MIL sticking nose into return to work after maternity plans

[EL8888]

I’m 9 weeks pregnant and have only a rough idea about my return to work after maternity plans. It’s super early days after all but finances dictate l will have to return to work and lm fine with that. Probably tweaked hours and maybe drop a couple. Fiancé is fine with that too, he will tweak his hours as well and possibly drop a few

MIL started sticking her nose is saying she thinks l should quit after maternity and go for a more junior zero hours role. The amount of money l earn currently is only a little less than my fiancé do. Normally MIL and l get on well but this has wound me up!!! Why should l give up the security of a permanent job for less money and poorer pension (current pension deal is pretty good). Next time she mentions it then l will be suggesting my fiancé does it! Feels like old school sexism and l don’t see why l should get a demotion at work. Plus me earning less money would affect me, fiancé and baby

No way!

I bet she would change her tune if you said her DS had to be the one committing career suicide while you kept yours!

Dh was made redundant when ds was born. He became a sahd.
Mil flipped her lid.

@EL8888 no one has said that you can't make the rules for your own child. And I get that this is a touchy subject for you, given the experience with your first husband. But, in an otherwise good relationship, don't throw the baby out with the bath water - you generally like her, she's willing to help you out. Those are good signs. A lot of people on here have had terrible in-laws, and there does tend to be projection. But if you followed some of the more blunt suggestions on here, you'll be using a sledgehammer to crack a nut.
Don't make the woman walk on eggshells by overthinking her comments or overreacting. It's nice to have a mil who you can call on for support. Especially if it turns out that she is right and you do want to cut back on work in the future - these things can't be predicted before you've actually had the baby.

Ah is that right? I have to admit I was too exhausted to find out the rules, she just said multiple times "Us grandparents can open a bank account...." It just really annoyed me the urgency of it all.

“I won’t be doing that because I don’t want to, and we have come up with this plan together”
she’s just given her opinion, you can just ignore it.

@ImAvingOops we all have opinions on things. For the record l have opinions on the way my inlaws run their lives and house but it’s none of my business so l don’t comment. The end of maternity leave plan that my fiancé and l end up settling on won’t directly affect her. Us expecting her to do free childcare 8am-6pm 5 days a week so l can return to work definitely isn’t an option.

Taking a pay cut will mean that l will actually will probably have to work more, rather than less. That much l can predict right now. It makes little sense