Will I freak out about the baby inside me?

[amberu97]

GIRLS PLEASE.

I’m starting to have so many threads but I have so many questions!😭 I’m a first time mum and the main thing that’s put me off having a baby all this time (is not only my PCOS) but is having a tiny human literally inside me.

Will I panic and freak out with the movements? Like how am I going to cope! I do have generalised anxiety which can be heightened by literally anything…but the thought of a human, hair, nails being inside me freaks me the hell out…

I’m 7 weeks so still early days but just want as many questions answered before I continue this journey!🫢

1. You'll be fine, you'll miss feeling the movements after giving birth.
2. We're (mostly) women here, not girls.

I think this is probably quite a specific worry and I can't tell if you're totally serious or not. But no it never occurred to me to worry about this sort of thing and movements were often very reassuring. If you're genuinely concerned about this idea and think it might trigger your anxiety perhaps you could look into some counselling?

I'm 40 weeks with my 4th and I'm not going to lie, if I think about it too much it is a bit weird. A whole human just living inside you is odd to be fair!

You'll cope though, it's amazing how easy it is to forget about it!

It's fine, the first flutterings feel like a bit of wind and by the time they start kicking and doing somersaults you will be used to it.

Congratulations!

It's interesting and mind-blowing but hasn't freaked me out

Was this ppregnancy planned?

What is pregnancy, to you?

I love feeling the baby. Going to miss it

Also, for me it felt unbelievable that there was an actual person in there. Even after seeing the scans and feeling the kicks it's an alien concept. It's only when they're born that shit gets real.

Please see someone about your anxiety - you are literally making yourself anxious about the possibility you might be anxious on future. You’re going to be a mother - you will find strength and coping skills you had no idea you had. And you need to help yourself find them, not worry about things that aren’t even happening.

The first movements are so subtle you'll wonder if it was the baby or wind! You get used to it, it doesn't feel bad or anything. I used to find it comforting/reassuring that she was OK in there

I only freaked out once. It was 20+ weeks. The first time the baby was stretching and poking its elbows or knees out and I saw/felt it!

It was fascinating too but not scary scary.

I feel odd about the thought of things under my skin in that I could never have the implant and hated having IVs in.

However, I am on my third pregnancy and can feel the little flutters of my baby and can’t wait for him to start booting me properly. As a PP has said, it’s reassuring!

It doesn’t freak me out but when I think about it, I do find it a bit weird, more so now that I’m towards the end and you can sometimes make out body parts moving about

the early movements you’ll be more curios than anything, trying to work out if it is actually baby you can feel

I wasn't freaked out or anything but I didn't enjoy feeling my baby's movements especially towards the end of the pregnancies. I am autistic though with sensory difficulties so presume it was related to that. Certainly didn't miss feeling the movements later.

I loved every second of my pregnancies, once the sickness stopped. Wonderful and reassuring to feel baby move. Birth was also awesome. Once you have baby in your arms, you didn’t think about being pregnant. And then you want another one! 😂. Many congratulations OP, good luck.

I am 21 weeks pregnant and have to admit, sometimes I find the movements annoying. Almost like I’m overstimulated/touched out from my other kid, noise, dog & life and I want to shout GET OFF ME at the baby too 😆

I never freak out about the hair nails etc tho. Have never even thought of that. You don’t feel anything specific like that. They’re floating in a sort of fluid sack. It’s more a sensation that you feel.

I will say, when I had a day last week where the movements didn’t feel as strong, I was really upset and wanted them back and wish I’d not moaned 😆 . I have an anterior placenta and 20 weeks is still so early on, so I figured he’d just moved position - was still feeling movements, just not as impactful if that makes sense.

Remember that the entire thing is gradual. If doesn’t just suddenly happen. It doesn’t ever feel real to me until they’re born. But I would definitely work on your anxiety in some way as you have a lot of things to come.

My midwife suspects I have an anterior placenta and I’ve been really upset about the idea of not being able to feel my baby move as much this time. I’ve got my 20w scan next week to find out for definite but I can feel him already which is reassuring.

I had these exact worries about being pregnant. The whole thing is so strange and once pregnant would I freak out.

Answer was no, I don’t know if it’s the hormones but even though the thought is strange the reality was ..natural.

Far from not liking the movements, my favourite time was being home alone and watching tv with my baby moving, was a special time and is over quickly.

They didn’t tell me at the scan but I noticed it in my BadgerNotes.

ive had anterior both pregnancies. Noticed I seem to feel baby normally on left and sort of muffled on the right, so I suspect that’ll be something to do with location of placenta

I have an anterior placenta this time too, it took me longer to feel movements compared to the first baby but once I hit 3rd trimester they were just as strong as last time. I'm 40+4 now and I'm lying on the couch watching my belly do the Mexican wave!

Hmm I’m getting mixed feelings from a couple of these responses. Firstly I call everyone “girl” or “girls” I wasn’t trying to say that you are not women.

Yes I understand I’ve made a couple of “negative” threads about pregnancy, this is because I am extremely worried, it’s my first time after two miscarriages, my mum died last year so I don’t have that motherly support and want to make sure I know for sure it’s something that I want. It was unplanned as I have severe PCOS so it wasn’t even a possibility from the doctors and my headspace was okay with no having a baby.

To the majority of you thank you for just responding in a positive way.❤️🫂

Don’t be an arse! (Not sure I replied to right comment - but this is at the person criticising use of “girls” - seriously….

I don't suppose men call one another 'boys' though.