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still in disbelief is this usual?

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fudgeling · 01/12/2004 15:50

hi v new to this. I am 8 weeks pregnant but still believe that the test can't have been positive. I have wanted to get pregnant so can't understand why I feel like this. I have sore boobs, nausea, emotional and tiredness and of course no period. The first test I did was positive and the second test said it hadn't worked but had a positive result. Doctor seemed to accept this. saw midwife at 7 weeks who did no tests and i won't see again until 16 weeks.I have a scan booked for December and am convinced there will be no baby and see me as a big fraud!! Does anyone else feel like this?

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yingers74 · 01/12/2004 15:52

LOL, I remember when i was pregnant with dd, I was not tested by gp or midwife, they just believed me. I too was terrified that i had somehow read the test wrong. However, once the morning sickness kicked in there was no doubt!!!

emMerryChristmastmg · 01/12/2004 15:53

I'd be amazed if you find a first time mum, or any mum for that matter who doesn't feel like that.

Congratulations by the way

Tinker · 01/12/2004 15:53

Think this is very common feeling. Despite 3 scans I still felt I wasn't pregnant. It's only now, at 17 weeks, that I can feel movements (plus am rapidly getting HUGE) that I have started to accept that there is a baby in there.

pixiefish · 01/12/2004 15:53

I remember going for my first scan and was scared that there'd be nothing there .
but there was and she's the love of my life.it'll get more real for you when you start to show and when you feel the baby move. perfectly normal to feel like that

PamiNativity · 01/12/2004 15:54

Hi Fudgeling, welcome to Mumsnet and congratulations!

In answer to your question - yes yes yes! I'm pregnant for the 4th time (3rd time ended in miscarriage) and every time I didn't believe it until I got a scan. I remember turning up for my first 2 12 week scans convinced that there wouldn't be anything there and that I was suffering from delusions. It's totally normal. It won't be too long till your scan and then you will have the evidence in front of your eyes. Best of luck and wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy.

Schmozer · 01/12/2004 15:54

I felt exactly the same. Saw GP at 5 weeks who did no tests, just took my word for it. Next appointment was dating scan at 12 weeks. I was convinced I'd somehow made the whole thing up and didn't really believe I was pregnant till I saw the baby on the screen, but it was worth waiting for. When is your scan?

cazzybabs · 01/12/2004 15:55

With both of mine I went for the scans convinced they would tell me I had made a mistake...I have 2 beautiful daughters..what you are feeling is exactly what I felt TWICE.

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fudgeling · 01/12/2004 15:57

Thanks everyone, feeling much better now, I am sure it is just the emotions screwing me up. The scan is for New Years Eve by the way.

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vict17 · 01/12/2004 15:59

I was the same. I really wanted the gp or nurse to test me again but they said that the preg tests are so accurate nowadays there isn't any point.

Schmozer · 01/12/2004 15:59

What a lovely day for a scan! Only four weeks to wait now, and by then you should be feeling a bit better physically too.

orangina · 01/12/2004 16:05

Hi fudgeling and congrats to you... I know exactly how you feel, am 21 weeks pg with my 1st now, and was so convinced I was somehow making it all up, I went and (privately) got a viability scan done at about 8 weeks. Was so worth it to see the little prawn with it's racing heartbeat. Never had morning sickness but felt fat, tired and busty. If you somehow don't feel you can hold out until NY Eve, I would say put your mind and rest and go for the fetal viability scan, it's so exciting! Good luck...

5goldendillydallys · 01/12/2004 16:07

I too was amazed at GPs response...was expecting a lecture about safety etc and lots of tests but got nothing. I was 29 though in my head I think I am 18.
Didnt feel pregnant until labour, despite getting huge and feeling kicks. It all seemed a bit surreal.

motherinfestivemood · 01/12/2004 16:07

I was genuinely amazed to see anything at my scan. But I remained in quite a serious amount of denial till I was literally in labour - I remember feeling a complete fraud at my antenatal classes, and again when I was told by the midwife she expected me to go into labour fairly soon.

Pidge · 01/12/2004 16:14

I too was convinced there would be nothing there at the scan and I would be soooo embarrassed. I didn't feel pregnant for the first three months, just sick, sick, sick. I didn't really truly believe it till I got a bump and then started feeling the baby kick - that's what truly does it for me, those little kicks that remind you there's a person growing in there!!

