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The dreaded 7 weeks

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Strawberry06 · 20/06/2023 08:31

So today I am 7 weeks pregnant which is a tough week for me as I lost my first at 7+5. Last time, my weeks were also reached on a Tuesday as well! My birthday is also on day 7+4! Don't know what the point in this post was I suppose I'm just looking for support to get me to 8 weeks which is my booking in appointment. Terrified history is gonna repeat itself even though I do keep telling myself women do have babies, it is possible!

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LavenderSweetPea · 20/06/2023 08:45

Oh I do feel for you. I lost my last at 5+4 and I'm now 6+2 so I know how hard the day of your previous loss is. Just remember that things are very very unlikely to happen exactly as they did before, but also it's ok to be stressed and sad.

From a practical point of view, have you had (or is it possible for you to get) a scan this week to see baby and the heartbeat. It might make you feel better and reassure you that this time is the one.

Thinking of you ❤️

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Strawberry06 · 20/06/2023 08:56

@LavenderSweetPea I've considered it many times but I just don't want to for fear of everything being ok, and then it suddenly isn't. Or if it just isn't. No I will just wait for the normal one at 12 weeks and whatever will be will be I guess. Trying to be positive!

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LavenderSweetPea · 20/06/2023 09:07

@Strawberry06 you're a stronger woman than me that's for sure! I guess it is true that whatever is going to be has already been decided. Have you been having any pregnancy symptoms this time round? I've got nothing so far really.

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Strawberry06 · 20/06/2023 09:10

I've got really sore/sensitive nipples, lower back pain and I may feel a bit sick (mainly if I've not eaten) but not sure if I'm imagining that. Also a bit tired but I'm a tired person anyway so again not really sure if its a symptom! So I'd say no not really and I didn't with my last pregnancy either so lack of symptoms does worry me!

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LavenderSweetPea · 20/06/2023 09:15

Lack of symptoms bothers me too, but then I also know plenty of people who have d had perfectly healthy pregnancies who breezed through the first trimester with no symptoms at all so I know really it doesn't mean anything. I've got my first scan tomorrow at the EPAU so that'll hopefully be good news.

I do have slightly sore boobs I suppose but nothing major, and I'm taking progesterone so not really surprising that's happened

moosey89 · 20/06/2023 09:45

@Strawberry06 I feel the same! Except my timing is slightly different... I had a missed miscarriage where baby died at 9 weeks, but I found out at 10+4 at a scan, so those 2 points will be bad for me. I also can't imagine actually having a successful pregnancy, it's so hard! My pregnancy is also at the exact same time of year as my last one (similar to your Tuesdays thing).

One day at a time, that's all we can do. Keeping everything crossed for you!

@LavenderSweetPea good luck for tomorrow, hope everything comes back as good news . How far along are you?x

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Strawberry06 · 20/06/2023 09:49

@moosey89 I'm sorry :-( I was nearly 8 weeks but baby had stopped growing at about 6 weeks. If all goes well this baby will be due around the same time I lost my first one so I like to think they are watching over us both. I keep looking at the private scan availability but I just can't bring myself to book! I keep telling myself it will be worth the wait at 12 weeks.

@LavenderSweetPea all the best for tomorrow. Will be thinking of you. Keep us updated?

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LavenderSweetPea · 20/06/2023 10:06

@Strawberry06 @moosey89 thanks guys, I'll definitely let you know how I get on.

moosey89 · 20/06/2023 10:08

@Strawberry06 aw yeah your angel baby is definitely watching over you. I really hope this pregnancy is smooth sailing for you.

I will get an early scan, but I keep pushing back when haha so I initially said when I got to 6 weeks I'd book for 7 weeks. Now I'm 6+3 and saying when I get to 7 weeks, I'll book for sometime that week. Time is moving painfully slowly!

eewno · 20/06/2023 10:22

My baby was due on the same day we found out we'd had a miscarriage the year before. I definitely took it as a sign.

Wishing you luck

Percypiglover · 20/06/2023 14:04

I have had two miscarriages each one was followed by a successful pregnancy so please try and stay positive though I know how hard that can be. I would stay away from having an early scan as I think they make you feel better for a few days and then the worry sets in again.

moosey89 · 20/06/2023 14:10

@Percypiglover for me they help as I had a missed miscarriage, so whilst I know the scan doesn't mean everything will be ok, it could prevent me walking around with a dead baby for longer than necessary. That broke me last time. I'd rather know if I have a missed miscarriage again as soon as possible. 😓Appreciate they aren't right for everyone, but they are right for some people x

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Strawberry06 · 20/06/2023 14:13

@Percypiglover That's exactly how I feel, the reassurance would only be short lived for me.

