How to know who the father of my child is

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i just found I am pregnant and have irregular periods so it’s difficult to know when I ovulate. I slept with 2 people in a 9 day period, I know most would be able to know as a fertile window is 7 days but because I have irregular periods I’m not sure.

my period started 04/10/22 and I slept with #guy1 condom split so was a accident 7/10/22 whilst on my period, I finished my period two days later 09/10/22. I slept with #guy2 15/10/22 no protection but used pull out method. However we was unsure if he pulled out in time so I got the morning after pill 16/10/22.

my app does a average on my period based on my irregular cycles and said that I ovulated 15/10/22. I was nervous because I was told if I have already ovulated the morning after pill don’t work.
Anyway I tested for pregnancy 22/10/22- negative 23/10/22- negative 23/10/22- faintest line.
My app says that I wasn’t ovulating or in a ovulation cycle when I slept with #guy1 as I was on day 4 my menstrual cycle but I’m still nervous.

however I was thinking if I actually am pregnant with #guy1 then wouldn’t I have shown positive earlier as technically my period would be starting 25/10/22 and would mean I have a 21 day cycle. Symptoms for pregnancy started 21/10/22 and with #guy2 and my period
prediction is 29/10/22 so getting a faint positive today on a FRER would mean I am pregnant with #guy2 surely?

could you give me some advice please!!! What do you think?
hopefully no judgement

You can get a DNA test even before the baby is born

Its pretty early to be sure you're pregnant? Most people wouldn't know till their next period was late unless you were deliberately trying to get pregnant and tracking every day.

Chances are as they will not want to be involved but I think it’s best to be honest incase they do.

How do you know they won’t want to be involved? We have no idea who these men are to the OP.

If I had had an accident and taken the morning after pill I sure as hell would not wait around for my next period. I'd be testing ASAP. Which I'm sure is exactly what OP has done.

No need to be nasty and jump straight to accusing her of babytrapping :/

@RandomMusings7 I second that.

No need to be mean. It's already such a sensitive time for her, be kind.

Yeah I think so my GP from my doctors just explained it as you said .
Thanks for the comment much appreciated! :)

I've been tracking since my nipples were sore, 21/10/22 as in extremely sore, i read that you can feel this around a week after conception and was having pain in one side. I know my body and knew something was different that PMS as in my previous pregnancies which ended in miscarriage I had this so I just tested as soon as I got the symptom. Which was 21/10/22 and got a slight positive today :)

Thanks guys! Appreciate it. I'm happy regardless as I said I had fertility issues previously so being pregnant I'm happy about this!

I'd say guy 2 OP based on what you've said but you'd need a dna test to be sure.

Good luck in your pregnancy!

Guy 2 otherwise you'd have had a clearer line when you tested, if you were another week along.

Yeah i worked out if that was the case my period would be due 25/10/22 and therefore I would have gotten a positive test 22/10/22 and 23/10/22 when I tested as I used the early detention pregnancy tests that's test 5 days before missed period

Hi I’m sorry to jump on. I think it’s more likely to be man 2 as you was on your period menstruating with man 1 and anything on the lining of the uterus comes away with it!

im wondering if anyone could help me if possible.. LONG POST PENDING!

i had a period 12th july which was 7 days late and made my usual 28-32 day cycle a 37 day cycle which is alarming for me. However I was on 2 lots of antibiotics and under a lot of stress and also had BV ( sorry tmi) due to hormones I think as since January I’ve struggled with thrush / bv same time before my period and drs said hormones as I’ve been STI tested serval times all clear !! Anyway on 29th June before my last period I had unprotected sex ending with the pull out method ( from what I know ! ) with a ONS ( man 1 ) I’m aware there’s still chance you can get pregnant this way. As my period was delayed by a week I tested several times from the 4th july - just before my period 12th july can’t remember exactly what date all negative ( aware may be to early to test ) 29th June I was not ovulating according to my flo app but now my cycle was delayed flo has told me I was now in a fertile window which has caused me concern. I then after 2 weeks exactly after my period I had unprotected sex 26th july ( man 2 ) again pull out method however not completely I am now 14+6 weeks pregnant and concerned I’m pregnant from man 1. I sound crazy because all my scans all 5 early scans including my 12 week scan ( I am a worrier ) have shown the dates to be from 12th july = conception 2 weeks after and my due date also links up to this being man 2. If my previous period wasn’t delayed I wouldn’t be worried as much but I’m over thinking it everyday it’s really bringing me down and I feel so alone hence the reason for voicing my concerns to strangers for some support / reassurance that it is not man 1 baby. What do you think ? Could I really be pregnant from June 29th would my baby be measuring 4 weeks a head now ?? Please help I’m so stressed and sad with worry 😩

