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Majorly angry with the ward I'm on!!!

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highheavenn · 01/07/2023 21:27

Been on this ward since Thursday. I am 41 weeks.

Pessary didn't work.
The first gel didn't work.
I refused the second gel as I thought it was a waste of time.

I requested to get my waters broken however my waters naturally broke 10 minutes after telling the midwife.

It's been 14 hours since my waters broke baring in mind they are non stop. Including I lost my fat mucus plug straight after my waters broke.

It's been handover and the midwife's have seen every person on my floor and left me out 😭 I've not seen anyone all day!!! Everyone on my ward has had a pessary or a gel.. surely I'm high risk if my waters broke and it's nearly 24 hours!!! Just feel a bit left out tbh not a nice feeling.

No contractions yet either. Just feel very emotional

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Lipolass · 01/07/2023 21:30

Is there anyone with you? Can you or they speak to the midwife and ask for an examination/plan?
I hope things get moving soon 💐

Princesspeachee · 01/07/2023 21:31

Massive handhold I bet you're exhausted
I'd ring your buzzer and ask them what the fuck is going on.

Stuckinstressville · 01/07/2023 21:31

Can you get up or walk to the desk or just holler? Buzz? Be a pain. Don’t regret being a pain. Ever.

Glitterstars · 01/07/2023 21:32

Buzz them and ask them what is going on. Surely they have to do observations on you every 4 hours?

Princesspeachee · 01/07/2023 21:33

Has anyone actually checked you since waters broke? It doesn't sound right that you should be left alone

shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 01/07/2023 21:36

Just buzz them and ask

johsq20 · 01/07/2023 21:36

Definitely ask what's going on. Not the same, but when I was induced I was due to be taken down to have my waters broken as I was 42+2 & had 2 pessaries which didn't work. Luckily had my partner with me who was able to advocate and ask wtf was happening to speed things along.

ElizabethBest · 01/07/2023 21:39

Ok, is it 14 hours or nearly 24 hours? Are you experiencing contractions? regular fetal movements?

I know you are probably already exhausted and fed up, but your OP complains both that everyone else has the gel or pessary except you and says you refused it - it’s going to be a long road until you meet your baby, try not to get frustrated this early on.

I’d ring your call bell and ask the midwife what your next steps are, and if nobody has taken your obs, get them checked, as a starter.

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 01/07/2023 21:40

Walk up to the ward desk/reception bit and tell them it's been 14 hrs since your waters broke, no one's checked on you or baby, no one has outlined the plan, you'll be 24 hrs at 7am and want to know what will be happening if you haven't gone into Labour or had the baby by then.

kingking · 01/07/2023 21:52

If it has been 14 hours since your wares broke, you are absolutely fine.

With my first pregnancy my waters broke late Thursday night and didn't deliver until Saturday afternoon.

I'm sure you are just anxious and tired. Please speak to staff member to ensure everything is as it should be

Quitelikeit · 01/07/2023 21:55

are you having contractions? How often?

Has no one checked the babies heartbeat etc?

Have you felt movement?

Cab you walk around a little to see if that speeds things up

Starlightstarbright2 · 01/07/2023 21:55

If you feel up to it have a walk to the desk gravity can help .. also you need some reassurance

swanling · 01/07/2023 21:56

Press the buzzer or walk over. Being quiet and patient just means you will be ignored.

quietnightmare · 01/07/2023 22:00

100 percent say something now. Your rightfully emotional. Just to warn you they don't seem to care if your waters have gone over 24 hours so you need to make them care

tobeornottobe1 · 01/07/2023 22:04

Get some sleep OP, contractions will likely kick in soon and you'll need all your energy for birthing. Good luck x

morelippy · 01/07/2023 22:05

It's been 14 hours since your waters broke and you've rejected their plan.

They're probably waiting until 24hrs is up before suggesting plan B...

Parkandpicnic · 01/07/2023 22:07

Just ask if you can have a chat with the midwife allocated to you when she’s free, they do tend to be extremely busy but things usually get a bit quieter after around 11pm so hopefully will get chance later. They definitely wouldn’t want you to be sitting there worrying but don’t always get time to go round each person to check in on them emotionally (much as they would absolutely love to in an ideal world) so is up to you to say if you need a chat

HamHand · 01/07/2023 22:08

Handhold op, I know what it’s like to be ignored on a labour ward. When you’re already feeling vulnerable it’s awful. If you have some energy, ask if you can have a birthing ball, I found bouncing and rocking on that helped establish labour. If not then I agree try to get some sleep x

BamBamBambi · 01/07/2023 22:09

Just ring your buzzer ???

MustYou · 01/07/2023 22:13

morelippy · 01/07/2023 22:05

It's been 14 hours since your waters broke and you've rejected their plan.

They're probably waiting until 24hrs is up before suggesting plan B...

You’re allowed to choose to not consent to some treatments, it doesn’t mean you then don’t deserve / need any further communication or interaction. That sounds almost like a punishment.

Parkandpicnic · 01/07/2023 22:15

ps - to add, if your waters have gone they’ll be waiting for a room (and midwife) to become available on the labour ward so they can start you on the oxytocin drip but sometimes can be a bit of a queue! Definitely ask to talk to someone so they can clarify plan and give you some reassurance

morelippy · 01/07/2023 22:17

There's nothing else for them to do though... just wait... if OP needs them they're there to be called..

HamHand · 01/07/2023 22:31

Just remembered dd loves Baby Goes to Market too, a really lovely book.

HamHand · 01/07/2023 22:31

Wrong thread! Sorry op!

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highheavenn · 01/07/2023 22:53

morelippy · 01/07/2023 22:05

It's been 14 hours since your waters broke and you've rejected their plan.

They're probably waiting until 24hrs is up before suggesting plan B...

You've misunderstood what I said-

I had the pessary Thursday.
I had the gel on Friday-
Last night (Saturday) I declined the second gel because I was so so sore and asked for my waters to be broke and put on the list....

10minutes after I declined the second gel my waters broke naturally.....

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