Worried about lack of/fluctuation of symptoms

[Januarybby]

Hey, not really sure what I’m going to get out of posting this as I think I have read every post on here and still worrying.

I will be roughly 9 weeks tomorrow, had a scan 7 weeks exactly and was measuring 6+6 with a heartbeat but helped my anxiety for about a day! Found out on Christmas Eve last year I had a MMC and had no idea so making this pregnancy a lot worse.

Before my scan I didn’t have a lot of symptoms, before I tested positive I had heartburn so that was my first sign, that comes and goes but I think what I eat also changes that, my boobs did kind of hurt but nothing compared to last time, and just about 6 weeks I started to feel quite sick but this stopped 2 days before my scan so didn’t last long.

Today I have no symptoms at all, and been mostly like this since my scan. My boob tenderness/heaviness comes and goes but again nothing major and even at that I need to squeeze my boobs to feel if they hurt, heartburn/indigestion is also coming & going and I wouldn’t say I am overly tired.

I have a scan tomorrow and expecting to be told I’ve had another MMC which has happened round about my last scan.

Just wondering if anyone else has ever had anything similar and had a positive outcome so I can try stay at least a bit positive?

TIA!

So sorry about your mmc last year.

I didn't really have any symptoms with my first and was convinced the 12 week scan would show nothing there. My main symptom was food aversions. I even told my midwife I was worried at about 9 weeks and she just flippantly said that it probably means I'll have an easy pregnancy!

Stand naked in front of the mirror. Do your nipples look any darker or drier? Can you see your veins around your breasts more easily? If you lie down on your back, feel above your pubic bone. Does it feel more solid or a small bump? These are all signs that's it's progressing nicely, regardless of any missing symptoms.

The fact you have had a scan and there was a heartbeat is very promising. Try not to worry. It'll soon be time for your scan and hopefully you'll be reassured that little one is absolutely fine. Good luck.

Hi @Januarybby I’m not as far along as you (in just coming up to six weeks I think) but I have had very few / no symptoms.
I have felt quite tired but no sickness or feeling sick. My boobs have been slightly sore but nothing I would really notice if I wasn’t looking for it. It just seems like such a long time to wait for the booking appointment and I’m driving myself mad trying to spot symptoms…
I hope your scan goes well tomorrow - out of interest did you arrange the scans yourself? x

@Whyisitdarkalready the way I ran to the mirror lol! I don’t think my nipples look any darker but they are very dry looking and never actually noticed that before now. Can also see some veins but not actually sure if it’s more than usual as it’s not something I ever looked out for previously! Thanks for replying❤

@Pen40 due to previous MMC I was told if I fell pregnant again my EPAS unit would give me an early scan & I phoned last week worrying and they have gave me another one this week so they have been really good! I do also have a private one booked for next week (had that booked before tomorrows was booked) so if all is well tomorrow I may change that scan for about 16 weeks, depends how anxious I still am! I would defo recommend an early scan if you want some reassurance and I think if I didn’t have a previous loss I probably wouldn’t be as worried after hearing the heartbeat. P.s congrats and hope all goes well💕

Thanks @Januarybby really hope your scan goes well tomorrow.
I may look at booked a private scan next week as I don’t want to go too early.
I didn’t realise how stressful these first few months are x

@Pen40 thank you, I will update the post regardless of outcome as I have read so many stories which don’t then have the outcome on it which doesn’t help people reading them going forward!

Yeah I think they say best to wait till at least 7 weeks as you could end up worrying about no heartbeat when really it’s just too early.

I know, I really haven’t enjoyed it one bit, feel like I don’t want to get my hopes up after last time!

@Januarybby So the dry nipples are a good sign! Have you tried feeling above your pubic bone yet? This is the one thing that gave me the reassurance I needed while waiting for the magic 12 week scan. Looking forward to hearing your update tomorrow, all will be fine I'm sure xx

I remember when I first found out I was pregnant I was extremely nervous and felt as if something was wrong because of my lack of symptoms, like you I had breast tenderness that would leave and come back and i would need to squeeze them to feel. It took till about 10 weeks to feel nausea etc. I'm now 32 weeks with a healthy baby boy 💙 it's totally normal to not feel much or any symptoms. I know it's easier said that done but try not to worry, it's normal.

@Whyisitdarkalready I did lie down and press around but I couldn’t really feel anything unusual! Thank you xx

@newmummie thanks for the reassurance. Hope that is also the case for me and everything will be fine xx

@newmummie congratulations and thanks for your post - it’s reassuring to hear other people have also experienced lack of symptoms and everything turned out fine!
hope all goes well for the rest of your pregnancy x

I’ve had two pregnancies. First a MMC (found out at 11 weeks). Second is now a healthy 14 month old. With both the symptoms fluctuated a lot. Like you, I was very nervous with the second pregnancy after the miscarriage, and the changing symptoms didn’t help at all! But everything was fine. Fingers crossed for you. Hope it all works out well.