ps 11th august I done a clear blue test 11th august which stated 2-3 weeks from conception ( man 2 was 2 weeks and a 2 days from this ). I just worry all my scans are TOO accurate as my cycles do change lengths from 28-32 days and I’ve read horror story’s scans and dating scans are incorrect!
thanks for reading sorry for waffling!

Hi, thanks.

I completely get how your feeling but if you slept with man one and man 2 over a 2 week period there should be no confusion I was told I think when it's under the 2 week mark that's when it gets confusing. You also had a period between the two which definitely makes it that man 2 is the father unless you had a lighter period. Completely understand the worry but it's seems logical it's the 2nd man. Also u can do a dna test if you are worried but try not to worry and hope all goes well for you!

Thankyou! I know myself it’s not going to be a difference of 4 weeks when all my scans are accurate I just am really struggling I think and letting my anxiety get the better of me because all my previous cycles have never been 37 days long so for the one before I must of fell pregnant to be just really threw me off and made me over think ovulation implantation bleeding etc but all scans date back to 12th July so must of been a period. Thanks for being kind I do struggle with anxiety and in some cases irrational thoughts due to my anxiety so I’m not surprised at my self for worrying haha 😂!! Really hope you get some clarity to and feel better x

Yes it was a lighter period but I’ve never struggled with light periods it was 3-4 days which is usual for me x

Never struggled with heavy periods * that should say sorry

Wanting to keep it when you dont know who the father is seems rather foolish but given your fertility issues I get it. Do you care who the father is? Or are you trying to clarify so you can claim CMS off them

@theremustonlybeone don't really see the point in your goady comment.

OP I'd say most likely to be second but hard to know! Will you tell them both? Hope you're okay

@theremustonlybeone

ever heard of something called FEELINGS?

She's literally just found out she's pregnant and you feel comfortable to be a keyboard warrior saying things like that? Imagine someone said that to your face? That's so insensitive.

OP if you read this please ignore her, I'm proud of you snd so are so many on this thread. We're all with you, and hope you have a wonderful healthy pregnancy and baby.

@theremustonlybeone not knowing who the father is is a problem easily solved by a DNA test. You can get them during pregnancy nowadays. So why would that automatically mean abortion? If neither potential father is some horribly abusive monster/drug addict/etc why would that change how OP feels about becoming a mother?

And just to play devil's advocate, many men were enthusiastic participants in creating a baby, only to then decide parenthood is not for them once the child is there and abandon both partner and kid. So i guess what i'm trying to say is YOLO...

The morning after pill is not 100% effective

Are you sure you weren’t pregnant before all of this? Perhaps your ‘period’ bleed was implantation bleed???

I mention this as you say you had a positive pregnancy test 19 days after the first day of your period - I have regular periods every 4 weeks literally can set your watch to them and I have only ever had 1 pregnancy who was a very very faint positive on the day I was due - I’ve been pregnant 6 times. You only ovulate 14 days after the first day of your period and 19 days start to finish of your period plus producing a positive test feels like a short time period to me - that’s like 5 maybe 6 days for the sperm to reach the egg, fertilise and produce enough hormones to produce a positive test

Not even 70% effective, according to my GP

What? How vile you are! you can easily tell who the school bullies were on this thread! Now leave the OP alone fgs!

Sorry if that happened to you, but not everyone is abandoned because they've had a baby..maybe in your circs, but not everyone!