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How to cope with pregnancy after loss?
babymummy96 · 18/03/2023 17:03
I feel like I am constantly writing on here recently... is there anyone on her who conceived straight away after a loss? I miscarried around 4-5 weeks ago and I am so grateful that I have been able to get pregnant again immediately however, it's causing me a lot of anxiety!
In my last pregnancy, I only experienced needing to wee more frequently and I was extremely sweaty!
I have literally only just found out this pregnancy but I knew to test (not that I wasn't constantly anyway as I felt desperate tbh) was because I felt SO hot.
I have been experiencing very bad lower back pain, tummy pain (feels a bit period like) - it just feels very different to the last pregnancy, I'm hoping everything will be ok.
How did people deal with the stress of being pregnant again? I feel like I cannot be excited at all whereas before I miscarried, I was out buying bits, getting so excited and now I just feel like I'm praying for 12 weeks to pass!
38andtrying · 18/03/2023 17:13
I'm feeling pretty similar, I had a miscarriage and ERPC back in December, just 6 weeks pregnant now. I am so obsessed with symptoms and worried/convinced it's going to happen again. Last time I had no idea anything was wrong as no bleeding or pain and swanned into an 8 week scan to get shock that it has stopped growing 2 weeks previous.
I'm not at stage at where o
Pregnancy stopped progressing the last time and that's probably why I'm so nervous. I hadn't realised that my symptoms had decreased the last time but in hindsight they had.
My symptoms are still here thank god, I'm unnaturally tired, I get nausea on and off and my timmy has those period like cramps every now and again, twinges etc
I am hoping we both get our rainbow babies
TMI2000 · 18/03/2023 17:21
@babymummy96 I am in the exact same boat as you hun! 6 weeks ago had a miscarriage and a couple of days ago I found out I was pregnant. The anxiety is the hardest part as every twinge and pain is making me anxious.
Im very lucky in that my gp has done a hcg test for me last week and will do one again on Thursday so that will bring me some peace.
im also testing every day so I can see the lines getting darker and that is also making me feel better.
praying for all of our rainbow babies❤️❤️
PimlicoMum4 · 18/03/2023 17:34
I’m feeling this hard. Had a missed miscarriage when I would have been almost 6 weeks at end of jan. I didn’t even really bleed as apparently my body had reabsorbed most of it. Then got pregnant 2 weeks after, with no period between. Am almost 7 weeks now and so so anxious. The sickness has kicked in and is really debilitating but I won’t even consider possible treatment because feeling sick also makes me feel pregnant. I went for an early scan (all looked good) hoping it would calm me down but within days I was stressed out again.
I find this data site helpful
datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer
Pandabumbles · 18/03/2023 17:34
So sorry for your loss OP, and tentative congratulations on your new pregnancy. It's so hard, there's no escaping it. I had a MMC at 9 weeks, then got pregnant again 3 months later. I found the first few weeks so tough and very emotional. We had a private scan at 8 weeks (which I was absolutely dreading!) which put our minds at rest a bit. But I only really felt connected to the pregnancy after 12 week scan and all the blood screening. It did get easier over time. But you just need to be kind to yourself and take it one day at a time. That pregnancy is now my very energetic 15 month old DS and he's prefect. Wishing you a healthy and safe pregnancy x
babymummy96 · 18/03/2023 18:20
Thanks for all the replies everybody! So sorry for everybody's loss... it's honestly so hard.
I feel like I won't be happy until 12 weeks and even then I'll still be extremely wary.
Has anyone looked into taking low dose aspirin to help prevent miscarriage? I am reading in to it but unsure if anyone has done this?
babymummy96 · 18/03/2023 18:20
@TMI2000 wow our stories sound exactly the same! Fingers crossed for all of us
babymummy96 · 18/03/2023 18:22
@38andtrying awww bless you it's so hard isn't it? I hope you get your little bubba xx
babymummy96 · Yesterday 11:38
babymummy96 · 18/03/2023 18:20
Thanks for all the replies everybody! So sorry for everybody's loss... it's honestly so hard.
I feel like I won't be happy until 12 weeks and even then I'll still be extremely wary.
Has anyone looked into taking low dose aspirin to help prevent miscarriage? I am reading in to it but unsure if anyone has done this?
Anyone?! Aspirin in early preg?
Sassy144 · Yesterday 12:55
I'm so sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your pregnancy. Pregnancy after miscarriage is so hard, I just tried to take it day by day and tell myself 'today I am pregnant' when I felt really anxious. It does get easier but the first 12 weeks are the hardest (or were for me). Lean on your midwives for support.
I understand the feeling of wanting to do anything you can to stop it happening again, but I wouldn't take aspirin unless advised by my doctor or midwife.
I also had a very crampy pregnancy, which didn't help my nerves, but I had a good pregnancy second time around and I'm snuggling my two month old now.
babymummy96 · Yesterday 18:24
@Sassy144 thanks for your reply! Honestly before my MC, I wouldn't think twice. With my first I wasn't even worried, just carried on life as normal, so excited. This time after my MC I'm full of anxiety!
Congrats on the birth of your child 💞
TMI2000 · Yesterday 20:15
I feel you on this.
I found out Thursday and I’ve been obsessively testing and now I’ve convinced my lines have gone lighter and my symptoms are gone. I’m so scared after a mc at the start of February. I just wish I had a nice easy pregnancy without being so scared all the time.
wishing you all the best lovely!
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