Would you be annoyed?

[Flowerpower97]

Hello I'm new here I found out I was pregnant and told my family at 4 weeks. I'm now 7 weeks and my sister have literally just found out she is pregnant. She started trying soon as I said I was. This is my first baby. She has a 3 year old and always said she's going to try when he was 5 and they'd moved house. Would you be annoyed?

No

No. Don’t engage in this silliness. Your baby is special no matter what and nice to grow up with a cousin.

No, I wouldn't give it another thought which, if it is meant the way you think, will be extremely annoying.

I would be delighted. This says either a lot about you or a lot about your relationship with your sister.

Yeah I tried to not be annoyed but she's worrying if I will have the first granddaughter. She spent the day crying to our mum when I found out I was pregnant as she was worried her son will be pushed out but absolutely not the case.

No, I was pregnant with my SIL. Our sons are cousins and friends.

Why the f* would it matter what sex either of your babies is? Existing grandchild "pushed out"? What madness. Is your mum an awful human being?

I've had a miscarriage myself so this baby is so wanted. But I'm on edge. Because the miscarriage I'm having a scan next week. She's gone to book a scan private on the same day. No our mum treats us both the same. She idolises the grandson. I don't mind what I have . But our mum guessed I'd have a girl because of how ny symptoms are and she's exactly the same as she carried her boy. I've told my sister it is all old wive tales but we have had full on tears as she's convinced i will have a girl. I'm not even finding out baby's sex which have caused another strop from her. She's totally ruining this experience for me.

No I would not be annoyed, I'd be delighted. Your baby and your sister's will be close in age which is lovely for cousins. Her eldest will be roughly four years old when her new baby arrives so not far off what she originally planned, quite a nice age difference.

Why are you upset about this? She won't steal your thunder and I doubt she intends to.

I have replied above you some more.

Your sister's hormones are playing up! You don't know for certain you are having a girl and what difference would that make to your sister anyway or does she particularly want to have a niece for some reason? Honestly, what does it matter; when the babies arrived, they will be loved.

Don't let this spoil your pregnancy, try to keep calm because it will pass. As you seem to be setting each other off at the moment, perhaps keep a little distance from your sister, be unavailable.

I hope all goes well for you, op, and - congratulations!

So your sister started trying, conceived and confirmed a pregnancy within 3 weeks? That's incredibly fast. Presumably she was actually trying before you told everyone you were pregnant.

I don't see the issue.

Not just fast. Unbelievably fast.

There’s a 25% chance you’ll both have boys! And another 25% chance you’ll both have girls! Then there’s a 25% chance you’ll have a girl and she’ll have another boy, and the last 25% chance possibility is that you’ll have a boy and she’ll have a girl - so only a 25% chance of your sister getting the combination of events it sounds like she really wants? Ignore your sister’s ridiculousness, she doesn’t get any kind of vote in your choice to have children.
Start talking about how it will be lovely to have 2 cousins the same age in the family.

I think you need to chat to your mum and tell her you're worried about your sister. She seems to have got herself in a state and it is probably only your mum that can reassure her. She hasn't helped with her announcements about the symptoms etc. Do it in a kind and caring way and then leave your sister to it. Hopefully it will settle down.

I'd be delighted if my sister and I were pregnant at the same time. She'll have alot of helpful tips as a second time mum!

No because if you told her at 4 weeks and she's now pregnant when your 7 weeks, she actually conceived before you even told her.

You're being quite ridiculous.

No she come off the pill the day I said I was pregnant she told me. Yeah I think it'll be nice cousins close in age. I really don't mind what I have a boy or girl. But she's praying literally i get a boy and her a girl. I'll speak to our mum.

Yeah she's praying me boy her girl combo. We could likely both have boys 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yeah I think I will thank you

The dates still dont work tho? Noone will do her a private scan before 6 weeks, so shes either started trying before you announced or shes being optimistic/disingenuous(?) about dates and scans.

It sounds like a lot of drama at such an early stage for you... can you just focus on yourself and your baby for now a bit? ❤️

Also 3 weeks is way too early for her to have most of the symptoms that people associate with boy or girl - the baby itself doesnt even have a defined sex yet and wont for a couple of months so just dont engage with all that!

Yes, I think your hormones might be playing up, you are being ridiculous. You can’t dictate how others live their lives. Did you see the poster whose friend didn’t want her to be pregnant at her wedding? This is the same thing. Just enjoy your life and let her live hers.

I wouldn’t be concerned at all about her having a baby so close in age to my own.. actually that’s really lovely, my 1st DC is two months older than my DB’s 3rd DC and it’s been so nice watching them grow up together plus I think it strengthens the bond between my child and my brothers eldest two, as they see my DC almost as an extra little sibling like their sister. It’s very sweet.
Wait and see how it pans out re the seemingly high drama. Early pregnancy can be a bit of a rollercoaster and it’ll likely all settle down once a few more weeks have passed.

You are being very silly.