Really worried please help

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I’m currently 5 weeks & 5 days pregnant. My boobs have been sore since conception. I’ve just had to tell my 9 year old off for something & I got really stressed I had to go in the bathroom & calm down & I’ve noticed my boobs aren’t sore now(they were sore before the argument) & I’m worried the stress has caused a miscarriage is this likely? It’s took me a year & half after a past miscarriage to conceive & I'm really worried.

I remember this! I was actually at the same stage as you as it was just before 6 weeks. One day the boob pain (my only symptom) completely disappeared. Can you book in for an early private scan? That's what I did and all was fine! He is now 3.
Please try not to stress xx

I’ve got a scan already booked for the 15th November it cannot come quick enough I’m just scared cos they stopped hurting as I was shouting I feel so bad & I'm beating myself up I hope I’ve not done any harm it’s so hard being pregnant when you’ve already got kids I’ve been avoiding arguments until now x

Oh darling. You'll be fine. Before I found out I was pregnant I had the most horrific week with DV issues at home, a hideous breakup and my kitten having a long and painful illness resulting in needing to be put to sleep late at night at an emergency vet (during which I cried so hard I couldn't breathe). I didn't eat or sleep for days and spent a week in a non-functioning hysterical haze. I found out about a week later that I was pregnant and I'm now 27 weeks tomorrow.

Please don't worry. Being stressed at your other child will have in no way caused any damage.

Its not likely at all, that doesn't even register as stress.

Thank you I just don’t know why my boobs stopped hurting all of a sudden they’ve been sore all this time x

You'll go through stages of symptoms being more or less noticeable. Some days my boons are agony and throb without even touching them, other days they act like they couldn't care less. Try to relax a little and enjoy the ride (before the sickness kicks in!).

They have varied in soreness it was just because they totally stopped hurting mid shouting just feel like rubbish about the whole thing x

Symptoms go up and down like a yo-yo and no, shouting at your kid cannot cause a miscarriage. It's more likely it distracted you from thinking about how your boobs feel! I'm 12 weeks and have some days they feel normal and some days they're v painful. Variable!

My anxiety is through the roof I won’t stop worrying until I’ve had my scan I hope everything is okay x

My boobs were so painful but after a few weeks they were fine again I think for me around 6 or 7 week mark. Never sore again until after baby arrives. Definitely not a sign of anything wrong just your body adjusting to pregnancy.

I remember feeling very anxious when after the first few weeks my boobs stopped feeling sore and tender but it came back. The soreness went back and forth. It’s normal as far as I know. I think your body gets more used to the hormones at a point but obviously they then continue to rise. You can look it up, I’m sure I read about this online when I was pregnant.

I’ve read about it too & they have varied in soreness the past week it was just the fact they stopped hurting as I was shouting & worried that me shouting & being stressed has affected my pregnancy x

Please talk to your midwife. This sort of anxiety is unlikely to stop after your scan.

Thank you hope all is fine & it’s just my anxiety it’s just strange x

I’m just worried as my miscarriage last time wasn’t picked up for 2 weeks & my boobs stopped hurting that time but didn’t know I had miscarried until scan I’m just worried sage things has happened x

Maybe adrenaline from the argument? Can block pain to an extent. Possibly once you aren't upset they will go back to being sore

Ahh okay I never thought of that that makes sense. In the moment I just panic I would’ve panicked even more if I didn’t speak to someone I kept things to myself during childhood & I’ve learned as an adult to let things out no matter how it sounds. I probably sound crazy but thank you for reading my post & replying I really appreciate it. I hate overthinking it’s exhausting x

It's absolutely better to talk about things, it's so normal for symptoms to come and go in the healthiest of pregnancies- such a stressful time but do speak to your midwife if you find your anxiety creeping up x

I don’t have my first appointment until December do you think I can still phone up & ask to speak to a midwife before then? I was so excited when I phoned maternity services to book everything in I forgot who the woman said I can speak to before my first appointment x

Absolutely, or failing that speak with the gp. Best to get ahead of any anxiety issues as with the extra worry and hormones it can be a risky time for anxiety becoming a problem x

Thank you so much I feel a bit better now I don’t deal with stress well it really overwhelms me & I can be impulsive & think the worst regardless of the situation I feel like the worlds ending when something happens takes me a while to rationalise things x

That is true. I had very bad anxiety during pregnancy from my first doctors appointment onwards. I kept focusing on fixed points like scans thinking I would feel better after them but I never did (or not for long anyway) and the anxiety just got worse. I didn’t tell anyone but I wish I had now. Definitely phone the midwife and talk to somebody as soon as possible. Good luck xx

1. highly likely that the adrenaline of shouting/anger dulled the pain in the moment, which may then have ebbed anyway.

2. I get these kind of spirals of anxious thinking exactly as you’ve described, and CBT does actually work if you stick with it to sort them out. Speak to a midwife or self-refer via IAPT and give it a try. I did 8 weeks online from home in January 2021 and it’s continued to really improve my life.

3. wishing you so much luck with your pregnancy. I’ve had losses and know how hard it is. Xx

That's just anxiety lovely.

I had hardly any symptoms in any of my pregnancies and if I did they'd come and go.

Definitely phone someone to put your mind at ease (easier said than done) x

Aww thank you so much ladies yous have been so lovely. It makes a change to my partner just telling me to stop worrying or to stay off my phone he’s extremely blunt & insensitive & I’m extremely sensitive. I just end up crying. I appreciate facts & the truth but it’s the way it’s delivered. I’m far too soft for the way he thinks & speaks x