What week did you tell parents - pregnant

[RubyF30]

I have a very close relationship with my parents. My husband and I are 6 weeks pregnant.

I don't know whether to tell my parents now or wait.

Only thing making me want to tell now is that I was pregnant before but had a mc. When I was pregnant I had horrendous nausea and struggled to hide it.

I think I was around 5/6 weeks with both my DD's 😊 only parents knew though, until we had our 12 week scan.

Congrats!! 🎉

I was pregnant in lockdown so it was easy to hide the nausea from people. We chanced it by telling our parents at 11 1/2 weeks, even before the scan. I don't think we'd do that again, but at the time everyone was miserable from yet another lockdown, having been promised it would be lifted for Christmas Day and then that being cancelled just days before. So we told our parents on Christmas morning at 11 1/2 weeks.

My parents at 9 weeks, and DH’s at 12, because that is when we were seeing them in person for events when we couldn’t hide it easily.

I was reluctant to tell people in case of miscarriage, but decided to tell people whose support I would want if needed.

It's just you that's pregnant, I think you'll find your husband isn't.

I always told people from 15 weeks on, preferred to keep it to ourselves before then.

Its such a personal thing. I was days away from telling my mum at 12 weeks and then the NIPT showed trisomy 13. Mum would have been supportive, but my DH found it very difficult to cope with and wanted to keep it private till he could understand and deal with it all. I told mum afterwards. I've since had 2 further losses which didn't get to 12 weeks- so never told family at the time about those either. Everyone is different and each to their own though. Best of luck with your rainbow OP x

@MarmiteCoriander so sorry ❤️

@Garman I'm very aware my husband isn't physically pregnant but many people on here with half a brain cell understands what I mean. So take your snarky comment elsewhere.

I've had two pregnancies. First we told at 4/5 weeks and then I went on to miscarry at 6 weeks. Telling them that we had lost it was awful. Second pregnancy we waited till we had a private 11 week scan. During covid so my partner wasnt allowed to the nhs 12 week scan.

I'm currently 9 weeks & I've told 'our' parents & some close friends. This is my second pregnancy & in my first I was very guarded & terrified if I told people, things would go wrong. Well things did go very wrong & my DD was incredibly poorly when she was born. It's made me look at this one differently & try to be more relaxed. I think each to their own, but I wanted to let a few close friends know this time round in case something does go wrong, for support. Also I don't mean to be depressing, but there's nothing to stop anything going wrong at any time. My brother & his wife lost a baby half way through the pregnancy last week. Do what feels right for you

With my first pregnancy, I was planning on telling parents at 12 weeks but our GP accidentally informed my dad he was going to be a grandfather! The GP then called me to apologise and said I could make a complaint against her. So I ended up phoning my dad to tell him that same day.... with our 2nd I got a high nuchal blood testing reading and had to undergo further tests so we didn't tell any one until I was 18 weeks

So I told my parents when I was 6 weeks with the first baby

Hi @RubyF30 congratulations on your pregnancy!
Me and hubby told our Mum's the day i took the test, i must have been only 2 / 3 weeks pregnant.

@RubyF30 i told my mum and dad immediately, literally found out and FaceTimed my mum so I was just over 3 weeks🤣🤣 I had a mc before and it had been a few months of trying so I was over the bloody moon😂 partners parents were waiting till closer to 20 weeks

We told immediate family after private scan at 7weeks because it was so hard to hide. Scan gave us the confidence and reassurance we needed to start off withBut we are saving the news until 12week scan for everyone else as we are aware that risk reduces xx CONGRATULATIONS!!!

My mum guessed before I'd even done a test. Didn't tell anyone else for a long time because of previous miscarriages.

Fairly early with the first couple. Not until about 6 months with my last 2.

With our first we were 12 weeks but we found out late at almost 11 weeks so didn't have to wait long.
With this pregnancy I was 9ish weeks, we'd probably have waited until 12 but I had severe sickness from 4 weeks and it was getting harder to cope with that and a 3yo so we needed support around us.

Parents at 7 weeks after we had our early scan and confirmed viable/heartbeat (ivf baby)

Told some close family who were staying for 5 days over Xmas on Christmas Eve after a private scan earlier in the day (9weeks 5days) . Didn’t fancy dodging alcohol and trying to cover up feeling rubbish.

Will ‘publicly’ announce after 12 week NHS scan I think.,

Congratulations xx

First time at 7 weeks after we did a private scan and second time at 4 weeks as soon as we found out we see them almost daily though so would be hard not to tell them!

1st pregnancy/ 1st child - told at 6 weeks
2nd pregnancy/ mc at 8 weeks - told at 6 weeks
3rd pregnancy/ mc at 17 weeks - told at 12 weeks
4th pregnancy/ 2nd child - told at 22 weeks

Was staying with MIL when my Xmas day test ( from ivf) showed a positive.
My screams of joy were clearly audible in a small flat.

Family wedding for my family a week later and I was not drinking and starting to feel sick.

So basically everyone knew really quickly.

If your husband is pregnant I'd contact the Daily Mail to sell his story, you could make a fortune. Imagine the images of your matching bumps!

With DC1, following a MC, it was 12weeks by Zoom that I told my parents (first day of lockdown 1).

With DC2, it was 16w (further multiple MC and threatened MC in between so high anxiety).

Got pregnant not long after being told we'd never conceive naturally and would need (whatever the more advanced ivf is, the one where they inject the sperm into the egg).

There was no happiness, we were bloody terrified we'd lose it so decided to tell the parents at 7/8 weeks so someone would be happy/excited. Both sets said something along the lines of 'it's very early, we'll see what happens' 😬😬 Felt like they were waiting for a mc, really wished we'd not bothered.

Baby was early but fine 😊

First baby, we told them as soon we knew. Second baby, we waited until the 12 week scan and they were all very surprised! Telling them all so early the first time made my first trimester drag and I almost felt a lot of pressure (that I put on myself) and thought if I miscarried I'd disappoint everyone. I didn't and both babies were born healthy but I preferred the choice we made second time.