Rude people

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So I was at the pharmacy to collect my prescription. The lady at the counter asked what my exemption is. I said maternity. Then she said , "I didn't want to assume in case you had a big dinner!" I knew she was joking but i sarcastically responded with' "Urgh, Thanks". I was a bit offended, no one has ever said that to me before. I know I'm big, but c'mon! It was a little insensitive of her. AITA?

It was a joke..she was being friendly..honestly no one dare say anything anymore for fear of giving offence.

I don't think she said anything offensive? You did just have a baby.

I was confused why you'd need an exemption for a prescription since we don't charge for them here but presumably you live somewhere you need to pay for each one. I think she was probably just being lighthearted and spoke before she could stop herself. I would try not to take it to heart but if I'm honest I'd have felt the same as you back when I was pregnant. Does sound more like small talk than rudeness though.

It wasn't a jibe at your size. It's just a jokey thing people say to make an awkward situation comical - ie. You probably have quite a noticeable undeniable pregnancy bump, yet still it's not safe for her or anyone to assume pregnancy in case that isn't the case...as that is a sure way to offend!

So when you confirmed pregnancy, which i'm sure she was certain of herself, that's her cue to make light of the painstakingly obvious fact that you are indeed pregnant.

Don’t really understand why you were offended

Please don't blame hormones but it was a joke

That sounds light hearted to me. Clearly no offence intended.

Easily offended much? It was a joke as she is correct and can't just assume

Yes, you are being a little bit of an arsehole. She was making a light-hearted comment to explain her question, not being rude. Believe me it's much ruder to assume someone is pregnant when they're not!

But you are pregnant - what would be rude, would be assuming you’re pregnant, commenting on it, and you’re not!

I mean, you can’t be mad if - while pregnant - you look pregnant?

She was explaining why she asked the question and was trying to lighten the mood why would you choose to be rude to someone who was trying not to offend you , I think k in this situation you were the rude one not the lady in the pharmacy.

You didn’t say anything that makes you an asshole, but you definitely seem very over sensitive. You’d be far more offended if you were someone not pregnant who suffers bad with bloating and she assumed you were pregnant, it’s always safer for them to ask, she was just making a joke.

You do in England

@PickledScrump I called OP an arsehole because she asked at the end of her post AITA? which is from Reddit's "Am I The Asshole?", similar to AIBU?

I promise I am rarely gratuitously derogatory like that!

In England you do?

OP you're being a bit oversensitive, but meh. She was trying to be lighthearted and failed.

Oh fgs it was a joke to many people get offended over silly things or try to find offence in anything get a grip lighten up.
I shaved my head bald once for my own reasons a few weeks later it grew to a number 3 i went to get the train with my sister as i went to get my ticket the man at the desk said YES SIR HOW CAN I HELP.
He knew in a second what he said before he could say anything i burst into laughing.
He apologised but we was cracking up i said no worries we dont find offence in everything.

Still laugh about it now.
My hair has grown back since then.

And the time a random woman on a bus said oh when are you due and looked at my belly I BLOAT me being me said im only 4 months she gave me her seat.
I played it off very well.
Happened a few times tbh.
Too much sadness going on in the world to be offended with silly things.
I kid you not when i bloat i look pregnant.

@LauderSyme I’m not sure why you’ve tagged me. I’m aware what AITA means which is why I said that she was not one. I haven’t even read your comment 😂

She wasn't rude at all. Ruder to use Reddit terminology outside Reddit than the friendly comment made to you.

You can not assume a woman is pregnant unless you can see the baby coming

Not really sure what was offensive about what she said. She was being friendly

Don’t really see the problem. I’ve mistakenly assumed someone was pregnant before, which was pretty awful. Am very, very careful now.

Yabu. I think it’s funny when people are afraid fo ask and she was obviously being friendly . But being unreasonable offended excusable due to pregnancy hormones and turmoil!

Just to add, my vegan friend(in a very non vegan friendly country) who ate dates and soya protein a lot was frequently asked if she was pregnant due to massive bloating!

Oh dear, I was clearly being super defensive unnecessarily 😳 Apologies.