I'm so sorry for your previous losses but I'm really pleased that you went on to have two successful pregnancies. There are actually many reasons I'm keeping positive but as you say its still hard.

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Strawberry06 · 20/06/2023 14:14

thanks @eewno I am definitely taking this baby being due the same time as the loss as a sign!

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CR7 · 20/06/2023 17:36

After a very long rollercoaster journey to finally getting pregnant (I'm 10+5 now) I booked myself an early scan at 7 weeks to see the heartbeat and one at 10 to hear it. I know you want to wait til 12 but you may find that a positive scan really does help you to relax and enjoy the pregnancy more xx

Foreverhoping33 · 20/06/2023 18:27

Hi all can I join too. Currently 5w5ds pregnant. Had a mmc back in January which was diagnosed by scan at 6w+5 but had happened week before (ivf pregnancy so get offered early scan).

this time round I have booked my early scan in for as late as possible at 8 weeks again kinda don’t want to know as what will be will be. But very much hoping this time it will all be ok! Though I have very few symptoms…..

hoping for all of us we have a better outcome this time round! But any support over the next couple of weeks would be great!

FlapJackered · 20/06/2023 22:53

Can I join please? I had a miscarriage april 2022 at 12 weeks, saw a heartbeat at 9 weeks but measuring small and then heartbeat stopped. It then has taken over a year and ivf to get pregnant again and now 5+4 and feeling so anxious. I haven't really had any symptoms yet except terrible acne so I am worried that's a bad sign.

Scan booked for 7+4 then I will get another at 10 weeks I think.

Best of luck to everyone on the long road to 12 weeks.

Hankthehonk · 20/06/2023 23:39

@Strawberry06 I really relate! I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm only 4w2d now- I lost my last pregnancy at 8 weeks so getting past that feels like a milestone.

I was previously a fan of early scans and struggled to understand why anyone wouldn't want them, more info is better etc. However I had a positive scan where we saw the heartbeat just 5 days before my miscarriage. So this time I don't want one, it would do nothing to reassure me and I actually kind of associate the scan with my loss. I wish I did want one in a way, it would be something to look forward to sooner if I was still in my old mindset.
That ramble is all to say that everyone's feelings on early scans are valid, really.

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Strawberry06 · 21/06/2023 09:13

@Hankthehonk I could have written that myself. So sorry for your loss.

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Strawberry06 · 21/06/2023 09:15

@Foreverhoping33 you had your miscarriage the same time as me, I'm so sorry.

Keeping everything crossed for all of us.

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moosey89 · 21/06/2023 09:29

@Hankthehonk it's so hard isn't it! With a missed miscarriage, my reason for a scan isn't for reassurance/knowing if it's ok, it's just to rule out a loss at that particular moment in time. Last time I nearly vomited when I realised I'd been walking around for 10+ days since my baby had died, that's haunted me since. I'm terrified of going for a scan, but more terrified of not knowing. It's so different for everyone, we all need to work through it however is best for us. Survival mode activated!x

A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 · 21/06/2023 09:32

@moosey89 I'm the same as you, it's more to check I'm not blithely wondering around with symptoms still not realising that things have gone wrong. I forgot how anxiety inducing pregnancy is! I had a successful pregnancy after my miscarriage and thought I'd be slightly more relaxed this time around, but I'm not at all. I'm equally as on edge and scared of things going wrong

Hankthehonk · 21/06/2023 09:37

@moosey89 I totally get that as well, and survival mode is right. I think all of us who have experienced losses are just navigating the particular triggers and anxieties that came from our experience, and there's definitely no right or wrong. If only we could fast forward to 12 weeks (with everything being ok of course)

moosey89 · 21/06/2023 09:40

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 oh yes, alllllllll the anxiety! I had a full on meltdown last night. It's not surprising that you're feeling so on edge, our brains are tuned to hold on to negatives more than positives (it's why negative news sells!). doesn't help fix the anxiety itself, but at least it can help us feel a bit less insane (especially when combined with hormones, tiredness etc).

moosey89 · 21/06/2023 09:41

@Hankthehonk that would be the dream! I said that to my other half yesterday, can't I just hibernate for the next 6 weeks? Or ideally until viability 😫

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