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When did you announce your pregnancy on social media?

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123jez · 03/08/2023 13:48

Hey all 😊

When did you all announce your pregnancies on social media? And what was your reason for doing so at that time?

Thanks so much!

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apapuchi · 03/08/2023 23:35

Wow there's such snobbery about this, not sure if that's the right word but it's as close as I can conjure. As if it's attention seeking or common or 'vulgar' to share excitement with those around you who you may not see in person. It doesn't make you better to not share this, all consideration of protecting privacy aside (assuming you wouldn't have thingsvisible to those you felt it was risky or inappropriate to see such news). Nobody is compelled to do it.

Some people like to share their happy news, it may be the only happy news they've had for years. Some have family or friends spread far and wide. Both apply to me and I shared first baby's expectant arrival at 12 weeks and second at 20. Yes you grow and change a bit, maybe social media and shared happiness becomes less important, but there is nothing wrong with sharing when you're secure and happy in doing so.

thebloodycatwontstopmeowing · 03/08/2023 23:40

Never and never posted anything about my kids. Social media don't know they exist.

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:02

I wouldn't. Chances are there are more than a few women struggling with miscarriage or infertility who will see it. Honestly never understood the point of this type of bragging. I have at least 2-3 friends who can't conceive for various reasons and those are just the ones I know about.

Mutabiliss · 04/08/2023 07:06

When I had the baby. I couldn't bring myself to before, in case anything went wrong.

Emmamoo89 · 04/08/2023 07:34

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:02

I wouldn't. Chances are there are more than a few women struggling with miscarriage or infertility who will see it. Honestly never understood the point of this type of bragging. I have at least 2-3 friends who can't conceive for various reasons and those are just the ones I know about.

I wouldn't class it as bragging. I just let them know before I posted on Facebook.

Emmamoo89 · 04/08/2023 07:36

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:02

I wouldn't. Chances are there are more than a few women struggling with miscarriage or infertility who will see it. Honestly never understood the point of this type of bragging. I have at least 2-3 friends who can't conceive for various reasons and those are just the ones I know about.

I shared it because I was happy and excited. I've been through 5 miscarriages and one suffering to conceive knows this. So they understand.

quietnightmare · 04/08/2023 07:37

Still haven't. Mine is a toddler

AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps · 04/08/2023 07:39

I didn't.

AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps · 04/08/2023 07:41

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:02

I wouldn't. Chances are there are more than a few women struggling with miscarriage or infertility who will see it. Honestly never understood the point of this type of bragging. I have at least 2-3 friends who can't conceive for various reasons and those are just the ones I know about.

Then why say anything on social media at all....?

Been on holiday? Well there's people struggling and can't afford to go on holiday for the last 8 years....

Got married? Some people are struggling through divorce or extremely lonely

Had a lovely meal at a restaurant? Don't you know there's a COL crisis?

Met your mother for cake? Some people might have dead mothers....

Went to work and had a stressful day? Jeeez some people just lost their job...

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:41

@Emmamoo89 it's unlikely you know about every friend dealing with miscarriage or infertility on social media to tell them. And it is bragging like most social media posts about that fantastic holiday or that expensive meal. The only difference is this one will cut deep for some people. I'm not saying those who do it are being nasty, but they are wrapped up in their own 'joy' and failing to think about others.

Peony654 · 04/08/2023 07:43

Never, out of sensitivity for friends who’ve had losses or fertility struggles

Peony654 · 04/08/2023 07:44

AliceTheCamelHasFiveHumps · 04/08/2023 07:41

Then why say anything on social media at all....?

Been on holiday? Well there's people struggling and can't afford to go on holiday for the last 8 years....

Got married? Some people are struggling through divorce or extremely lonely

Had a lovely meal at a restaurant? Don't you know there's a COL crisis?

Met your mother for cake? Some people might have dead mothers....

Went to work and had a stressful day? Jeeez some people just lost their job...

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Exactly! It’s all bragging.

