Should we find out the sex of our baby?

[dancerandprancer]

Expecting baby number 2. We did not find out with our DD but are toying with the idea of finding out this time. Our reasons are 1- to help with name as DH and I are struggling with names and 2- to buy boys things if needed as we have mostly girly things. Do these reasons sound a bit petty, as friend of mine said so recently?

I didn't find out with my daughter although I really, really wanted to! But it was one of the best moments of my life my partner excitedly telling me we had a girl.

Had my scan and the sonographer said 'I can't see any dangly bits.' That means it's a girl, doesn't it?

I didn't find out with my dd's as it wasn't hospital policy to tell. I found out at my 20 week scan I'm having another dd and I must admit I love knowing. I have already given her a name though not announced it to anyone and it makes her feel more real. It is such a personal choice though and you have to do whats right for you not your friends.

I am soooo in the same positrion as you Dancer andprancer! didn't find out on DD, but am 20 weeks with 2nd and me and DH are in the same predicament, got scan on tues...it's not petty as we're thinking along the same lines about boys things.

To me you both seem to have made up your mind, as if you really didn't want to find out you wouldn't be thinking about it. The question to ask yourself is, if it is a boy (assuming you would like one of each), would you be dissapointed that you didn't wait to find out at the birth?...ruined the BIG suprise?

I was worried that if we found out it would ruin it, but all my friends have found out and they have assured me it doesn't make the slightest bit of difference.

for me, finding out dd's gender allowed me to bond with her for the first time in the pregnancy. i'd scarcely dared believe that it was real, after some pregnancy losses before. so i was totally delighted to know.