Is 10 weeks to early to tell people ?

[MoonstoneGoddess]

On Christmas day I'll be 10 weeks 5 days
We always planned to tell family at 12 weeks no sooner but I'd really love to share with my parents at Christmas.
This would be first grandchild and I'd love to get them a card saying happy Christmas grandmother and grandad ect with a baby scan pic inside . We just had a scam done today but I'm kinda scared telling so soon incase something goes wrong as I'm still early. Do you think I'm just best to wait .
I did have a previous miscarriage one year ago that has frightened me a little

We told everyone the day after we found out, don't see the need to wait, anything can happen whether we told or not

It’s not far off 12 weeks, if it’s something you’d like to do I’d say go for it. Even if something were to go wrong baby does deserve to be celebrated anyway! Wishing you all the luck and a healthy pregnancy:)

I think it is too early, speaking from the perspective of a prospective grandma. My daughter told me she was pregnant at 6 weeks and I wish she hadn’t! She is 37yrs old expecting her first baby and I was so anxious about the high risks of a miscarriage. Obviously I said nothing to her about my anxiety but I still haven’t bought or made anything for the baby - I crochet gifts all the time for other babies! She will be 24 weeks at Christmas but I’m waiting until she is 28 or 30 weeks before making plans.

I know I’m being silly but I didn’t buy any baby things for my first child until he was born, in those days you could leave a list with Mothercare for everything you wanted and my husband went to collect it the day before I came home from hospital.

I think you should stick to your original plans so make a New Year card maybe?

Apart from close family I didn't tell anyone for as long as possible. That was because I couldn't be doing with people asking how I was all the time and making a fuss. My cousin got pregnant two months before me and may as well have done an announcement on news at 10, she told so many people straight away so I saw how it played out with her.

We did the exact thing after having a private scan Christmas week and swore them to secrecy until we had our 12 week scan a few weeks later!

it was such a Christmas surprise!!

I'd keep it as a happy surprise to liven up dreary January.

i just told people as I saw them. 10 weeks, I told work friends. I think telling family at this stage is nice & will be a lovely surprise. In terms of anything happening… It could anyway, at any stage. That’s the reality. Mine was a rainbow baby, so telling people helped me to wish things along in a positive way.

I told quite a lot of people about my first pregnancy early which ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks, it wasn’t a pleasant experience then having to tell people I’d lost the baby.
The second time around I learnt my lesson and only told 2 close friends, my manager and mum. I told my father about the pregnancy at 12 weeks (1 week before my official first NHS scan) as I didn’t want him finding out with everyone else. He deserved to know before the ‘world’ lol.
By that point I’d had numerous private scans due to the pregnancy being IVF and also to help calm my anxiety so I was fairly sure at that point all would be OK. Obviously, still anything could have happened at my official scan but I’m happy I told my parents.
Do what’s right for you, there is no right or wrong answer, Christmas is a wonderful time and the added special news would make it all the more magical. However, deciding to wait to tell your parents a few weeks later would allow them to start their new year on a high.
Congratulations and good luck :)

I would, or I'd save it for a new year announcement. I told people immediately but I wouldn't have minded telling people if I had a miscarriage either. At ten weeks you're probably safe.

It’s such a personal thing. It depends how you feel about people knowing if you did have a miscarriage. I told quite a lot of people about my first pregnancy and then had a miscarriage at 11 weeks, but I was glad for the support.
I kept it mostly secret on my second pregnancy, not because I didn’t want people to know if I did have a second miscarriage, but because I wanted to be happy and (more) confident about the pregnancy when I told people, and not say “I’m pregnant but please don’t get excited until the 14 week mark when I feel happy about it”. I did tell a couple people though who wouldn’t believe that I wouldn’t have a glass of wine for that long!

Congrats OP, best of luck with the pregnancy!

We told people at 10 weeks, only to have to tell them something else after we lost the baby at 14 weeks

It's personal preference of course

I think it comes down to (god forbid) who you would tell if the worst was to happen. If you'd be telling them regardless then go ahead, whereas if that's something you would want to keep private, then it's probably better to wait.