Emmamoo89 · 04/08/2023 07:45

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:41

@Emmamoo89 it's unlikely you know about every friend dealing with miscarriage or infertility on social media to tell them. And it is bragging like most social media posts about that fantastic holiday or that expensive meal. The only difference is this one will cut deep for some people. I'm not saying those who do it are being nasty, but they are wrapped up in their own 'joy' and failing to think about others.

I know how it feels. I'm very open on social media about my losses. I'm not doing it be nasty or brag. I'm just doing it out of joy. My friends and family are happy to see my posts. It's not my fault that some go through loss or can't conceive. The ones who've been through lt are happy for me. That's why I let them know in advance because I was thinking of them

Emmamoo89 · 04/08/2023 07:47

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:41

@Emmamoo89 it's unlikely you know about every friend dealing with miscarriage or infertility on social media to tell them. And it is bragging like most social media posts about that fantastic holiday or that expensive meal. The only difference is this one will cut deep for some people. I'm not saying those who do it are being nasty, but they are wrapped up in their own 'joy' and failing to think about others.

And I do know. I'm very close with all my friends.

WandaWonder · 04/08/2023 07:49

I don't remember ever doing so

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:56

@Emmamoo89 I don't think you're being nasty. Before I got to know the real struggles one of my friends with infertility was going through, I would not have thought twice about posting. Now I'm super mindful of telling her and others my good news, because I understand how deep it cuts.

You may be close with your friends but believe me, you do not know what they are going through with infertility and miscarriages. Many people are generally not open about this level of pain. They minimise things and put on a brave face.

Pollywoddles · 04/08/2023 08:53

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:41

@Emmamoo89 it's unlikely you know about every friend dealing with miscarriage or infertility on social media to tell them. And it is bragging like most social media posts about that fantastic holiday or that expensive meal. The only difference is this one will cut deep for some people. I'm not saying those who do it are being nasty, but they are wrapped up in their own 'joy' and failing to think about others.

This! I unfollowed one friend when she proceeded to post daily updates on her pregnancy and weekly bump photos (I had just lost a baby).

The month after I gave birth another friend posted that they would have been due but suffered a miscarriage some months previously, I had no idea she was even pregnant. She was one month behind me. I was so happy that I hadn’t put anything on SM. I would have hated to make her feel worse even though I know she would have been happy for me.

Unless you’ve suffered a loss I don’t think you understand feelings you have when you see posts like this on social media. Even if you are happy for someone it can still really make you feel like shit and I’d never want to do that to someone.

GRog93 · 04/08/2023 08:58

We announced it in social media when she arrived 🙋🏼‍♀️

yogasaurus · 04/08/2023 08:58

I don’t have any fertility issues but find constant bump updates irritating and a reason to unfollow. Same goes for when people make it their whole personality and have Mummy-to-be in their bios etc.

Each to their own, of course, but I unfollow.

Miscellaneousme · 04/08/2023 09:02

Didn’t.

nonmerci99 · 04/08/2023 09:13

I never did. I have an Insta but announcements about my personal life aren’t my bag.

StillWantingADog · 04/08/2023 09:21

Never, though I announced their arrival. There may have been some inadvertent “bump” pics shown but not deliberately.

friends were obviously told, when I saw them or perhaps by text. My mother would have done the rounds with her side of the family.

Emmamoo89 · 04/08/2023 09:32

RiderofRohan · 04/08/2023 07:56

@Emmamoo89 I don't think you're being nasty. Before I got to know the real struggles one of my friends with infertility was going through, I would not have thought twice about posting. Now I'm super mindful of telling her and others my good news, because I understand how deep it cuts.

You may be close with your friends but believe me, you do not know what they are going through with infertility and miscarriages. Many people are generally not open about this level of pain. They minimise things and put on a brave face.

Oh my friend has told me everything and I've been very open with my pain and struggled too. We are very close. I don't minimise anything. I don't think it helps.

Emmamoo89 · 04/08/2023 09:33

Struggles*

seven201 · 04/08/2023 09:40

I struggled with secondary infertility for over five years and those pregnancy announcements were so painful to see. I didn't do one for dc1 and won't be for dc2 - I'm 26 weeks now.

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