How to cope with pregnancy after loss?

[babymummy96]

I feel like I am constantly writing on here recently... is there anyone on her who conceived straight away after a loss? I miscarried around 4-5 weeks ago and I am so grateful that I have been able to get pregnant again immediately however, it's causing me a lot of anxiety!

In my last pregnancy, I only experienced needing to wee more frequently and I was extremely sweaty!

I have literally only just found out this pregnancy but I knew to test (not that I wasn't constantly anyway as I felt desperate tbh) was because I felt SO hot.

I have been experiencing very bad lower back pain, tummy pain (feels a bit period like) - it just feels very different to the last pregnancy, I'm hoping everything will be ok.

How did people deal with the stress of being pregnant again? I feel like I cannot be excited at all whereas before I miscarried, I was out buying bits, getting so excited and now I just feel like I'm praying for 12 weeks to pass!

[kl1999]

So sorry to hear about your previous loss. But congratulations on this pregnancy! I had a mc back in September last year, I'm currently 14+4 weeks and had my first scan last week. I found out about this pregnancy when I was around 6/7 weeks. I was convinced that this pg would end the same as my last one. Constantly sick with fear and worry. I sat through my 12 week scan in disbelief that there was a baby inside of me, alive and kicking.

Anxiety and always assuming the worst is sadly very normal for anyone who has experienced a previous loss/losses. Just know that there are plenty of people around you, who have had similar experiences and can be a comforting hand to hold. I have found MN extremely helpful to talk with people in situations similar to myself. It's both sad but also uplifting at the same time.

I experienced period like cramps for a few weeks, which I put down to my body making room to grow my little bean.

Best of luck to you and everyone else in this thread on your journeys ❤🌈🌷

[ArrrMeHearties]

I'm almost 32wks pregnant after a tmfr at 24wks in 2021 and I won't relax fully until dc has been born

[ElleJones1]

@babymummy96 I have been prescribed asprin (not that I'm pregnant yet) but following a loss to take each day from 12 weeks and also progesterone pessaries to use every day. I'm 7/8dpo and have started using them now as they help everything and build up lining with the natural release of the hormone. Also, there is evidence to suggest they support ongoing pregnancies? May be worth asking dr about those? good luck and congratulations xx

[babymummy96]

@Lilacrose27 awww I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so hard isn't it! I feel I was desperate to get pregnant again but now that I am, I am so scared.

I hope it goes well for you and you get your rainbow baby xx

[Lilacrose27]

I got pregnant straight away after having a miscarriage over Christmas 2022. currently 10+2 I’ve been on edge the entire time so far. I’ve had bleeding several times which scared me so much I went for an early scan 2wks ago at the EPU and couldn’t even look at the screen it was only when the sonographer said to me I think you might want to look that I actually looked at the screen and saw the baby. I’m on edge all the time the slightest thing. Every time I have a cramp or an ache my mind goes to the worst case scenario. I have a scan in a few days and I’m ridiculously nervous about it.

it’s hard because I want to be excited but I feel like I can’t be excited and I hope that the feeling goes away so I can at least try and enjoy my pregnancy, I feel so bad for feeling the way I do and feel like I should be happy because I’m very lucky to even be able to get pregnant but it’s honestly the hardest thing ever.

[TMI2000]

I feel you on this.

I found out Thursday and I’ve been obsessively testing and now I’ve convinced my lines have gone lighter and my symptoms are gone. I’m so scared after a mc at the start of February. I just wish I had a nice easy pregnancy without being so scared all the time.

wishing you all the best lovely!

[babymummy96]

@Sassy144 thanks for your reply! Honestly before my MC, I wouldn't think twice. With my first I wasn't even worried, just carried on life as normal, so excited. This time after my MC I'm full of anxiety!

Congrats on the birth of your child 💞

[Sassy144]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your pregnancy. Pregnancy after miscarriage is so hard, I just tried to take it day by day and tell myself 'today I am pregnant' when I felt really anxious. It does get easier but the first 12 weeks are the hardest (or were for me). Lean on your midwives for support.

I understand the feeling of wanting to do anything you can to stop it happening again, but I wouldn't take aspirin unless advised by my doctor or midwife.

I also had a very crampy pregnancy, which didn't help my nerves, but I had a good pregnancy second time around and I'm snuggling my two month old now.

[babymummy96]

@babymummy96

Thanks for all the replies everybody! So sorry for everybody's loss... it's honestly so hard.

I feel like I won't be happy until 12 weeks and even then I'll still be extremely wary.

Has anyone looked into taking low dose aspirin to help prevent miscarriage? I am reading in to it but unsure if anyone has done this?

Anyone?! Aspirin in early preg?

[babymummy96]

@38andtrying awww bless you it's so hard isn't it? I hope you get your little bubba xx

[babymummy96]

@TMI2000 wow our stories sound exactly the same! Fingers crossed for all of us

[babymummy96]

Thanks for all the replies everybody! So sorry for everybody's loss... it's honestly so hard.

I feel like I won't be happy until 12 weeks and even then I'll still be extremely wary.

Has anyone looked into taking low dose aspirin to help prevent miscarriage? I am reading in to it but unsure if anyone has done this?

[Pandabumbles]

So sorry for your loss OP, and tentative congratulations on your new pregnancy. It's so hard, there's no escaping it. I had a MMC at 9 weeks, then got pregnant again 3 months later. I found the first few weeks so tough and very emotional. We had a private scan at 8 weeks (which I was absolutely dreading!) which put our minds at rest a bit. But I only really felt connected to the pregnancy after 12 week scan and all the blood screening. It did get easier over time. But you just need to be kind to yourself and take it one day at a time. That pregnancy is now my very energetic 15 month old DS and he's prefect. Wishing you a healthy and safe pregnancy x

[PimlicoMum4]

I’m feeling this hard. Had a missed miscarriage when I would have been almost 6 weeks at end of jan. I didn’t even really bleed as apparently my body had reabsorbed most of it. Then got pregnant 2 weeks after, with no period between. Am almost 7 weeks now and so so anxious. The sickness has kicked in and is really debilitating but I won’t even consider possible treatment because feeling sick also makes me feel pregnant. I went for an early scan (all looked good) hoping it would calm me down but within days I was stressed out again.
I find this data site helpful
datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

[TMI2000]

@babymummy96 I am in the exact same boat as you hun! 6 weeks ago had a miscarriage and a couple of days ago I found out I was pregnant. The anxiety is the hardest part as every twinge and pain is making me anxious.
Im very lucky in that my gp has done a hcg test for me last week and will do one again on Thursday so that will bring me some peace.
im also testing every day so I can see the lines getting darker and that is also making me feel better.

praying for all of our rainbow babies❤️❤️

[38andtrying]

I'm feeling pretty similar, I had a miscarriage and ERPC back in December, just 6 weeks pregnant now. I am so obsessed with symptoms and worried/convinced it's going to happen again. Last time I had no idea anything was wrong as no bleeding or pain and swanned into an 8 week scan to get shock that it has stopped growing 2 weeks previous.

I'm not at stage at where o
Pregnancy stopped progressing the last time and that's probably why I'm so nervous. I hadn't realised that my symptoms had decreased the last time but in hindsight they had.

My symptoms are still here thank god, I'm unnaturally tired, I get nausea on and off and my timmy has those period like cramps every now and again, twinges etc

I am hoping we both get our rainbow babies