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How long did it take you to get pg after a miscarriage

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summermummy · 26/02/2008 16:55

Hi everyone - I am killing time waiting for a D&C tomorrow after an mmc and am determined to try and be positive (will see how I'm doing at 10.30 tomorrow though). I am trying to focus on picking myself up and dusting myself down - so..if you have unlucky enough to have a miscarriage, how long did it take you to see a + test again ?

My dh is also really upset (perhaps more than me because I always felt deep down something was wrong with this pregnancy but he didn't have this advantage) and I'd like to be able to give him some hope too.

(and good luck with your pregnancies!)

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HelenCS · 26/02/2008 17:39

Hi Summermummy

I had a mc nov 23rd last year and im now over 9 weeks pg with my forst baby due in october

My partner also 'had a feeling' at the beginning on the pregnancy that i lost that something was wrong and he was also very upset but being there for eachother helps alot!!

A warning tho.. they do say wait for at least 1 cycle to pass so you no your dates else it can be all be a bit confusing, your first period will take about 5 weeks to come but in this time you will probably turn pg test '+' as thats what happened to me on a few occasions as you still have hcg in you system so if you do think you get pg in your first cycle have a blood test, dont rely on pregnancy test results as they are likely to be inaccurate.
And just because its happened once dont think that will be the case in all your pregnancies

and good luck!! a d & c definitly isnt as daunting as it sounds, i was 19 when i had mine and the hospital staff are very caring and considerate, the procedure is very short.

xxxx

Oblomov · 26/02/2008 17:50

Sorry this has happened to you summermumy. I too had a mmc, and a d&C in Nov 07, and dh was very upset by it and din't want to try again. And it did take longer than normal for my first period to come. I am not ( I don't think, but there is a posssiblity) pregnant at the mo.
One cycle is recommended.
All the best for tomorrow. Our thoughts are with you.

sweetkitty · 26/02/2008 17:52

summermummy - firstly so sorry for you loss, FWIW I had a natural mc in August but if it were to happen again I would have a D&C.

I mc 12th August, bled for about 2 weeks then had a period about a week and a half after that, was about the 7th September if I remember rightly so my body must have ovulated whilst still bleeding which I though was really odd.

Had another period 4th October and had a BFP on 31st October. So it took 2 periods for me to get pregnant. We didn't start having sex again until after my mc bleeding stopped but by then it was too late to catch that month.

Yes they do say have one true period after a mc before ttc again but techinically thats just for dates but when you have a scan half the time they change your date anyway so TBH I would say go for it when you want to.

I kind of became ttc obsessive I think it was my way of dealing with the grief, please allow yourself time to grieve for your lost baby too.

Theres a brilliant support thread called MC Avengers, 2008 is our year or something great for support and also once you are pregnant again a support group for those first wobbly weeks and beyond.

dizzydixies · 26/02/2008 17:57

I took a wee bit longer as first pg and mmc was unplanned and a shock, once over it and mentally well and ready to try again we did and was pg straight away 10 months later - waiting that long was by choice though there are lots of stories of people getting + almost straight away

see how you feel after tomorrow and take it one step at time, whats meant for you won't pass you by

am sorry for you and your dh's loss, I also had the 'something just not right' feeling and have since gone on to have 2 lovely dd's and a third baby due in July - it will happen and when it does the EPU clinic will take very good care of you - there is wonderful support on here

look after yourself and your dh

PortAndLemon · 26/02/2008 18:07

Seven months first time, six months second time.

Aubergenie · 26/02/2008 18:11

Sorry this has happened to you summermummy. It's just awful isn't it. I had a natural miscarriage in November and like sweetkitty I would definitely have a D&C if it happened again. I was 10+1 and had some bleeding so went for a scan and they found a sac but no fetal pole.

I had my period on 25th December. What I did find was that ovulation was really painfuland my cycle was a bit weird in the run up to my period but obviously it was all OK after that, as I am now around 9 weeks pregnant. And I'm 40, so I really didn't think it would happen so quickly!

Again, like sweetkitty, I was quite obsessive about TTC as I was desperate to be pregnant again. I think I needed a project to take my mind off what had happened.

I hope it goes as well as it can tomorrow. Make sure you take the time time look after yourself, relax, eat well and sleep as much as you need (or can), and don't rush back to work if you don't have to.

When it does happen again, those first few weeks being pregnant again are terrifying, so surround yourself with as much support as you can. My hospital has been really good, scanning me at 6 weeks and I've got another scan later this week, as well as my 12 week scan. I encourage you to ask the hospital to write to your GP telling him/her to refer you for an early scan when it does happen.

Good luck

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summermummy · 26/02/2008 19:06

Thanks everyone, really helping take my mind off it tonight and focus beyond this pregnancy.