FimboCLAUS · 01/12/2004 16:16

I felt exactly like you and even when I went in to have the baby by c/s I was convinced they were going to pull out a massive pumkin or something, anything other than a baby. But when she was born there was no other feeling like it and fell completely in love with her at first sight. Don't worry you will be fine. xx

cat82 · 01/12/2004 16:19

Yep, same here Fudgeling I was so convinced they wouldn't actualy see a baby, i'd given dp strict instructions just to zip me out of the room as fast as possible! But then it came and then i saw my little wiggly jumping baby turning somersaults, my eyes filled up and i couldn't wipe the grin off my face for the rest of the day

You could always tell the doc how you feel and ask if there's any way they'd do one as well, to put your mind at rest?

Congratulations sweetie and welcome to mn!

paolosgirl · 01/12/2004 16:27

I spent a fortune buying home pregnancy tests, to make sure that I was still pregnant for the first few months, until dh put his foot down. Once you start showing and feeling it move, you'll begin to believe it! If it's any consolation, I still look at ds (7) and DD (5), and think "did we really make you - that was pretty clever!!"
Many congratulations!

sweetkitty · 01/12/2004 18:02

wow I felt the exact same did about 5 tests all positive still didn't believe it even when I had 4 scans and felt the baby kick. Even when you're getting kicked in the ribs constantly you still don't equate it to a real life baby. I was in total denial about being in labour until I was pushing. But hey once I saw that baby come out of me it's like nothing on earth, the best feeling in the world ever x100 (or maybe that was the gas and air)

Enjoy your first scan it's great (i'm a little jealous)

THEnorthstar · 01/12/2004 18:07

Mmmm I remember being 8mths pg and finally being persuaded to go to mothercare and get the vests, babygro's etc on the hospital list of essentials and somewhere in the back of my mind thinking "I wonder if they'll take all this stuff back if it's all a huge mistake and it turns out i dont really need it after all"

DelGirl · 01/12/2004 18:10

this will sound odd but I still feel like that even after having my 20 week scan today!!!! Work that one out. This is my 3rd pg, 1st 2 ended in m/c and I don't think I will believe it totally until i've given birth to be honest. Now tell me i'm weird

honeybunny · 01/12/2004 18:12

I still felt the same this time around too (4th pg). I'd say it was the most common feeling ever. Good luck and congrats.

advocaatofthedevil · 01/12/2004 18:15

Yep. I was convinced that my nuchal scan would come up completely blank as I had no symptoms whatsoever. And, to my horror, it did! Luckily, only because the screen was clearing the previous person's scan picture though. I nearly had a heart attack.

berolina · 01/12/2004 20:02

Hi there Fudgeling. Congratulations!
At 14 weeks 1 day, with lovely scan pictures to drool over and with a definite, albeit small, bump I am still finding it hard to believe I'm actually pg! It hasn't 'helped' that I haven't suffered much in the way of symptoms - no nausea, little bladder irritation, just tiredness - but I think even if I had I would be finding the whole thing pretty unreal. Part of it in my case is that my first pregnancy ended in early miscarriage this summer and so I've found it hard to get excited over it and 'let myself in for' the thought, in case it all goes wrong again. But I think any pregnancy is such an amazing thing that it is very difficult to realise a new little person is growing in YOU. I think, for me at least, it'll become more real when I finally feel him/her move. All the best to you!

peskykids · 01/12/2004 21:18

Mnay congratulations.

I remember telling my partner I was pregnant and him asking if I was sure I'd done the test right. Cue angry hormonal female... "Look, I'm an educated woman - I can PIS on a stick - ok!!" (although he has no idea of how tricky it actually* is!

wordsmith · 01/12/2004 21:27

I was convinced I couldn't get pg (no reason why, but it just took a long time) so when I had a positive test I needed a second opinion! I was amazed the doc didn't do another test (I thought they always did) and seemed happy to rely on my over the counter Clearblue! I voiced this opinion again at my 1st antenatal appt (8 weeks) and she said, humouring me, "Do you want me to do another test?" So she made a big play of telling the nurse, "This lady doesn't believe she's pregnant, she wants another test". Of course they just give you another otc test and when it came back positive again the doc said to the nurse "Do you think this VERY STRONG BLUE LINE means that Mrs X is pregnant, sister?" She was taking the p**s of course but I was so releived I laughed along with them. It was only then I believed I was having a baby....and of course every scan I thought the baby would have died.

I think disbelief is only natural, especially if you can't beleive you managed to get pregnant in the first place! I was almost as bad with my second child...

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