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room sharing after 6 month?

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ai38 · 20/08/2023 08:47

If you have space in your bedroom for a regular cot/ next 2 me forever, would/do you room share with your DC after 6 months or it's better for babies to sleep in their own room after 6 months?

For context, we are expecting DC1 in December. We have a spare room for them to move in after 6 months, but I am not sure if mentally I would be ready for that. The reason I am thinking about this is because it will have a bearing on our decision about which bedside crib/cot to buy now. Our current options are:

Bedside crib (for first 6 months)+ regular cot in their own room (after 6 months)
Next2 me forever/or some other bigger cot in our room (from birth to 6 month+)

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aSofaNearYou · 20/08/2023 08:56

People feel very differently about this - personally I was keen for them to be in their room so I could go back to not tiptoeing around and feeling like I couldn't turn over in the night in case I woke them up.

WandaWonder · 20/08/2023 08:59

To me own room, we needed sleep

OdeToBarney · 20/08/2023 09:18

We shared a room until just before a year, but in the end we were disturbing each other. DD slept so much better in her own room!

SistersNotCisters · 20/08/2023 09:28

Ours were in our room for well over a year. I don't think I'd be exaggerating if I said they would have all (3) been a good 18 months. No real reason. Just felt more secure that way. We also could get them easier for night breastfeeds. First few months was Moses basket beside the bed (would have had a next to me crib if they were an affordable thing back then) then it was a cot nearby.

All children are happy well adjusted and secure teens who have never insisted on sharing our bed growing up (unless those nights we drag em in for snuggles) we never had any issues getting them in their own rooms either. It was exciting and they loved them from day one.

Do what YOU feel is right for you. And the child of course.

trevthecat · 20/08/2023 09:33

Our youngest was in with us till about 9m, he didn't sleep great so I found it easier. But he was small and still in the next to me

Owjrbvr · 20/08/2023 09:41

DD moved to her own room at 7 months whereas DS was more like a year. It’s easier to keep them in with you if they’re waking a lot and you won’t necessarily feel ready at 6 months

gotthearse · 20/08/2023 09:47

You'll just know when it's time, either you or the baby will get pissed off with sharing and that will be it. Both mine stayed in longer than 6m but they didn't tend to wake when I came in the room. Some babies wake a lot and like a snuggle with you, in which case it's less distance to stagger in the night, others want a quick cuddle and then back to their own space. I had one of each.

LG93 · 20/08/2023 09:51

Both mine moved at around 6 months as we found they were disturbing us more and we were disturbing them. It also meant with our son who was a pretty poor sleeper that we could do 'shifts' in his room with him so the other could actually get some sleep.

Cheeesus · 20/08/2023 09:54

Could one of those options do either scenario?

Duttercup · 20/08/2023 09:54

It's something I really wouldn't worry about in advance. You have no idea what their/your sleep will be like and you can always just pick up another cot for not much on Marketplace if you want a different solution after a bit.

Mine stayed in with me until 15 months and had 3 different cots in that time, simply because I had nowhere else to put her.

Greeneyegirl · 20/08/2023 09:56

I looked at my baby at four months and thought "you need to get out our room" I hated her being there. You can't go to the loo in the night, can't get ready in your own room, can't speak to your husband, can't roll over in bed, can't have the door open or the morning light wakes them so you sweat all night. It is horrendous.

As it happened her room wasn't ready so we weren't able to move her there until seven months and the mental toll it took was awful. She also went from sleeping through to waking more frequently the older she got and more aware she was off us in the room.

TomWambsgansSwans · 20/08/2023 10:19

Kindly, you're overthinking. I remember crying when DD was a few days old thinking about having to go back after maternity leave! 'Leave tomorrow's problems for tomorrow' is pretty solid advice with babies as things change so fast.

You won't be ready for the baby to leave at first but by six months you might be happy to have some space back. We went on a holiday with a weeny bedroom so DD went in a room on her own and we all just slept so much more deeply after that!

