Possible 2 baby fathers :(

[Annon1999]

Hi please no judgement as I’m already very scared and anxious about the whole situation.
so I could have two possible fathers to my my child.

I slept with a man on 7th jan 2023 just once
I then slept with my partner from 10th jan onwards most days.
I had a period on the 11th jan until 14th jan

I had negative tests on the 10th jan 17th jan 19th 24th and 25th

I got my very very faint positive on the 1st of February
Mon the 2nd of feb I did a clear blue which said 1-2 weeks.

ive used online calculators and it says i convinced around 21st jan does this sound right
I’m due October 14th

Sounds like it’s your partners OP.

Why on earth do so many people assume that partner=husband?

I was doing the tests to try rule out the fact I could of been pregnant by him yes I had what I would say was a period x

Sounds very much so like the baby is your current partners. It's not the other guys and you never have to have contact with him again. But why not get a DNA test to put your mind 100% at ease? It's a blood test for you and a cheek swab for your partner.

I would say the baby is your partner’s. If you had a normal period after you slept with the other guy, then it can’t possibly be his.
Try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy 💐

Is that what my post was about ?
is that any of your business?
did I say it was rape ?
:) if you have nothing respectful to say then scroll on your answers have all been rude or disrespectful

You’re going to need a DNA test regardless of how reassuring anyone online (or indeed in real life) tries to be because a) there will always be some level of doubt, for both you and your husband otherwise and b) on the offchance your husband isn’t this baby’s father, that needs to be known for medical history reasons and so your child knows who their father is - that’s not something you can deny them. It’s going to be far easier for you all to have this done and sorted when your DC is a baby and has no idea than for it to come up when they’re a teenager and you have to explain.

There’s no point worrying about it now, you’ve clearly decided that you want to continue the pregnancy regardless of who the father is, and that there’s some doubt clearly isn’t some big secret you’re hiding from your husband; so just put it to the back of your mind until the baby has arrived and can be tested.

The baby is 99.9999% likely to be your partners if you had a period.

I'm worried about you carrying the burden of this situation alone, could you tell your partner? It sounds like you've been subjected to a rather traumatic and awful experience, it's not like you were shagging around

It sounds like it’s your partner’s baby.

If he’s aware of the other man and it’s not a secret, then maybe you can get a paternity test. That way you will both know for certainty and put your minds to rest.

Well, if the scans confirmed how far along you are, why do you worry?

As far as the bleeding goes, it is still possible that the first guy is the partner.

Some women have a subchorionic hematoma in pregnancy, which is quite common.

I am currently 13 weeks pregnant and had this. In my case, it got absorbed in the body. In other cases, it leaves the body through vaginal bleeding.

Depending on the size of the hematoma, it can be light or heavy bleeding.

Thank you everyone we have just spoken and are thinking about the dna test wasn’t aware this could be done before babys born.. it’s just to make me feel better and just so I no for sure thanks for all the nice kind comments and as for the rude horrible ones they was just not needed thanks again xxx

What has that got to do with you? Where did she say it was rape? She was obviously talking about past experiences, there was no need to bring that up let alone question her. And even if it was the result of assault thats not how to talk to a rape victim.

It will be your partners OP with your dates and having the heavy period.

You didn't say it was rape but you mentioned emotional blackmail domestic violence and sexual abuse. So sorry for jumping to the conclusion you were coerced...

@Climbles you're assuming he knows about the other fella.

@Annon1999 most likely your partners. But you need to think bout whether you want to be with your partner, it's much easier to break up now & move, if you want to, to somewhere you have friends/family for support.

Having a DNA test once the baby arrives will put everybody’s mind at rest. As your DP already knows about this situation, and presumably is ok either way, it’s still good to know for sure.
For whatever reason, you’ve found yourself possibly having sex with someone you wouldn’t choose to have sex with - that’s not going to be great for your self esteem. Do you think you might benefit from some counselling to help you deal with this?
I hope all goes well with your baby and you can enjoy him / her without worrying about this time.

A scan between 9 and 13 weeks is considered accurate to within 5 days (after that they are less exact

I seriously wouldn't be too concerned

As PP have said this increases the risk of miscarriage.
Obviously the circumstances are relevant - for example if you desperately needed monetary support from the biological father.
But if nothing would change and you want to keep the baby I would wait until he/ she arrives. Furthermore the likelihood is low... That it's not your partners.

Hi OP, I’m 99.9% sure the baby is your DPs. Otherwise it would have shown up a lot earlier on one of the pregnancy tests which are so sensitive these days.

try to relax and enjoy the pregnancy.

I can’t really understand any of this, but hopefully your current partner is supportive and he is the father. It all sounds a bit of a mess, especially if there’s nothing children involved.

This place is a den for nosey sticky beaks, baying for details that aren't relevant to the OP.

Sounds like it's your partners, best of luck to you both

This. If you slept with a man then had a period a few days after, you will not be pregnant by the 7th Jan man. Is it guilt bothering you? Try to forget it now. Listen to your midwife.

I’d say it’s almost impossible that the baby is the other man’s and it’s almost guaranteed it belongs to your partner.

Based on your period, due date and pregnancy tests you’ve most likely conceived within the last week or two of January.

Sperm can only survive in the female reproductive tract for around 5 days, and I’d say it’s extremely unlikely to have survived a period and fertilised an egg around 10 days later.

If you’re feeling worried though I would still get a DNA test, even if you wait til after the baby is born. Personally, I would want to just to put my mind at rest even if the science is pointing to it being unlikely, but it’s yours and your partner’s decision.

You had a period after sleeping with first man so it must be partners.

@LysHastighed sorry, you're right. A Non-Invasive Prenatal Paternity test only required blood from the mother from about 10 weeks onward, not any invasive testing that might risk the pregnancy. I made a mistake.

And sorry OP I didn't realise your current partner already knew about your doubts.

In that case I would get the test to determine paternity so that the child knows for sure who it's father is. It can be recasting to someone's idea of who they are and personal identity to find out something fundamental about themselves that they believed to be true is not - e.g. to suddenly find out in adulthood that their dad isn't their biological dad and that the fact there was any doubt has been hidden from them.

The exception here is if proving the father was someone else would mean you have to put that man's name on the birth certificate, and putting their name on the birth certificate might be dangerous to you or your child. In DV situations mothers sometimes choose not to put a father's name on the birth certificate for their protection. A huge decision to make for a child, but safety comes first and it might be very necessary in some cases to protect them.