meant no harm. It's great you've got some clear boundaries now and that she helped you realise what those were. Hopefully those boundaries will be respected after the birth now too.

So exciting you get to meet your baby soon, best of luck with the home birth!

You have massively overreacted here OP, sorry!