Duttercup · 20/08/2023 11:23

@TomWambsgansSwans I cried when mine was a month old about her starting school. Sat on the sofa sobbing 'there's only 47 months left, then they'll take her away from me...'. Hormones are wild 😂

Koalaslippers · 20/08/2023 11:36

I kept mine in our room until they stopped night feeds (both just under a year). It made it easier. I didn't have any problems with disturbing them. Keep it flexible and see how things go.

snoopy18 · 20/08/2023 14:15

Depends on the child.Son is 4 and has bad night terrors so one of us still sleeps in his room else he wakes up and comes into our bedroom & then none of us get sleep.At 6 months I was still BF he would wake through the night & it was easier to co sleep so that worked for us.Every child is different you can’t really anticipate how that will go until you get to that point. Good luck!

ABCmom91 · 20/08/2023 14:19

I had planned 6 months with out last. But I just didn’t feel ready at the time. We had a next 2 me crib and at 7 months he started pulling himself up and doing ninja moves in the next 2 me lol so that night moved him to his own room

MasterCherry · 20/08/2023 16:31

I think it's one of those things that's very difficult to predict until you get there. We have a cot with that comes right up against our bed with the side off (the cot and bed mattresses come up to exactly the same height), so the baby is right beside me, but also in her own space. I like this arrangement. Later on we will move the cot away from our bed (hopefully into her own room if we've moved to a bigger place by then), lower the mattress, and turn it into a toddler bed as it was for her older sisters.

LeopardLover · 20/08/2023 16:56

Just do what feels right to you. Don't let others sway your decision! My son is two and he's still in our room, in an IKEA cot with one side off (like a big next to me). He's never been a great sleeper so it's just easier for everyone. He wakes up upset if he's alone! I couldn't imagine putting him in another room before 12 months, but all kids are different.

I'm hoping to introduce his own bed in the coming months so the new baby can take his spot next spring 😅

TropicalTrama · 20/08/2023 17:03

Our room fits the big cot but we moved both of ours out at around 4 months as that was when they were having a 7pm bedtime, no night feeds and they became much more sensitive to noise so were all just disturbing each other.

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ai38 · 20/08/2023 20:25

Thank you all for sharing your experience. I know I might be overthinking but this forum is the only place I turn to for advice as all my family live abroad plus nobody in my close circle of friends here has had a baby recently. So I am totally new to the whole pregnancy/parenting.

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Ss32 · 20/08/2023 21:48

My little girl stayed in our room until she was 2 (option 1 bed wise). It just worked for us so we didn’t move her. She was bfed and self weaned at 14 months, from then she pretty much slept through consistently. For us, there was never any issue waking/disturbing each other.

TeddyBeans · 20/08/2023 22:02

My son stayed with us til he was 10 months old and then moved into his own room. My daughter will be in with us until she starts sleeping through the night consistently. She'll be moving into my son's room and I don't want her disturbing him during the night as he's in school now

LokiCokey · 20/08/2023 22:06

For me it was about how often I was still feeding in the night and the ease of having them near me in my room to do it. Mine moved around 8/9 months to their own rooms. We were lucky though that our big cot fitted in our bedroom!

Aozora13 · 20/08/2023 22:12

I can’t exactly remember but think my first two moved into their own rooms about 8 or 9 months. DC3 was a truly horrible sleeper so stayed with me until she could sleep more than 2 hours together - maybe 15/16 mo. She started in the next to me then we moved the cot bed in. Had to move other furniture out but I was buggered if I was getting up hourly in the night and traipsing about the house! And she ended up in bed with me most nights anyway.

It’s very individual so I’d recommend just seeing how it goes, I loved the next to me for when they were really little then we have a cot bed that does them through to 3+.

Broodywuz · 20/08/2023 22:17

My dd turns 2 next month and still in our room. She still breastfed at night until fairly recently, it just seemed to work best for us. First DC was about 18 months when she moved into her own room

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