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MIL buying pram without consulting

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Levi18 · 08/01/2023 21:13

So I’m 9 weeks almost 10 weeks pregnant with my first baby, my MIL is apparently really excited (her 5th grandchild) I haven’t seen her only met her once. Today my OH told me that she found a great deal and bought me a pram. I was in complete shock and asked what sort of pram? Why did she buy it etc. he doesn’t even know what colour just that it’s an ickle bubba maybe the stomp one, after it settled I told him that while it’s a really nice gift and nice thought, it’s far too early, also my mum wanted to buy me my 1st pram and that I wanted to go around and look at prams do research etc. he took this very badly saying he’s really thankful that she bought such an expensive gift for us, he went in a strop said he’ll tell her to send it back but she’ll be furious and really upset! I told him not to bother telling her, but have since asked for her number I thought I might message her and say the above really, I cannot see how she would be upset or angry surely you don’t just buy someone a pram without consulting them first? Any advice?

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RolandOnTheRopes · 09/01/2023 20:51

Way too early to buy a pram. Have you had any scans? You could be having twins 😁

GreenManalishi · 09/01/2023 20:53

A pram isnt the focus here. A man who feels that his mother must not be upset or offended at any cost, hasn't cut the apron strings.

This is a little snapshot of boundaryless things to come.

RolandOnTheRopes · 09/01/2023 20:54

Way too early to buy a pram. Have you had any scans? You could be having twins 😁

IntoTheDeepDark · 09/01/2023 20:55

It's a really weird thing for her to do. 9 weeks pregnant is really really early. I didn't buy anything until the last month or so. Nothing to do with superstition it's just not practical.

IntoTheDeepDark · 09/01/2023 20:56

It's a really weird thing for her to do. 9 weeks pregnant is really really early. I didn't buy anything until the last month or so. Nothing to do with superstition it's just not practical.

IntoTheDeepDark · 09/01/2023 20:57

It's a really weird thing for her to do. 9 weeks pregnant is really really early. I didn't buy anything until the last month or so. Nothing to do with superstition it's just not practical.

blahblah33 · 09/01/2023 20:57

Starsinthesky22 · 09/01/2023 20:36

Maybe an unpopular opinion but I don’t think this is a ‘really nice’ thing to do! It’s quite controlling and shows little consideration for how you may feel especially by buying it so early on.

Also of this opinion. Overstepping this far, so early on doesn't come across as nice to me. It comes across as laying her stall out and I would be prepared for a whole lot worse, especially since your DP doesn't seem to understand and back you either. I know he's offered to sort it but with zero understanding of why this completely oversteps boundaries.

beachcitygirl · 09/01/2023 21:01

I think it's bloody awful.
Controlling & insensitive & over the lineS

I would be putting my foot right down.

My first baby died just after he was born.

Pregnancy is still dangerous for mother & baby
What planet is she and he on.

beachcitygirl · 09/01/2023 21:02

I think it's bloody awful.
Controlling & insensitive & over the lineS

I would be putting my foot right down.

My first baby died just after he was born.

Pregnancy is still dangerous for mother & baby
What planet is she and he on.

GettingItOutThere · 09/01/2023 21:10

honestly be very careful here with your partner. Speaking from experience, when they say in conversation "well my mum, brother, sister, hamster whatever, says x".
you are fucked.

boundaries today or you will be in for a really shit time

sexnotgenders · 09/01/2023 21:28

Sod the MIL, I'd be more worried about your partner's reaction to all this. He sounds like a sulky immature teenager. He's got some growing up to do if he's going to support you properly and be a strong father to your child. That starts with having your back and speaking to his mother

BeeDavis · 09/01/2023 21:38

We bought our pram second hand when I was 7/8 weeks pregnant.. couldn’t turn it down was such a bargain 😅

BabyMomma2021 · 09/01/2023 21:49

Agree this isn't a 'nice thing' to do. It's selfish and shows no consideration for what you might want.

Choosing a pram is a big milestone and I'd be bloody fuming if someone tried to take that away from me.

Your baby, your rules. Put your foot down now!

Urgh why do people do shit like this!!!

SeasonFinale · 09/01/2023 22:03

I just bought a pram system for DIL and son. The thing is they chose it, sent me the link and I sent them the money to get it. They then sent me a picture of it when it arrived. This was a month before the baby arrived.

Her mum bought nursery furniture. I was happy to buy what they wanted and would have deferred to her mum having first choice of what she wanted to buy as long as it was what they wanted.

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