What week did you tell parents - pregnant

[RubyF30]

I have a very close relationship with my parents. My husband and I are 6 weeks pregnant.

I don't know whether to tell my parents now or wait.

Only thing making me want to tell now is that I was pregnant before but had a mc. When I was pregnant I had horrendous nausea and struggled to hide it.

8+weeks but only because it was Christmas probably would have waited until 12w scan otherwise

After the 20 week scan

I told my DM as soon as I saw a positive on my FRER . DH told DMIL the day after. It was exciting having people to share my pregnancy with.

Told our DBs at 12 weeks and friends as and when we saw them. Through my pregnancy.

Ooh about 5 mins after the test.

YOU are pregnant though, pleeease get to grips with that

Congratulations. Same day as 12/13 weeks scan for each of mine.

6 weeks last time we told mine, told his at 8 weeks. Had a meal with them at 5 weeks this time and had to tell them as I wasn’t drinking. Still haven’t told his parents and we’re going to wait til 12 weeks this time as I felt really uncomfortable with them knowing last time. We aren’t close to them at all and we wouldn’t tell them if it was bad news, whereas I’d tell my mum for support if it was so felt I should tell her early again

The minute I peed on a stick with both of them (4 weeks) but I live overseas and wasn't seeing them anytime soon.
Told my siblings and best friends straight away as well.
I knew I'd need support if anything went wrong but it's a totally personal decision.

1st: Immediately. Sadly it ended with MC a few weeks later.
2nd: 12 weeks. I hated everyone making a fuss over me after the MC, so I delayed until we knew it was likely a viable pregnancy.
3rd: 8 weeks. Mum figured it out and asked me directly if I was pregnant, and I wasn't going to lie.

Personally I don't like the superstition that comes with waiting until 12w. There's no shame in losing a baby. I'm incredibly close to my parents and my sisters and if anything happened I'd need their support. I'm currently pregnant with my 3rd baby and I've told my mum and my sisters immediately after getting a positive pregnancy test! We tell DH family whenever we see them as they live the other side of the country. This time it was 8w. We had an early scan at 7w.

We had IVF so parents knew the news was coming but not exactly when. We told them on the official clinic test day (about 4 weeks) then told other family/close friends after our 8 week scan

I told my parents a day before my 12 week scan (I was almost 12 weeks). I am now 12 weeks 5 and we still haven’t told my DP’s parents because I want to be firmly in the second trimester before we say anything. I pretended I was ill due to the winter season illnesses when I had morning sickness. I would rather wait until I’m showing before I tell everyone else.

Thank you to everyone for their lovely comments. Thankyou for being so open! And congratulations to you all.

To those with their smart comments about how I'm pregnant and not my husband - get over yourself. The majority of people with a brain know exactly what I'm talking about.
So all the trolls out there who done have a life can go get one and take your rude comments elsewhere. Idiots.

Both times I waited until our private early scan so 7 weeks with the first and 9 weeks with the second. I’d have probably told them later in the second pregnancy but I was going round for my birthday weekend and he’d bought four bottles of spirits for a cocktail weekend 🤣.

First baby: after 12 week scan. Second baby: 7 weeks as it was Christmas and we were with them. I was horrifically tired and bleugh so told my mum so she’d feel sorry for me and make Christmas lunch for me. 🤣

Told my parents and in laws very early both times (few days after a positive test).
as we were going on holiday and they would wonder why I wasn't drinking or going on rollercoasters... but waited until I had my 12 week before telling anyone else.

Just trying to save you from 9 months of eye rolling. Idiots, just letting you know

You're the one being rude! We know exactly what you mean - doesn't stop it from being factually wrong and ridiculous to say.

YOU are pregnant.
WE are expecting a baby.

@RubyF30 you made a very silly statement that makes you look like a twit. You were pulled up on it and have chosen to be very rude.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope all four trimesters are easy.

My DC are grown up now and I would say there is no reason to tell anyone before the 12 week scan. We had a lot of hiccups along the way and there were times when support would have been helpful over a loss and from experience all losses are different, their impacts are different and how people respond is different.

At the end of the day your pregnancy is big and exciting news for you. It isn't that exciting to other people, especially work colleagues who have no need to know before 14/16 weeks.

Most first pregnancies don't show until about 16/17 weeks unless the person wants to make a big deal of it and can be covered up with a tunic/swing top/loose jacket or cardigan.

8 weeks first time (ended in loss at 12 wks), 12 weeks second time

@nannyquestion1 @RosesAndHellebores this is meant to be a happy post about sharing her big news, I really don’t think it’s necessary to call her out on a ‘silly statement’ which honestly who actually cares about 🤣 if you don’t like what she’s written just leave the thread without commenting

About 5 weeks, my parents have a key to my house and went round while I was at work to fix a plug socket for me (DF is an engineer) and I completely forgot that I'd left my pregnacare next to the kettle! 🤦‍♀️

14 weeks and too scared to tell anyone due to previous losses 😣Planning to tell once it's showing but not to the point where people would ask as they know about the losses, thus it would be unfair to put them in a position where they would have to ask if that makes sense. Also got to tell one friend before it becomes public as they have struggles and should be sensitively told in advance.
Planning to arrange a private scan once ready to tell, just to make sure everything is okay. PAL sucks.
When do you think you'll be telling OP?

It really doesn’t matter what anyone else chose to do, only what feels right for you. If you’re feeling very sick, have a miscarriage, a fetal anomaly is detected etc would you like your parents to know?
It depends on the type of person you are and the relationship you have with your parents. I didn’t personally feel that it would be helpful for my parents to know if I had a miscarriage etc so I didn’t tell them until a reassuring 12 week scan and NIPT results.

I’ve told both sets of parents around 6 weeks with every baby. We’re all so close and I figured I’d want the support from them should something go wrong.

About an hour after I peed on the stick. Lol