On the edge of having an abortion due to hyperemesis

[inquisitiveinga]

Hi everyone,

Apologies for not replying in another thread I made, I've been in and out of hospital and life has become very blurry.

I'm 8 weeks with my second HG pregnancy and wish I could knock on deaths door and plead with the devil to get this over and done with. I'm on ondansetron and cyclizine but the nausea is still rife and giving me shear hell. I've been hospitalised and given IV fluids and anti emetics but I can feel myself getting back to that level of awfulness again.

I've rang BPAS twice and had a councilling session today. I have an appointment with the nurse tomorrow to talk it through to it's finality and I'm now pretty sure I just want it all to end. I've got a 5 year old who is just stuck infront of the TV when he's home from school and a partner who is burnt out and understandably so.

Equally I have this part of me that just wants something to pull me through this.

Any advice/kind thoughts will be greatly appreciated

Congratulations OP. Your a trooper well done 👏😊

Congratulations, @inquisitiveinga

That's a lovely happy ending. 💐

i also didn’t realise it was an old post .. congratulations on the safe arrival and making it through months of misery

It’s not selfish OP. If anything it is UNselfish. You are thinking about your lovely little boy who needs you and your partner who needs his GF and mother of his existing kid to be healthy. Existing children and the mother’s health must always take priority.
Have seen this story ended well. But would not judge a woman for making a different choice.

Oh huge congratulations!!!

I read the first couple of posts then noticed the dates and hoped there was a happy update.

I am so pleased for you.

I had hyperemesis too and it was deeply traumatic, I wish there was better support for women going through it.

Sending love to anyone reading this thread and feeling so ill it is hard to comprehend how to get through the next day

I had it during one pregnancy but not the others, I lost a lot of weight as constantly sick. Did not have it during the others. I never considered termination, tbh, that would never enter my mind. At 12 weeks it eased off. The thought that I would not have that child due to HG is much worse.

Congratulations OP!!

This has made me cry. I went through this and it really pushed me to the edge. My beautiful, caring boy is now 13 and he is my world and I would agree he was worth every ounce of vomit too. Thanks for your update…. 🩷

I joined a Facebook support group. Think it was called pregnancy sickness support. It really helped me get through and my second HG baby has just finished secondary school

Wow congratulations!! And well done for powering through!!! I have a fear of vomit so can't even begin to imagine what you went through, however what an amazing reward at the end. X

You will have walks with your family again, and there will be two little ones on them. You’re 8 weeks in, don’t give up. I didn’t do a whole lot of parenting in pregnancies as I was too tired and miserable, we’d go on holiday and I’d spend most of the day in bed. The kids love each other, and the oldest has asked for more babies lots of times. Take it one day at a time.

@inquisitiveinga congratulations and so pleased for you that it’s all behind you. I also responded to your thread and at the time I was pregnant with HG too- I also now have a daughter. Seeing this thread reminded me of how much we survived but yet how it all feels so manageable now when blessed with the little ones.

thabks For updating your thread.

Me neither, and it stuck with me all day and I had to come back. Great update. I did not want to sound preachy but it would be a terrible mistake to terminate for this. We are women and very strong, we have to be.

I was so sick that my stomach muscles were strained and green acid was coming out. I couldn’t even tolerate food smells. If anyone sees this thread, please stay strong.

Haven’t got any advice or words of wisdom to add.
Just wanted to say that I had HG so I completely understand what you’re going through. So no judgment from me you do whatever you decide is best for you.

Ah sorry just saw the update!
huge congratulations!

@inquisitiveinga also commented on your post back in the trenches of hyperemesis. Currently sat feeding my almost 7 week old and feel so glad and lucky to be able to say that. I can confirm though, after 2 hyperemesis pregnancies that I’m done! Sending love to anybody currently suffering, please please please see your GP and midwife. The support (and medication!) is out there xx

Congratulations @inquisitiveinga and @Hsanderson13

If anyone comes across this thread in future, desperately, miserably searching for help with Hyperemisis, the charity Pregnancy Sickness Support can provide emotional, medical, practical and legal support and advice.

And one thing really worth knowing if you are suffering - under The Maternity Act 1999, your employer must record pregnancy related sickness separately to your other sick leave, and cannot use it in disciplinary action against you.