(For what it's worth I literally took the wet pee stick to my mums immediately when I found out I was pregnant with my first 😂)

I'd say to tell them. Pregnancy is out of your control and it's good to have the support if things don't go to plan. When I spoke to others after a mmc found at 12 weeks, it was insane how many had experienced similar. It's such a taboo subject that really should be spoken about more.

I told at 6/7w as was ivf so knew preg early on

Was so thrilled finally happened after 10yrs ttc and 4 previous failed ivf

But also told as if had had a mc then people would know why I would have been absolutely distraught

I think tell on Christmas Day and maybe a card saying to granny /grandad to be would be lovely

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firstly congratulations

12 weeks is tradition, but I told my mum as soon as I knew, but no one else until 12 weeks, it makes a very long pregnancy otherwise!

but 10.5 weeks , well there’s not a lot in it is there ?

but I think, if you can manage it, to hold on for new year ?, you might find people will guess, not drinking avoiding certain foods etc, but what a lovely start to the new year for everyone, I personally would love to be told I’m going to be a granny again at new year.

there’s so much going on at Christmas it might get lost, just another gift unwrapped, new year, you will be 11.5 weeks and it will be all wonderful

No. I had 3 miscarriages, 2 after 10 weeks. I think it’s best to wait to make sure everything is ok. It will be a lovely surprise to your family any day of the year.

What a wonderful Cgrustmas that will be 10 and a half weeks is fine to start telling close family and enjoy being pregnant xxx

I’ve told people earlier with the latter of my pregnancies, one I did have a miscarriage with but the support made a huge difference, another I had hyperemesis with so spent most of my time in hospital and needed the support with that pregnancy.
Christmas day surprise sounds lovely :)

Totally do what feels right for you, there’s no rule. I told hardly anyone in my first pregnancy but then after a miscarriage at 7 weeks I ended up telling quite a few people anyway (needed the support) - so to be honest I could have just told everyone straight away. Congratulations 😊

I would tell them. I waited until just shy of 12w with DS1 and basically as soon as I got a positive test with DS2. I did have bleeding with DS1 and I wished I’d had someone to talk to. It depends on how you process things if they were to “go wrong”. I need to talk to people, DH keeps things to himself.

It's totally up to you. Would you want their support if anything went wrong?

We didn't tell anyone until about 14 weeks because we wanted to wait for the scan first, and I know friends who regretted having told everyone their due date when they then went over, so we wanted to be a bit shady about it and just let people believe we'd only just had the scan.

We've made no 'announcement' at all, just told important family and friends first, then others as and when we've seen them or it's come up. Plenty still don't know and probably won't now until the New Year when I'll be nearly 20 weeks.

There's not a lot of difference in it so I would it will be a lovely surprise for them! Iv had two losses, the first we told as I had an early scan due to spotting only to miscarry 2 weeks later, the second time I didn't say anything, I had two early scans and went away on a birthday weekend with my group of friends only to miscarry when I was there so ended up telling them anyway. If I get pregnant again I'd say it to family and close friends because my reasoning is I'd tell them anyway if I lost the baby. The support I had from everyone made such a difference.
Best of luck! 🥰

We told in-laws Xmas eve and my parents Xmas day. I was 10.5 weeks and had the scan a few days before.

Sil told us all at 10 weeks but unfortunately had a miscarriage a few days later. We all supported her and bil.

I find this attitude so odd, so you wouldn’t have wanted to know if she’d had a miscarriage? It doesn’t effect the outcome if you know or not

I’m very pro telling early. I think the waiting til 12 weeks is quite weird, as things can still go wrong after 12 weeks. It comes from a society that doesn’t want to openly talk about baby loss even though it’s so common. I told close family and friends around 8 weeks and then had a loss at 11 weeks. It made it much easier to tell them about it, and I really appreciated the support.