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38 going on 39- Have I left it too late?

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LilMissSmiler84 · 03/02/2023 18:14

Hiya guys
just joined up now and trying this out as I have some concerns. I’m 38 going on 39 in a few months and me&the hub just decided to start trying for a baby. This is my first cycle trying and currently at 10dpo still testing negative. I’m just wondering have I left it too late for kids? I’m due on next week and we gave it everything on our first time from ovulation test, vitamins months prior, multiple times and it seems not to have had an effect so far. Maybe I am just being impatient but wondering how many cycles anyone older has tried naturally and had success? Any advice welcome!
thanks in advance

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newbienel · 03/02/2023 18:17

Every woman and every body is different. I guess you won't know if you've left it too late until you start trying and see. You should go for a fertility check at the doctors though so you can get an idea of your health, your egg supply, and they can advise you if you're low on any vitamins or have any deficiencies. Best of luck to you 💕

newbienel · 03/02/2023 18:19

I should add that I tried for 18 months from the age of 33 and it never worked for me - had to go down the ivf route. I think if it hasn't worked by 6 months definitely seek help!

StarDolphins · 03/02/2023 18:20

I decided to try just before I turned 41! As long as you’re fertile it’s not too late!

InTheFutilityRoomEatingBiscuits · 03/02/2023 18:21

I’m sorry OP but you are being massively impatient.

Conception can take a while, successful pregnancies with healthy babies, even longer. It’s a long, long wait when you are in it, I know. But you are likely to have about a one in ten chance of conceiving on any given cycle in your late thirties. And that’s assuming all is as it should be (not saying it isn’t)

I know it’s mad spending your whole life worrying about those instant conceptions we were warned about as teens. But although yes it only takes once it’s really, not that simple.

Faradalla · 03/02/2023 18:22

I'm 40 with a 1 year old. I got pregnant second month of trying.

MrsSamR · 03/02/2023 18:26

I conceived my second DD at age 36 (coming up to 37) on the 2nd month of trying. It's very possible! But equally could take a while. There's really no way of knowing! Sounds like you've thrown everything at it so fingers crossed but as a PP said definitely see a Dr after 6 months just to check all is well. Good luck with it!

nannyquestion1 · 03/02/2023 18:26

Got pregnant at 40 in the very first month of trying.

Felicity42 · 03/02/2023 18:26

If nothing happens after 6 months go to GP. I got pregnant at 39. Took about 8 months but I had irregular periods...29 to 36 days.

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LilMissSmiler84 · 03/02/2023 18:29

Thanks guys. Yeah I’ll give it a few months and hopefully one of them works but tell you what this process shown am already am not patient. This 2 week wait business is excruciating lol

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LilMissSmiler84 · 03/02/2023 18:34

I usually have a 25/26 day cycle what dpo do you think would start showing on first response early tests usually?

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custardbear · 03/02/2023 18:37

Had mine at 37 and 40 so no!
I'd say don't hang around if you're having problems. We were and got help. I also found Agnus castus was good for conception too as I had low progesterone. Also if you're a bit over or under weight then try to gain or lose a little, get active too as this can help and try not to think about it too much (I know ... unlikely!)
Good luck!

Slimjimtobe · 03/02/2023 18:37

Your only on your first month. It took me a year or more at aged 33

antipodeancanary · 03/02/2023 18:44

We couldn't conceive at that age. Maybe you are different.

InTheFutilityRoomEatingBiscuits · 03/02/2023 18:44

Yes, it’s frustrating. And I’m not someone who struggles to conceive, in fact I conceive quite easily and it’s never taken me longer than 6 months.

And yet for each one of my DC, it took us two-four years before we were able to hold a healthy baby in our arms each time despite being lucky enough to conceive quickly.

the whole thing is a long, long, long waiting game and the two week wait is the shortest bit.

ThirtyThreeTrees · 03/02/2023 18:48

Have you hare an AMH test?

It will give you anniversary of your fertility and changes of conceiving naturally.

Good luck with it.

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LilMissSmiler84 · 03/02/2023 18:58

What’s AMH test?

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Taz29duffy1 · 03/02/2023 19:05

I couldn’t conceive at 37. Did 5 IVF rounds with no success. Took a long time to grief. Moved to donor eggs (after a lot of thought and reflection) and had multiple miscarriages. I had immune treatment and now at 44 am pregnant. You can be a mum, but the path may not be as hoped. Good luck

SilentNightDancer · 03/02/2023 19:12

It took nine cycles for me. And I was using OPKs almost from the start.

allgoodthings84 · 03/02/2023 19:31

Everyone is different

I’m now 38. Started ttc when I was 37. I got pregnant on cycle 5 but it ended in a chemical then got pregnant again cycle 6 and was another chemical. Then on cycle 7 I got pregnant again and am now 11 weeks.

MichaelKeaton · 03/02/2023 20:32

My sister had a baby at 38, not just the first month of trying, the first time of trying. It’s not impossible, everyone is different.

But I don’t think that people telling you it can happen instantly, nor those saying they weren’t able to conceive at all at that age will make you feel better. Just give it a go and see what happens. If it doesn’t happen after six months seek support, and in the meantime research what options there are available to you. And if you want to, have testing done to see where you are now.

Sucessinthenewyear · 03/02/2023 20:37

I never conceived in the first month with my 4 pregnancies.

Lots of people have been asking this question lately but there is no simple answer, it maybe no problem for some people, for others it maybe too late or they may have not been able to conceive at any age.

ThirtyThreeTrees · 03/02/2023 20:42

An AMH test measures your ovarian reserves. It checks your ability to produce eggs which can be fertilised. It's carried out like a blood test. There is a age range scale so you'll get an idea of how fertile you are.

A high AMH just means you have the egg reserve, it doesn't guarantee you will gt pregnant. If you have a very low reserve, the doctor may give you something to improve it etc.

stairgates · 03/02/2023 20:58

You may be completely fine but as other have suggested book in for some tests if you can and try and track ovulation if you can for a few months as 25/26 day cycles are short, you can probably get an app or some of the smart watches can help.

IVFbeenverylucky · 04/02/2023 07:45

Your title made me laugh. I had my first at 38, going on 39; my second 10 days before I turned 40 and I am not pregnant with my third, aged 41. Admittedly if I was younger I would probably have a fourth which I think I won't do now, but still 38 is the new 28 when it comes to have a baby! All of mine were IVF (not because of my age - it's complicated), but who cares?!
I'm sure others have said this, but worth checking your AMH levels - simple blood test on first day of pregnancy - which tells you your "egg count" and gives you an idea. But 38 is rarely too late unless you have endo or something else.

Maryquitecontrary55 · 04/02/2023 08:13

It's pure luck OP and depends on your own fertility. Some women will conceive at 38 or 39 and for some It's too late. You won't know which you are until you try.

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