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room sharing after 6 month?

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ai38 · 20/08/2023 08:47

If you have space in your bedroom for a regular cot/ next 2 me forever, would/do you room share with your DC after 6 months or it's better for babies to sleep in their own room after 6 months?

For context, we are expecting DC1 in December. We have a spare room for them to move in after 6 months, but I am not sure if mentally I would be ready for that. The reason I am thinking about this is because it will have a bearing on our decision about which bedside crib/cot to buy now. Our current options are:

Bedside crib (for first 6 months)+ regular cot in their own room (after 6 months)
Next2 me forever/or some other bigger cot in our room (from birth to 6 month+)

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 20/08/2023 22:19

I have a big next to me cot baby is 7m old. He's sleeping well now I'm now breatfeeding, and he is moody at might he wakes me up with little moans etc but doenst need me to comfort so I think he is ready for his own room soon! It's also difficult to do stuff in my own room in the evenings, like sort my clothes out etc. I'd like to be able to do this and chill in my own room in the evenings soon so will think about moving him with a baby monitor soon. But if I miss him I'll move him back!
He used to cry for milk when he woke up
In morning but the last month he's been able to play in his cot when he wakes and usually wakes me up with cooing and playing noises after a while. I don't know what time he wakes before me (I don't set an alarm!) but I wonder if he's more able to not wake me as he can see me- if he can't see me he's more likely to cry.

Who know what your baby's personality and feeding needs will be at 6m though op! You might even be co sleeping

Bubop · 20/08/2023 22:19

DC1 was over a year before we moved him to his own room. My 8 month old is still in with us and we have no plans to move him anytime soon.

I’d get the bigger cot then you can see how things go. Neither of mine are easily disturbed once they are asleep and I feel much more relaxed when they are nearby. Other babies might wake up at any little noise and sleep better on their own from 6 months.

Don’t put pressure on yourself either way, you’ll know what’s best for you and your baby when the time comes.

Flittingaboutagain · 20/08/2023 22:22

Personally I think if I'm lucky enough to have my children in my life for the next forty years then putting them in their own room at six months seems crazy! Breastfeeding both of mine and eldest only went into own room because we couldn't fit bedside crib for baby and cot for toddler in our room. Much easier to keep baby in with you if you plan to do baby led nursing as it's not recommended to night wean until 18m although oldest night weaned himself at 16m.

AnneLovesGilbert · 20/08/2023 22:32

DD moved out after she turned 2. She had a room for nursery stuff until lockdown hit and DH needed it as an office. She was around 1 when that happened so hard to know what we’d have done without the wfh factor. I’ll be in no hurry to move DS even though he’s so far a much better sleeper than DD.

It’s so personal, don’t put any pressure on yourself to decide.

When DD outgrew the next to me we bought a cot that turns into a toddler bed. I was so pleased by our excellent forward planning.

It was massive and she fucking hated it. I took it to pieces after a couple of months and donated it to a baby bank and had her on a mattress on the floor. So much better for all of us. People on here are horrified by that sort of arrangement.

Millions of people in other countries and cultures are equally horrified by infants sleeping in different rooms to their parents and have floor beds, family beds, all sorts. You can’t tell when you look at an adult what they slept on as a baby or where.

You’ll find what works for you and your baby in time.

Cowlover89 · 20/08/2023 22:33

My son was in his own room at 12 weeks. We both slept better for it.

Runnerinthenight · 20/08/2023 22:44

You will work it out when the time comes - don't overthink it.

Had a cot in the room with DC1 - an older mum gave me a tip to put the Moses basket in it so they will be used to the cot sides, which worked great! Was much handier for breastfeeding and we also co-slept quite a bit. Only moved them to their own room when they were 20 months to make room for #2...

#2 ended up in our room until they were 4, and had to move out to make room for #3!! And #3 only moved to their own room aged 4 and a half, before they started school!! Not one of them ever had any difficulty with moving to their own room, in spite of the dire predictions of friends and family! I felt a bit offended lol!!

ShineBright1209 · 20/08/2023 22:44

All 4 of mine were in their own rooms by time they were 4 months.
I suppose it depends on baby though, mine were all good sleepers and slept through from 8-10 weeks old so didn’t see any reason to keep them in the room with me.
Also I had a wooden crib so as soon as they were rolling over they kept getting arms/legs stuck in the bars so it was best to put them in cot in own room.

Winnipeggy · 20/08/2023 22:46

It was a little hard but she was ready for her own space and so was I. You might find your evenings become very important to you and you need space to reset. And it certainly doesn't do baby any harm to be in their own space.

Dropthedonkey · 20/08/2023 22:50

I moved ds1 at about 9 months and it was a total pain really as I had to wake up fully to walk to him room if he woke for a feed, rather than waking enough to do a feed and fall asleep again! Hopefully yours might not still feed in the night by then 🤞

ineedafairygodmother · 20/08/2023 22:50

Going completely against the grain.... mine was in her own room at 3 months, she'd always slept through from the start.
Don't overthink it, just do what's right for you when it happens

Careerdilemma · 20/08/2023 22:59

In some countries the advice is to roomshare for 12 months to further minimise SIDS risk. That's what we did.

ditalini · 20/08/2023 23:06

We had a 1 bed flat so room shared for years. I wouldn't have by choice but it was ok.

Ds1 would have his own room when we were away anywhere from 6 months on and it didnt faze him in the least.

He was a completely bomb-proof sleeper (when he did finally get to sleep) though. You could go into the bedroom, switch the light on and potter about and he wouldn't stir.

Horses for courses - I don't think it makes a difference one way or another in the long term so suit yourselves.

anotheranotheranotheranother · 20/08/2023 23:16

I moved mine when they were ready.

The youngest was 10 months and the oldest was 7 fucking years

I don't think it's as simple as doing it by date

rickandmorts · 20/08/2023 23:53

As I type this my 9 month old is asleep between me and dp 😂 she never slept in the next to me which I wasn't that bothered about anyway as I love having her close. I find it really easy having her in bed and I barely wake up when she wants feeding now (still bf). She's really settled and content and sleeps well.

EdieH · 22/08/2023 11:48

We had a bit of an issue with this, as my daughter had to go in a spica cast at 4 months old, and she ended up staying in our room until she was around 9 months old. Our first went into his own room at exactly 6 months on and to be honest the transition for them both was no different. We were fortunate enough that we had space for a cot (with a squeeze) in our room. It doesn't really make any difference to them, it's whatever you feel comfortable with!

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