Pregnant and end of life family member.

[Twistylemon]

Hiya, I'm almost 7 months pregnant.

My grandmother has been put on end of life care. It's to be expected, she's 90. She stopped her dialysis on her own accord. I'm closer to her then I am To my own parents 😔

I want to go and see her, as its going to be my last time obviously.

But the ward she is on has contracted norovirus. It's been shut for almost a week. The bay she is on, has norovirus too. They will no longer test her for norovirus her as she is end of life and all care withdrawn except the basic pain relief and personal care.

The consultant there has said we can visit at our own risk. He was very concerned for my situation with being pregnant.

I know it's a personal choice. But has anyone had norovirus around this mark and been OK? I have a toddler anyway so she brings home all the germs.

Any advise please and thank you in advance ☺️

Well done OP. Hopefully the norovirus will clear and you'll be able to visit her again. EOL is funny thing. I wouldn't be surprised if she held on to see your baby. I hope all goes well for you all.

@declutteringmymind I wish she could be around for baby. Sadly that's 8 weeks to go yet. There is no way she will hang on that long.

Her kidneys are less then 5 percent. No dialysis being done, so her kidneys will shut her organs down soon. She's already swelling in her extremities. I can hear her lungs are becoming full of fluid when she breaths. No warfrin, nothing to control her AF.

I wish she could see baby ♥️ but that's a very unrealistic dream and wish. My aunt came up with me and she said she didn't even recognise her.

Glad you got to see your wonderful gran ❤️ hope you remain germ free. As your midwife said you can catch a winter bug from almost anywhere.

I'm so sorry OP

I'm so glad that you had time to spend with your grandmother

I'm so pleased you had those precious 5 minutes with her. You did the right thing imo.

I hope gran's journey now is very painless and she's at rest soon.
And I'm keeping everything crossed for you that you're noro free, please update the thread with any news.

And again, those minutes you had to say goodbyes will bring you a lifetime of comfort ❤

I'm so glad you got to see her OP ❤

I had norovirus at 8 months was so ill (found collapsed on bathroom floor) I ended up on a drip in maternity triage and was then put on a ward and quarantined.

4 year old must have brought it home from nursery. Can quite honestly say I've never felt so ill.

Sorry but I just wouldn't risk it

So sorry, just saw your update.

Glad you got to see her op x

Last update.

My nanny passed away around 1130am this morning. I'm very pleased I got to see her yesterday.

Currently my toddler has a vomiting bug this morning. Couldn't make it up 🤦‍♀️ it's apprentely doing it's rounds at nursery when I called them earlier. There is no way I could have passed anything to her as hadn't seen her since I been to hospital to see my nan and her vomiting and incubation period is too small for her to potentially catch anything from me.

So looks like I will be getting a bug either way 🤦‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

@Twistylemon I am really sorry for your loss and I am glad you got to see her.

Oh @Twistylemon, sending you loads of love (and a virtual sick bucket 🪣)

@Twistylemon so very sorry to hear about the passing of your beloved gran.
I am glad you were able to see her. I’m sure that she held on until she had seen your before she passed.

I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm so happy you decided to go and see her.
Look how awful you'd have felt if you hadn't got to see her and ended up with a bug anyway. I hope whatever bug came into the house will he mild enough and best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy

I'm pregnant and I would definitely go. I went to visit my dying relatives when pregnant (although I wasn't aware of a norovirus outbreak going on). As far as I'm aware there isn't a risk to the baby with noro it would just be miserable for you if you got it. But I would take the risk given you won't get this chance again. I think you would regret not going.

So sorry OP please ignore my last post I didn't read all your updates until I had posted. I'm very sorry for posting in response to your original post.

I'm so sorry to hear your latest update. Well done for going to see her. Sending you lots of love and hugs. I'm sure you being there meant so much to her.