How did you know you were done?

[LittlemissMama67]

My third baby is currently 4 months old. I have an 8 year old from a previous relationship and 2 girls almost 3 and 4 months with my fiancé. After my 1st I knew for certain I wanted another, there was no question I was going to have another baby. After my second I couldn't say for certain that window was closed. But I didn't want another anytime soon, I accidentally got pregnant last year and now I have my third baby. Now I know for absolute certain this is it for me. I'd be happy for my partner to get the snip. And that's how I know I'm 100% done

When our nursery told us they were putting up prices by 11% this year!
Another baby would mean I couldn't afford to work for the next few years and I really enjoy working (part time) and having a balance between working and parenting.

That sucks! We got a bigger car to accommodate our 3rd, our house has 3
bedrooms my son has one and the girls will share when baby gets to about 1 and a half 2. We can afford to give a good life to the 3 we have. If we were to have 4 the bedrooms would be cramped. The car would have to go I. Favour of a 7 seater. We'd be skint at all times and my mental health would plummet. 3 is our lot

I'm pregnant with number 3 and since before we even had kids we always wanted 3, so I believe this will be it. My kids are 4 & 1.

Supporting 3 kids financially is tough enough as it is but very happy for the newest arrival in September.

I'm done with 2. I hate being pregnant and the cost of nursery means I'm going to be off work for 3 years. Two boys close together in age, I'm happy 😊

I agree I hate pregnancy. All my 3 have gotten progressively worse as well. I was at risk of a stroke during the final stages of my last one because they couldn't keep my blood pressure under control. I don't think my body can take it again

I was done at 2. In an ideal world I'd have had 3 (I am one of 3) but couldn't face more years of childcare costs and needing a bigger home and car, and I have no regrets.

first was a natural delivery then an emergency section and an elective section. I can't go through c section recovery again, there's no way.

Lots of reasons, but primarily I think it would really mess my body up beyond recovery. I have 2, had them slightly older and the second pregnancy was so much physically harder than the first. I have a lingering hip problem, and weak core after 2 c sections which give me back ache. I think most of this can be fixed by losing some weight and a consistent excercise regime. I have lost a stone and a half and have about another stone to go, but it would really upset me to have to start from a postpartum body again!

Two days after dd2 was born I was sat in A&E with suspected DVT, crying my eyes out because because dd2 was completely nocturnal and dd1 was having a melt down every night because I wasn't sleeping in her room anymore as up with the baby. I knew in that moment I couldn't do it again.

I can't decide if i'm done at 1, need to make up my mind asap as i'll be 38 this year and she'll be 7 in summer. WHY CAN'T I MAKE UP MY MIND 😡

I'm pregnant with my second, due very soon. I can't tell if I'm done yet or not. Perhaps in a few years when I get a pay rise. Until then, I think I'm done. I always dreamt of having 4. I love kids and want a big family

Me too, and I have almost the exact same set up as you. 13yo with previous partner, 3yo and new baby. All boys.

Now 18 months on and still feel exactly the same. For me it feels like this:

I don't feel a yearning for a girl enough to gamble on a 50/50 chance.
Ran out of boys' names XD
I have done childbirth the first time (OK), the time I tried to improve on it (disaster) and the time I just wanted to get through it (fine) and I have absolutely no desire to repeat the experience ever again. Hugely grateful to have had the experience.
I'm done with the little tiny kid phase. Immensely happy to be able to go through it one last time, only a very tiny bit bittersweet that it's the last time. Feel like I've "had my fill".
Don't want to be any older than I already will be once they are all grown up.
Want to do other things with my life other than be an endless baby machine. Feels like the time to move on.
Last pregnancy was uncomfortable, not as enjoyable. I think it would just get worse.
Don't want a bigger house, higher workload of cooking/cleaning/etc, bigger car.
Expense of things like childcare and clothing and toys etc.
Slight fear that the more kids I have the higher the chance of something horrific happening to one of them?? I have no idea if this is crazy but I don't want to tempt fate.

I'm glad lots of you actually 'feel' done! I'd lovely to feel that way. I have three children and things would be harder if we had another but I still have that longing 😩

After Dd (3.5) I thought it was one and done, then got massively broody earlier this year and now I’m 31 weeks with a baby boy. I can’t say I’m closing the door just yet - but if I have number 3 (which I think I will), then it will be fairly soon after this one (I’m thinking ttc when baby is 1). DH swears no more so I said fine, your body, get the snip 🤷🏼‍♀️ and he went ‘well I’m not going to be that hasty just yet’ 😂

My partners desperate for the snip but he's not old enough. I'm on the patch and I will continue to stick them on till menopause quite happily. No more babies on board for me. I've always been so jealous of people who were pregnant if I wasn't, not anymore. I think a switch flipped when I had this baby. I felt complete, I have all my babies now and I'm content with that

We have one, we just knew hard to explain as not one reason just heaps of little ones

I will never be done. Physically, I'd carry on having babies indefinitely. Practically though, I'm done because we have no more bedrooms, no more patience and no more money. My womb and my hormones are aliens who colonise my rational mind, I have to fight it!😃

I would love another baby, another member of the family to love and have fun with. But then I think about still doing the primary school run in another 14 years and I'm like no.

I had two boys and then a girl. Was never bothered about having both but now I do I know I’m done. Not sure if it’s because we got both boys and a girl or because I have 3 or because I’m mid 30s. Maybe a combination of all?
will always get pangs with pregnancy announcements and newborn babies though.

I have 2 , I would’ve loved more but wouldn’t have been able to afford bigger house, car, financial support when they’re older etc..

I knew after my third. Mentally and physically done. I was 26 when my last was born. I’m 34 now and I’m glad we didn’t have a 4th.

I’m currently pregnant with #3 and I’m terrified I’ll never have that feeling of being “done”.

Coz it's hard enough with the 2 I already have! I might have went for another if I'd had my kids a bit younger but I had them at 31 and 34. If I had another I'd want youngest to be started school and I'd be too close to 40 to start all over again. No thanks!

I have 10 and 13 year old daughters and currently pregnant with third at 42. So yes it will be last one, I'm happy with age gap, as I don't have to babysit them all, girls can also help plus learn through having baby at home. Expenses wise I don't have to worry about childcare cost due to nature of my work, plus I find more money goes to older children as extra activities ....so the youngest one will not me much of financial strain until it goes high school.

I have 2 and still want another but DH not keen so I suspect that's it. Think I do worry that even if I had another I would still not feel done !!!"