@WaltzingWaters sorry to hear you’ve also had a MMC but congrats on your new baby! Yeah I think it’s an anxious time already and makes it even worse once you’ve had a loss. Thank you x

I hear you completely

I'm 5+2 and barely have any symptoms. I'm a bit tired but not exhausted (I'm a tired person anyway as I have iron deficiency anemia).

My boobs are a bit sore but same as you, wouldn't notice if I wasn't looking for it. I had a miscarriage in January and I remember my boobs feeling A LOT more heavier and painful.

The only thing I could say is I'm quite bloated.

I'm toying with the idea of having an early scan but haven't made up my mind yet

Just to add as well apart from the sore boobs, I didn't have any symptoms with my last one that was a miscarriage so lack of symptoms does worry me!

Sorry to hear you had a previous miscarriage @Strawberry06

I know what you mean, I’d rather have sickness as I think I would find it reassuring!
keep us posted if you decide to go for an early scan. I’m undecided as part of me thinks what will be will be but the other part of me thinks it makes sense to have a scan early rather than wait as the booking app and 12 week scan seem like far too long to wait x

@Strawberry06 sorry about your previous loss and congrats on this pregnancy.

I also had much sorer boobs with my MMC to the point where I could hardly touch them, this stopped around 9/10 weeks and I assumed then it was normal but was actually due to the MMC at 6 weeks that I was unaware of at this point, so the fact I’ve had some symptoms and now done other than the odd day really worries me.

I don’t know if I could have waited longer for a scan this time but now I kind of wish I waited until around just now to get it instead of so early when there is longer period for something to go wrong but again just me worrying. Good luck whatever you decide x

IMO if I went for a scan at say 7/8 weeks and everything was normal i'd feel relieved but I'd be more devastated having known that if I went on to lose it. Call me pessimistic but that's just my coping mechanism! So I think I will wait till the norm 12 weeks and whatever will be will be as you say.

I am actually feeling really positive at the moment because I thought there was no way I'd conceive this cycle (been having problems with thrush & BV) and it also means this baby will be due around the same time I lost my first so I like to think they are watching over us both.

@Strawberry06 yes this is also what I’m dreading as I’ve told some friends & family and as soon as they heard there was a heartbeat this time everyone has been so excited so the thought of having to tell them it’s stopped scares me so I 100% get where you are coming from. Fingers crossed all goes well for us both. And lovely that is similar due date♥️ mine would have been due next month so I like the thought of (hopefully) being able to announce this pregnancy to everyone in the same month to make me feel slightly less miserable for when the due date comes around x

@Strawberry06 yep I can totally see where you’re coming from about having an early scan… maybe it makes sense to wait for the 12 week scan… saying that I tell myself not to do any more pregnancy tests but I don’t listen! Haha

positive thinking is fab - and I think what you said about your previous pregnancy is a lovely way to look at things ❤️ x

I haven't told anyone apart from my Mum (and husband obviously) but I also feel the 12ww is bullshit - its like you're waiting for something to go wrong!

I didn't tell anyone the first time I was pregnant but when I miscarried I told them! I was very open about it. So I'm sort of in two mindsets that its ok to tell people early on yet I'm keeping it secret! Its weird!

Yes everything crossed for us both and I hope you get to share your news with everyone

Yeah defo agree, I told people close to me early both times and I’m so glad I have as not sure I would have gotten through it without their support! The whole 12 weeks I think goes back to the stigma behind loss and that it should be kept to yourself which I think is so crazy!

Your absolutely right! We were originally planning to announce our pregnancy on Mothers Day so instead I announced our miscarriage! I asked my Mum (who also had a miscarriage) if she thought I should and she was like 'No no you don't do that sweep it under the carpet hush hush'. So I told my husband and he said if it meant something to me then I should, so I did and the amount of people that reached out to me was amazing. Even males I'd worked with in previous jobs were private messaging me telling me their partners were going through it currently, I was amazed by all the support it was so humbling and don't regret what I did at all.

To me, if I hadn't have said anything, when the time came I was pregnant again (i.e. now) Id feel like I was pretending I was never pregnant which I absolutely couldn't do.

@Strawberry06 yes I also posted mine on instagram and openly tell people about it and was so surprised at the amount of people I know who have went through it as well, defo something that needs spoken about more! But hopefully neither of us will need to tell anyone that news again.

@Januarybby everything crossed! Keep us updated on how your scan goes I'll be thinking of you

@Strawberry06 thank you I will x

I feel your pain OP.
I had a mmc last year, when I fell pregnant again this year I was convinced I'd have another mc.
I have zero symptoms and 20 weeks now.
Never been sick, no food aversions, just enjoy more food and a bit more tired.

Relax, enjoy it.

If I didn't have a belly I wouldn't even know I was pregnant really