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Birth presents for dads

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Devon2245 · 31/07/2023 10:12

Hi everyone,

Now that I’m coming to the end of the third trimester and starting to think about the birth ( eek 😬) I’d really like to get my husband a present from bump and me to say thank you for everything he’s done this pregnancy - for context, I’ve been really ill with hyperemesis throughout and couldn’t have coped without him. He’s done all the cooking, cleaning, racing around to get whatever I needed and been an overall god send so I’d really like to get him something special. I also know he’s gotten me something for after the birth so want to surprise him even more!

Did anyone else get their partners a present or have any inspiration for me? I’d love to get him something sentimental but am just drawing a blank!

Thank you x

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bravefox · 31/07/2023 10:14

Er... I gave him a human I'd grown inside me for 9 months?

Mummy08m · 31/07/2023 10:18

My dh got himself a new coffee grinding machine around the time dd was born which sparked a lot of joy for him. He's not bothered by sentimental stuff, sees it as clutter (tbh so do I to some extent). He didn't get much sleep for months (ok, years) after that so the coffee came in handy.

I agree with pp above - it really ought to be him buying you presents.

35965a · 31/07/2023 10:18

Yeah the baby is the present.

Mummy08m · 31/07/2023 10:19

Ps you can also get matching dad and baby clothing- I got dh a t shirt and dd a matching onesie for her first Christmas.

BewareBends · 31/07/2023 10:23

bravefox · 31/07/2023 10:14

Er... I gave him a human I'd grown inside me for 9 months?

This. I mean, it’s not as though your hyperemesis etc is completely unrelated to him. You’re sick as a dog because you’re incubating your joint baby.

ConnieTucker · 31/07/2023 10:25

He’s done all the cooking, cleaning, racing around to get whatever I needed and been an overall god
I don't want to rain on your parade but that’s just life. That's not an overall god. That's just being a husband. You appear to have low standards. It will benefit you hugely moving forward to raise them. Don't give out medals for basic standards of decency.

monpetitlapin · 31/07/2023 10:28

It's nice to give gifts to tell your loved ones you appreciate them.
But I'd think about what you know he likes, what he's into, what hobbies he has or aesthetics he likes, and let that guide you rather than generic tat suggested by randoms on the internet.

TomatoSandwiches · 31/07/2023 10:28

No need to over thank him for doing what he should anyway op, let's not start a new trend of making a big deal of new fathers doing the bare minimum, the bar is already so low.

Spottypineapple · 31/07/2023 12:47

The feminist in me thinks that you growing a baby, changing your body for life, pushing it out along with everything thing that follows is enough! Him doing some housework and cooking is what he should be doing anyway. I'm sure you've stepped up similarly when he's been ill.

RancidOldHag · 31/07/2023 12:48

Isn't the traditional present a cigar?

You can get chocolate ones for non-smokers

Alloveragain3 · 31/07/2023 13:12

I hear you OP, it sounds like he's been really supportive and understanding and you want to let him know how grateful and appreciative you are.

Hard to know without knowing his personality but what about a spa day / massage, meal out at a nice restaurant or a "best dad" mug or beer glass?

Peony654 · 31/07/2023 13:13

my DH does all that anyway; not sure it needs celebrating.

carrot87 · 31/07/2023 13:26

Why shouldn't they be celebrated ?

PickledScrump · 31/07/2023 13:36

Matching dad and baby T-shirt/baby grow and give it to him at the hospital for babies first outfit.

Crunchingleaf · 31/07/2023 13:38

I grew our beautiful babies inside me for 9 months. He gets to be a daddy to them.

LondonQueen · 31/07/2023 13:39

The usual mumsnet DU hatred is out in full force I see. My husband bought me a bracelet for my bump present, I bought him a watch. Both sentimental items that can be worn daily yet have meaning.

Rainbowbaby13 · 31/07/2023 13:41

I got my other half a T-shirt and our baby boy had the same baby grow he loved it I think it's a really nice thing to do. I don't know why there's so many haters on this thread. It's not exactly the blokes fault he can't have a baby 😂

Congratulations by the way 🥳

Riapia · 31/07/2023 13:51

All the hard work is in front of you both.
The time to celebrate is when they eventually leave home.
😉😁😁😁

carrot87 · 31/07/2023 13:52

I'll be giving my partner a card from me and a little something he's been wanting but not been able to get. I couldn't of had this baby if it wasn't for him. He's put in just as much effort worked his absolute arse off to provide and support me and the kids when I've not been able to, so why not celebrate him too just because I'm the one that's pregnant. I want him to know he is appreciated and been thought of. it's not all about me it's about us.

Rainbowbaby13 · 31/07/2023 13:56

carrot87 · 31/07/2023 13:52

I'll be giving my partner a card from me and a little something he's been wanting but not been able to get. I couldn't of had this baby if it wasn't for him. He's put in just as much effort worked his absolute arse off to provide and support me and the kids when I've not been able to, so why not celebrate him too just because I'm the one that's pregnant. I want him to know he is appreciated and been thought of. it's not all about me it's about us.

💙💙

CorBlimeyGovnr · 31/07/2023 14:00

I think it’s nice to thank partners when they’re nice to you but 🤷‍♀️

3luckystars · 31/07/2023 14:02

The baby is the present.

Buy a voucher for a meal out? At least you will get to use it too.

okiedokie1 · 31/07/2023 21:51

Spottypineapple · 31/07/2023 12:47

The feminist in me thinks that you growing a baby, changing your body for life, pushing it out along with everything thing that follows is enough! Him doing some housework and cooking is what he should be doing anyway. I'm sure you've stepped up similarly when he's been ill.

Yes and perhaps he gets the OP occasional gifts to show appreciation. Why shouldn't women do the same for men?

shelbaby · 31/07/2023 21:56

Absolutely not! Ur doing the hard work not him!