Want some advice. I'm 25 weeks pregnant, told my team at work (other than my line manager who already knew) a couple of weeks ago. My maternity leave job has now been advertised so now everyone knows.
I work in a close team with 8 of us sharing an office. One of my colleagues, when I told the team, immediately rushed out. She has since essentially moved out of the office, and has found somewhere else to work, and only appears a couple of times a day to get something- literally running in and out with her head down and not talking to anyone.
My line manager confirmed my suspicion that this has been hard news for her, but she (LM) hopes she will get used to it. I don't see that happening, I feel like it's getting worse, to the extent that I'm not sure if I should sit near her if I see her in the break room, etc, because she will look so uncomfortable if I even say hi. We were previously quite close, I went to her wedding etc.
I do understand these things can be painful, I actually lost my first pregnancy last summer in the second trimester as I had to have a termination because baby's organs were failing. A friend of mine got pregnant a week before I did last time and seeing her get bigger and have her daughter was painful and required quite a lot of therapy to get through, but I'm in a much better place now. So it's horrible knowing I'm causing someone else similar pain.
What should I do? Actively avoid her as much as possible? Should I try and talk to her (she doesn't know about the termination, presumably she thinks my journey to getting this far has been blissfully easy). Or just wait to go on maternity leave in the summer?