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Reduced movement - handhold

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Aldisfinest · 03/02/2023 03:31

Not sure if I'll get any replies as it's pretty late. I'm 34 weeks pregnant and have not felt my baby move in hours. I know what you're all going to say. Go to the hospital. I can't until morning. I have my child and my partner is away at work. He's a lorry driver. I've called up and ask if I can bring my child but they've said no and if I come they can't allow me on the ward with her. I have to wait until morning when I can drop her at school then I'll be on my way there. I have literally no one else. I've been crying as I'm so scared that something is really wrong. I can't sleep, all I keep thinking about is worst case scenario. Please don't tell me to go to the hospital now. I literally can't. If I could I would go. I just need a handhold until morning.

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PleaseCleanTheWholeToilet · 03/02/2023 03:33

Have you tried all the things that may make baby move?
Drinking something icy cold and jiggly you tummy around abit?

sjxoxo · 03/02/2023 03:34

I found my baby was much less wriggly at the end which worried me but it was because he was short of space.. so keep breathing; the worst case scenario is very very very unlikely and it’s far more likely they are calm because they are snug!
Go to the hospital tomorrow for peace of mind; but know that the worst case scenario is very very very very unlikely and tomorrow in the light of day you will feel calmer! Xxxxx

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Aldisfinest · 03/02/2023 03:35

I've just had a glass of cranberry juice to hopefully wake him up. Just waiting with my hand on my belly. I'm so scared

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NameChangeFor2023 · 03/02/2023 03:35

Ice cold water. Lots of sugary food. Lay on side (they say left but I found right better so be prepared to try both).

I'm surprised they wouldn't let you bring a child in this circumstance.

Please try to not worry, it's been a few hours, if you were asleep you wouldn't notice. Also, mine would be really quiet one day but would have been super active the day before or day after and just having a sleepy day. It's not always bad news. My first, I went in for reduced movements once, my second, I just held off a bit as it would have been more effort to go in (I do not advise this, though, and was because the movements were softer, not non-existent)

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Aldisfinest · 03/02/2023 03:38

Thank you both for replying. To be honest I don't know if it's typical or not for baby to move at this time as I'm normally fast asleep but he was a bit quiet before I got into to bed at about 10ish. So worrying kept me up. Haven't felt him move since then. I have anxiety anyway so I'm just thinking of the worst case scenario. Im even more panicked that I can't get to the hospital right now.

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Aldisfinest · 03/02/2023 03:41

@NameChangeFor2023 I was surprised too tbh. I said to them that I'm really worried, I was told there is strictly no children allowed on the ward because if anything happens they can not provide me with childcare. Which is fair enough. Normally I have my mum around, I would have dropped my daughter to her but she's currently on holiday with her partner. He's normally a very active baby so to not feel him for over 4 hours is foreign to me and honestly terrifying.

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Babyenroute · 03/02/2023 03:52

Handhold! Flowers
It's so worrying but likely he's just having a snooze.
Have you tired laying on your left side? When I had reduced movements I called triage and they were super busy so said to lay on my left side for two hours first and come in if he still wasn't moving, maybe worth a shot along with the juice and ice water. Another thing to try is lay on your back, raise your hips like a half bridge and do a bit of a wiggle (more vigorous than you would expect for 10 secs or so at a time). I had to do that during a few scans to get him to move.
A further thing I was told is light can wake them as your skin slightly translucent so shining a torch over your belly and moving it about is another trick you could try but I never did this so can't personally recommend it!
There was one time my movements really tapered off just because he had changed position and was kicking me in a place I couldn't feel it with less room for his feet.

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Aldisfinest · 03/02/2023 03:57

Thank you for the handhold @Babyenroute I'm holding he's just changed position. I do have an anterior placenta but up until today I've never had issues with movements at all. I'm hoping he's just kicking into the placenta. I'm trying to sleep but I keep thinking the worst. When morning comes I think I'll feel calmer knowing that I can go and get checked out. Only a few hours until then.

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NameChangeFor2023 · 03/02/2023 04:01

I have bad anxiety so I know how you feel. I was always so anxious with my first. Then I was ok with my second until things started going wrong and the anxiety crept back in.

I don't even know what to suggest if you have nobody around. Not long left. Baby is probably tired and preparing to give you a huge battering tomorrow!! Most likely that all is ok, just get on that side after ice water and hold your bump until you're happy you've felt movement.

Best of luck and I hope he gives a nice, big kick, soon!!

Kentlassie · 03/02/2023 04:03

Handhold here too. I hope everything is ok.

user49753267547005 · 03/02/2023 04:04

OP I would ring an ambulance or just turn up at A&E. They need to see you and they cannot dismiss you like that.

PleaseCleanTheWholeToilet · 03/02/2023 04:05

Never follow the advice of
Baby has less room to move, all will be fine
PLEASE EVERYONE, ANY LACK / CHANGE OF MOVEMENT warrants a hospital visit

LadyJ2023 · 03/02/2023 04:07

In my experience of 4 dont feel that much near the end no room at the inn lol

PleaseCleanTheWholeToilet · 03/02/2023 04:08

Try something really icy / Shine a torch in and give belly a wiggle.

Even if you do feel movements today, please do still go to the hospital and its still different for you

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Aldisfinest · 03/02/2023 04:08

Thank you all for the replies. I would go to the hospital if I could, I don't want to drag my 6 year old out of bed to be turned away. They've told me they will turn me away. There's really nothing I can do until morning. I've felt a little roll so feeling a little bit more reassured until I can get to the hospital

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Aldisfinest · 03/02/2023 04:10

Yes even if he starts having a party in there. I will go to the hospital.

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PleaseCleanTheWholeToilet · 03/02/2023 04:12

Hopefully all is well and he will make his mumma pay for waking him up when he was peacefully sleeping :) xx

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Aldisfinest · 03/02/2023 04:14

Thank you all for the handholds. I'm feeling a little less panicked and I'm going to try and get a couple hours until I have to wake up. I will update you all.

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PleaseCleanTheWholeToilet · 03/02/2023 04:15

Hope you sleep well

SwayingInTime · 03/02/2023 04:20

I’m a midwife, people bring kids all the time, if you need seeing, you need seeing, I would ring and ask to talk to coordinator/ senior midwife there and if no solution found, ask them to escalate to the Matron on your behalf.

oopswhatdoido · 03/02/2023 04:50

That's disgraceful. I am a midwife and although no children are allowed in, in these circumstances we would of course allow a child in. If anything were to happen, a midwife of care assistant would sit with child until you had someone come in. Best of luck. I would be sending in a. Complaint about how you were refused admission

bakewellbride · 03/02/2023 05:01

In your shoes I'd have turned up to hospital with my child long ago and kicked up a huge fuss / refuse to leave. It's not worth the risk imo.

JadeTC · 03/02/2023 05:07

Handhold for you ✨ I hope you've been able to get some sleep and that your little one is healthy xx

violetcuriosity · 03/02/2023 05:21

Fingers crossed everything is ok, it's awful waiting to feel movements x

JelloFishy · 03/02/2023 05:30

Does your little ones school have a breakfast club? If so can you drop them off a bit earlier?

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