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sweetkitty · 26/02/2008 20:26

Take it easy summermummy hope it goes as well as it can tomorrow.

I agree with Aubergenie, I'm nearly 21 weeks now and still worried about this pregnancy (I think I was v lucky having 2 beautiful girls before the mc) you should definitely get a reassurance scan between 6-8 weeks. I became v obsessive about coming pregnant maybe a bit too much but probably my way of coping.

redredrose · 26/02/2008 23:32

I had a mc and found out I was preg again just over a month later and had a baby boy in 2006 with no probs while preg with him. You will get early scans once you fall preg again because you had a mc with the last one it put's your mind at rest for a while but I know even with my early scan's I was still scared and over protective.

spugs · 27/02/2008 10:58

sorry to hear this has happened summermummy, i had a mc in may.like you it never felt particularly right for some reason. i had one period and then fell pregnant again, im now 36 weeks. good luck x

wildwind · 28/02/2008 17:45

Sorry it happened to you, summermummy, ,

If you want to try again it depends what you feel like after D& C. I remember that after my firts D&C it took about 2 months to fel right again ( although had quite heavy bloodloss before D&C). Op was actually a relief.

Got pregnant after 5 months, lost that one, too, but now 12 weeks and it only took 4 months to get pregnant again. So, when you, your body and your partner are ready nothing should stop you trying. Wishing you all the very best and the ability to hold onto hope. we had difficult times, but kep hoping for us and all ohers out there. .

JFly · 29/02/2008 09:07

Sorry to hear about your mc summer.

I'm like spugs: had an mc in May (possibly chemical pg as was very early and scans didn't show anything), had one period (don't think my period was very off schedule, but do think I ovulated early in the next cycle) and was pg again. Now 39 weeks with first baby....

Take the time you need to recover, both for your body and your mental health. For me, it was "get straight back on the horse" but I didn't have D&C, so experience for you may be different. But don't lose hope. Mcs are much more common than we all thought - until we had one ourselves.

milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 29/02/2008 13:28

After my 1st MC I conceived during the first cycle after it. Took 6mths after my 2nd and I am currently 7 weeks pregnant so no idea what will happen this time.

expatinscotland · 29/02/2008 13:29

missed MC, had ERPC and one period about 7 weeks later, then pregnant.

only 4 weeks so who knows if this one will stick.

expatinscotland · 29/02/2008 13:29

missed MC, had ERPC and one period about 7 weeks later, then pregnant.

only 4 weeks so who knows if this one will stick.

belgo · 29/02/2008 13:33

first m/c at 7 weeks. Took five months to becoame pregnant again.
second m/c at 6 weeks, then immediately pregnant again afterwards.

Good luck summermummy.

belgo · 29/02/2008 13:34

(congratulations expat, and good wishes for this one)

expatinscotland · 29/02/2008 14:48

thanks, belgo!

am i reading this correctly, are you pregnant again? hope so!

and major sticky vibes to you!

CantSleepWontSleep · 29/02/2008 14:54

expat - you're pregnant again . Did I miss an announcement, or are you just sneaking out the news? Congratulations .

summermummy - 7 months for me (took 3.5 yrs to conceive the one I lost, so that was good going!).

Katelyn · 29/02/2008 14:54

I miscarried in October and had a d and c also, my next period came in November and i never saw another. I'm now 4 months pregnant - good luck .

Katelyn

expatinscotland · 29/02/2008 15:09

I sneaked it.

Obviously, have a lot of reservations this time, because of my age (37), and having had missed m/c last time.

But it's beyond my control. Will just have to see how it goes and hope for the best.

Oblomov · 29/02/2008 15:11

WOW expat, I missed this. Hope everything goes o.k.

novice1 · 29/02/2008 15:13

Sorry to hear you news xx
I conceived in March 2007 and had a missed mc in May. Had a positive test again immediately afterwards, unfortunately another mc at 6wks. Blood test showed chromosomal abnormality (shock) but I was already pregnant again, so had an amnio at 15wks. All was well and I am now 32 wks and due at the end of April .
I felt as if we would never reach this point and every where I looked pregnant women were following me!! Keep at it, I'm sure you'll get there.

juliewoolie · 29/02/2008 15:24

summermummy I had a mmc and an eprc a few weeks ago. No idea what will happen next time round no sign of a period yet. The best advice I have been given is to go with the flow and just see what happens. We are doing this not using any contraceptives but am not doing tests willy nilly to see if anything has happened my body will get pregnant again when its ready.

Expat very glad to hear your news I followed all the threads last time round, wishing you many sticky baby vibes.

expatinscotland · 29/02/2008 15:26

Julie, hang in there! It can take a while to get a period after ERPC. I had mine on 10 December and didn't have a period until 26 January.

Hope you get one next year sometime!

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