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Am I being ridiculous

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georgiablueberr · 13/10/2023 00:22

So I have a midwife appointment booked in for tomorrow Friday the 13th and I'm planning to call up and cancel and move it to another day as I'm being very superstitious and worried (I have bad prenatal anxiety) is this ridiculous 🤦🏽‍♀️ I do feel rather silly but I know I'd be filled with worry if I went as I'm super worried about stuff at the moment. There's also another part of me like well if I cancel is it bad luck aswell 😂

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WastingTimeOnTheInternet · 13/10/2023 00:31

Don’t cancel. Think how many Friday 13ths you have experienced in your lifetime and how many times things have gone wrong on those days. Compare it to how many times things have gone wrong on days that aren’t Friday 13th. I’m a bit superstitious about Friday 13th, but I would still go in your shoes.

Juicyjuicymango · 13/10/2023 01:59

Yes you're being ridiculous

Theduchy · 13/10/2023 02:02

Completely ridiculous. What a waste of time and resources. What exactly do you think is going to happen if you go? Google the history of Friday 13th being unlucky and you'll see its a load of nonsense.

PaminaMozart · 13/10/2023 02:05

Sigh...

RedRobin100 · 13/10/2023 03:22

yra You’re being ridiculous. Don’t mess the midwives about they are Already extremely under resourced and under pressure. Someone else could have had the appointment which would probably just go to waste if you cancel short notice and extremely unnecessarily.

FoleyHuck · 13/10/2023 03:26

In the nicest way OP, get a grip. Cancelling an appointment at short notice for such a ridiculous reason is not fair on the Midwives or other patients waiting for appointments.

Speak to your midwife about getting help for your anxiety whilst you're there.

Labradoodlie · 13/10/2023 03:31

If you really wanted to do this you should have done it weeks ago so they could give the appointment to someone else.

If you do it tomorrow it will go to waste.

Stupid and selfish.

Potatomashed · 13/10/2023 03:49

Have you considered reclaiming Friday 13th? I read a thing earlier talking about how it was seen as bad because of its association with ‘witchcraft’ which of course was basically just a vendetta against women.

13 because there are 13 lunar/menstrual cycles a year. Friday because it comes from the Norse god Freya who is the Norse version of Venus (a female deity).

Cowlover89 · 13/10/2023 04:18

That would be ridiculous

HoppingPavlova · 13/10/2023 04:57

Completely ridiculous, and mucking healthcare professionals schedules and time about is pretty poor behaviour. It would be completely understandable if it clashed with, say a hospital appointment you have been given for another child, but simply because you don’t like the date on the calendar, nope.

Ilefttownonsaturday · 13/10/2023 05:12

Do you think you're mature & rational enough to be a parent?

PurBal · 13/10/2023 05:13

Don’t cancel. As PP said it’s a waste of resources and you’ll only have to wait for another appointment.

Please tell your midwife though. Ask for a referral to perinatal mental health. If your anxiety is stopping you from attending routine medical appointments that are in the interest of yours and your baby’s health then I’d suggest it was quite severe.

Hygeelady · 13/10/2023 05:34

Sorry OP but this is ridiculous! Go to the appointment...

Issummernearlyover · 13/10/2023 06:06

It's just a date. My cousins, sisters, were killed in RTCs, 20 years apart, on Friday 16th. You could argue that that date is unlucky. Go to the appointment and tell the midwife about your anxiety.

Olika · 13/10/2023 06:38

Ridiculous

guild · 13/10/2023 06:47

Midwives are busy. Please don't waste their time.

buckingmad · 13/10/2023 06:50

My DH missed our 20 week scan because the only day they could book us in he was away with work (army). I really tried to get it moved but they just didn’t have the resources. If I then found out someone didn’t turn up on a day he could have done cause it was Friday 13th I would be so pissed! And I have a lot of sympathy for people who have anxiety/superstitions as my Mum suffered awfully with OCD.

sarahc336 · 13/10/2023 06:55

I suggest you go to the appointment and then tell them how anxious you are and they can refer you to perinatal services op, your thinking makes me think your struggling with anxiety quite bad. It's quite common in pregnancy, please don't cancel though.

SallySunrise · 13/10/2023 07:05

No, don't cancel. If there's any problems with the baby, those problems would still exist a few days later. Finding out sooner rather than later is always best. You know it'd have nothing to do with the date.

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georgiablueberr · 13/10/2023 11:06

Thankyou to the ladies that weren't rude. Before being an absolute rude human being and bashing someone for the anxiety's that they already know r ridiculous maybe consider they aren't having a good time at the moment and you being a rude inconsiderate person could send them over the edge. I am aware about midwife's and resources ect and wasting time however if I was genuinely unwell no one would bash me then.... but because it's a mental illness I'm in the wrong .

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georgiablueberr · 13/10/2023 11:07

Oh and if it makes you rude people happy I am going as I don't want to waste there time and I want to know bubbas okay

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Thesearmsofmine · 13/10/2023 11:08

Surely not going will make you more anxious. Going to your appointment will mean that you will be able to speak to a medical professional /!; depending on how far along you are; hear heartbeat etc

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georgiablueberr · 13/10/2023 11:09

Yes I'm going to go as reading the comments that were nice I know that today is just a date and I'm going to reclaim it as a lucky day in my head

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georgiablueberr · 13/10/2023 11:10

Sorry for my angry response back I just don't take kindly to people mocking mental illness , when I am already aware it's ridiculous I don't need to be asked am I mature enough to be a parents that's horribke

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SM4713 · 13/10/2023 11:22

PLEASE speak to the midwife and your GP about getting yourself support for your mental health. I'm glad you are going to your appointment.

OP- Yes, there were some rude comments, but people are also annoyed that you planned to cancel the day before the appointment, rather than when it was booked in! Also, you do come across as rather young 'to know bubbas ok!' Please do get some help though and best of luck with the appointment today.