Preeclampsia at 19 weeks

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In hospital at the moment with early onset preeclampsia. I may have to terminate unless they get my blood pressure down. Has anyone else had preeclampsia this early? I had my son at 34 weeks due to preeclampsia but can't believe it's come this early. They say it doesn't usually happen before 20 weeks.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP

Thanks everyone for the well wishes. We got to see our little girl yesterday and the midwife took some sweet photos for when we feel ready to see them. Ive been crying on and off but I think I'm waiting until I get home as I'm scared to raise my blood pressure. I think I'll start grieving properly then. I've taken some tablets that should help stop milk production as my boobs are really sore. They are going to reduce my blood pressure medication slightly today and we'll see how that goes. The cannulas are out which is a relief. They kept blowing up and getting so inflamed after less than 24 hours so they had to keep doing new ones. I'm able to sleep for longer stretches now as less blood pressure checks. I hope to be out at the end of the week but we'll see how it goes.

Pleased you were able to have some precious time with your beautiful little girl.
I’ve got everything crossed that you’re discharged this week so that you can continue to heal in your own sanctuary.

I bet you feel so much better once your at home. My BP was more stable by three weeks so don't rush it. Don't feel like you should be doing normal things once home, you absolutely need to rest next. Big hugs

OP I am so sorry you've had to go through this and my thoughts are very much with you at this time.
I'm unsure where you are based but if you are in Scotland at all please please please contact Baby Loss Retreat when you are ready as they are an incredible source of support and kindness to anyone who has experienced infant loss either in pregnancy or after.
Sending you love.

@IncessantNameChanger did you go home with lots of blood pressure meds? How did you monitor? I'm scared I'll have to be readmitted when I return home. I'm also a bit scared about the thought of going home tbh. I think they want to keep me in until Friday at least as bp can go crazy on day 5.

@recyclemeagain thank you. I'm based in London but have been given lots of resources for when I'm ready. It still all feels a bit surreal at the moment.

@Moonchild79 thank you! I hope to be home soon too.

OP, I'm so, so incredibly sorry. The loss of a child at any gestation is so hard.
We sadly had to TFMR with our first child at 33 weeks as he was completely brain damaged due to recurring strokes 💔 so I completely empathise with in some ways being 'glad' the decision was taken out of yours hand, I wished the same thing with my son too.
When you're ready, there's so much support out there. The baby loss community is like a club you don't want to be in, but if you're unfortunate enough to be then you'll never be alone.
Sending all the love in the world to you, your family and your little girl 🩷

I stayed in for a week post birth. Went home for two nights then got readmitted. I don't think I was on anything but labetalol. With my next three I asked for a discharge plan that decided on my readmission levels before discharge but I was readmitted with each child.

There is a arbitory level that they readmitted you. So ask if they can say, retake your pressure after ten minutes. Your chances of getting seriously ill after a week are against the odds. But really, as we both know, odds sometimes mean nothing. But it the midwife comes in, gets a high reading there's no harm and asking them to then do notes, chat and take it again.

I know it sucks and you want to be with your child at home, but I'd get better first. Readmission was never for more than two nights but still overall going back in achieved nothing. I was very scared each time. Mine never fully went down. I'm on meds for life now. But like I said I went on to 3 more kids so it's OK enough. Stable, just slightly too high. You will get better. I'm sure of that. Time is your friend.

Just an update for anyone still reading. I was sent home Friday after 15 days. On 3 types of medications as my blood pressure was so high. It's now dropped quite a bit so I've been having to call the hospital on a dose by dose basis which has been very stressful. I have a telephone call with a consultant this afternoon about reducing my doses. I feel so wrecked and exhausted. I haven't really processed the loss yet. I went for an hour walk around the shop's yesterday. I haven't walked that much in weeks and I've hurt my back now which isn't great. I'm surprised as it was a slow plod!

I’m glad you’re home and hope your health settles down again soon. I’m so sorry again for your loss, it’s such a very sad situation. Take care of yourself.

I'm glad you're home. Take things very easily and don't underestimate how poorly blood pressure issues/ tablets can make you feel let alone all the emotional side of it all. x

Hi 👋
Thank you for updating us.
Pleased to hear you’re home. As others have said - gently does it. I found that being in hospital caused loss of muscle strength.
I hope they’ll be discharged to the care of your GP soon so that you have more flexibility etc. I found this much more holistic in terms of supporting both physical and psychological needs.
Thinking of you.