Would you be annoyed?

[Flowerpower97]

Hello I'm new here I found out I was pregnant and told my family at 4 weeks. I'm now 7 weeks and my sister have literally just found out she is pregnant. She started trying soon as I said I was. This is my first baby. She has a 3 year old and always said she's going to try when he was 5 and they'd moved house. Would you be annoyed?

You both sound like you've got a lot of growing up to do before these babies make an appearance. It would probably help if your mum would also stop sticking her oar in re baby's sex. There's no possible way you can tell what's between baby's legs yet, so tell her to pipe down.

Fwiw I've already got a boy, I'm expecting a girl and my symptoms throughout have been EXACTLY THE SAME.

And she is being ridiculous

Sounds like you have a dysfunctional relationship

You are creating drama out of nothing,

You cant change other peoples actions but you can change how you react to them.

Enjoy your pregnancy, your sisters insecurities are hers. You do not have to react to them. Let it go over your head.

See the positives of two cousins growing up together. Don't let this get toxic and ruin what ever relationship the children potentially can have.

Just stop telling her stuff about this pregnancy - be vague, say you don't know or haven't decided yet.

Wow so she stopped taking the method that stops women ovulating...days later she ovulated and became pregnant and knew when to test despite probably not having a proper cycle and found out she was pregnant?

Or...she had been trying for a while and just told you that because she's immature.

Or...

Yeah she's praying me boy her girl combo. We could likely both have boys 🤷🏼‍♀️

Or 2 girls......

I wouldn't be upset about her announcing her pregnancy. I would however speak to your mom about the obsession with girls and how it's affecting your sister.
Your sister needs to understand any grandchildren will be loved regardless of gender .

Yabu to tell anyone at 4 weeks.

Well, her sister managed to come off the pill, get pregnant, announce it and book a scan in 3 weeks. So just announcing in 4 sounds positively reasonable.

Why? I had a MMC earlier in the year and told my mum straight away about this one. I wasn't even four weeks when I found out. I'm scared and wanted the support. Perhaps OP felt the same.

OP I totally get where you're coming from. Unfortunately mumsnet posters have a habit of trying to make the poster feel really bad for feeling totally normal human emotions!
My sister in law had a baby just after we had ours and I know she wanted one because she saw all the grandparents giving our baby lots of cuddles and wanted the same for herself. I felt a bit irritated by it at the time but the reason you can't be annoyed is because everyone has the option to do what they want with their body and unfortunately there's nothing anyone can do about that xx

No i couldn't be happier that me and my sister are both pregnant at the same time - feel so lucky

Your sister sounds like a massive dick

No I think it's lovely she is pregnant at same time as you, why on earth would you feel annoyed? I'm confused

Em no, why would you be annoyed. Are you jealous or think she's stealing your limelight? I don't get it at all. I'd be happy to have someone to share things with while pregnant and a wee friend for ur baby so close in age.

There seems to be a lot of drama and your sister seems to have a weird obsession (booking a scan the same day as you). Maybe you should give less information, about your symptoms, the dates of your scans, etc ... That would lessen the fuel to the drama.

It sounds like the historic triangle relationship between you and your sister and your mum isn't exactly healthy.

My advice? Detach. Just don't talk about it with your sister and if your mum tells you about her crying, say something like "she does seem to be struggling, aren't you worried about her?" And change topic.

Also your sister won't see anything at all on a 5 week scan and most private places wouldn't even offer it.

The fact she is pregnant would not annoy me, I'd actually be buzzing. But the way she is acting would really get on my nerves!

Why did you tell your family so early if your sister is like this??

How the hell has she come off the pill, got pregnant and found out about it in 3 weeks.

Not a cat in hells chance is she having symptoms that suggest boy/girl!

They're not going to see a great deal on a scan at what will be 4 weeks!

She wouldn't have symptoms this early and they mean nothing anyway. I have two boys I had loads of sickness with my first and a lot of food aversions with my second I had no symptoms at all.

No - my sister in law was due 2 weeks before me, it was lovely having pregnancy together and daughters the same age!

I never even considered it being an issue.

Why would I be annoyed by something so petty? You need to broaden your horizons and not indulge in such small-minded parochial behaviour.

You have no right to be annoyed. Her pregnancy is nothing to do with you.

Not at all..maybe you can talk to her and reassure her. People can say crazy things with their insecurites xx