Possible 2 baby fathers :(

[Annon1999]

Hi please no judgement as I’m already very scared and anxious about the whole situation.
so I could have two possible fathers to my my child.

I slept with a man on 7th jan 2023 just once
I then slept with my partner from 10th jan onwards most days.
I had a period on the 11th jan until 14th jan

I had negative tests on the 10th jan 17th jan 19th 24th and 25th

I got my very very faint positive on the 1st of February
Mon the 2nd of feb I did a clear blue which said 1-2 weeks.

ive used online calculators and it says i convinced around 21st jan does this sound right
I’m due October 14th

From your dates it seems very likely it's your partner's and you don't need to worry. Don't do a DNA test whilst pregnant, it carries a risk of miscarriage.

If you're still unsure then you could maybe do a paternity test once the baby's born, but I'm not sure how you'd explain that to your partner if he ever found out.

Does your partner know about the other guy?

Does your partner know about the other man? Presumably he wants a DNA test as soon as the baby arrives

Did you use protection with the other fella?

If you did, going by what you’ve said in other posts the chance of baby being his must be very very small.

You can't go by due dates at this point. I have seen this happen and when it actually came down to the DNA test it turned out to be the other man's! Even though she was "sure" because of dates. In my opinion you should be honest with both men it was your mistake. You make your bed you lie in it.

It’s definitely your partners. I’m due on 24th October and conceived around 2nd feb. Sperm only lives around 5 days. You would be further along if it was the other guys. No dna test needed.

OP if you had a period after the one time you slept with the first man, you could not have become pregnant by him.
Your dates suggest conception about 23rd Feb. or thereabouts.

It’s your partner’s. Your period dates and your due dates both confirm this. The intense anxiety you’re feeling is probably related to guilt over having slept with the other man. Does your partner know about it?

Sorry! That should say January!

Have you actually read how many scans she's had!? It's not just the op who's "sure" about dates. Her medical team would have pointed out that she's further along. I totally get the ops anxiety but people adding to it with their "stories" without rttt is just not needed!

Just saying from experience. Fucks up so many lives but never mind. Poor husband.

Sorry but it’s not poor husband at all. He’s more than aware of the situation not that that was any of your business. God some people lol

I don’t think you can be right about the miscarriage risk. It’s a blood draw, like many other tests done during pregnancy.

Your husband is aware that the baby may not be his. There is nothing you can do now, the baby sounds like it’s doing fine, so just do a DNA test when the baby is here to put all your minds at rest? There’s no point worrying about it now.

I’m a reproductive health nurse, if you’ve had intercourse then had a period after, you have not conceived in that cycle, unless it’s implantation bleeding though as you said before you’re certain it was a period and your midwife agrees! I would say you have nothing to worry about, but as others have suggested DNA just to be sure. Good luck!! Xx

So what's the problem if he's aware?
Get a DNA test after birth if you like but it's likely his. What would happen if it wasn't

It’s more for peace of mind nothing would change. Not that I have to keep explaining

If he’s aware and fine with it, why are you so scared and anxious the baby might not be his?

Because of who the other man is and that due to DV previously I wouldn’t want any involvement with him at all.

Why sleep with him then? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Right I’m not going into any more detail about why I slept with him. DV scan be very controlling and not a nice experience. Educate yourself on emotional blackmail and physical/sexual abuse.

@Annon1999 I would say it's your partners x

Why does it matter? Baby is here. She can't take back what happened and explaining it to strangers on the Internet makes no difference to the qn posed.

Yes op if you had a full heavy period I'd think you're clear unless you have a history of periods during your pregnancies? You took a test a day before you were due and a week after your period - did you think you wrte before your period?

But also as you've had multiple measurements also pointing to a later conception, I wouldn't worry

Surely you should be reporting him for rape in that case ?