Me and my partner have a son who is 4. I got pregnant I’ll be honest here, the first time I slept with him, we had been together for 8 months at the time of getting to know each other and we slept together end of October 2017 and I got pregnant immediately. His brother was so happy for us, his girlfriend was not and she stopped speaking to us. She blocked us on social media. We bumped into them at shopping and she walked the other way only the brother spoke to us. I asked what’s wrong? Why she block us? He said she’s upset your pregnant. After my baby was born we didn’t see her for a while or rather we did when we visited in-laws and she turned up and sat staring at my newborn that was being passed around but didn’t speak a word to anyone I felt so uncomfortable. After 2 years she unblocked me and I bumped into her one night she was drunk and she apologised to me about it all said she’s been trying for a baby for so long 15 years and can’t have one bur her partner has twins from his previous marriage girl and boy and she made him stop seeing them because all she wants is a girl! She told me please don’t have anymore babies I can’t handle it. I then got pregnant and I’m due very soon with a girl, I kept it a secret in the hope of not upsetting her until I no longer could but I felt this wasn’t fair on the rest of the in-law family who were so happy. I got blocked again but this time my partner and mum got blocked! So blocked all around! I seen the brother loads of times he’s so happy for us always asks how I feel how long left can’t wait to meet her when she’s here. But I’m so worried about visiting the in-laws with the new baby incase she turns up again and sits staring at my baby from a distance throwing dirty looks to her like she did with my son.
i don’t want to feel this way I want to enjoy the birth of my baby and taking her to visit her family. Has anyone else had in-laws who can’t have children and go off like this when you have children? How do you deal with it once baby arrives? I don’t want to upset her anymore than I already have