Pregnancy after chemical pregnancies.

[LC2204]

Hi all,
this is my first time posting but I just needed to talk to people who can relate to me.
I had a chemical pregnancy in February and another one in may, I have just found out I am pregnant again (AF due tomorrow), and I can’t stop worrying about losing another pregnancy. My only symptom is sore breast which today feels like it isn’t as bad as the past couple of days and I’m so scared. Is there any positive stories that can try ease my mind about healthy pregnancies after two chemicals ?

thank you guys :)

Heya I am the same as you, I can understand how scared you are. Had 2 chemical pregnancies and I m pregnant again I m 6 weeks tomorrow, got an ultrasound Monday as had some spotting last Monday. I had pretty strong symptoms initially which have tailed down to a bit of breast tenderness. I don't know how my story will end but just wanna show my support, that we re in the same anxious boat xx

Aw bless you, thank you so much for sharing. I feel so alone. I pray your scan goes well and you get your rainbow! I’m trying to stay busy as I feel like I’m just waiting around to start bleeding, I haven’t told anyone about the pregnancy yet as every time I seem to share with close people, it never happens xx

Congratulations & sorry for what you went through 🙂 I had a chemical pregnancy in March last year & then a miscarriage in October last year. I found out I was pregnant at the end of December and I’m now 36 weeks pregnant with my little girl, what got me through was thinking to myself stop worrying if it’s going to happen again it will and there’s nothing I can do about it 🥺 I didn’t tell anyone til I was 16 weeks because like you i thought if I did I was going to jinx it. Wishing you the best outcome 💕xx

Aww, Thank you and thank you for sharing your experience. I’m also sorry you had to go through losses, but congratulations on your baby girl, not long to go to meet her💖
I’m going to take that advice because you’re so right, I can’t stop it from happening if it’s going to but hearing your story gives me hope.
wishing you all the best in your last few weeks of pregnancy and then from birth to beyond. 💖💖

Hi OP. Just wanted to send you a hug. I had two chemical pregnancies in February and August last year. On NYE we then got our third BFP with much stronger lines (looked like yours ☺️) and I'm due to give birth to our little boy in just over 3 weeks.

My advice is just be kind to yourself and take it day by day, or hour by hour if you need to. I know it feels like you need to wait forever right now before you get some certainty or reassurance, but the time will pass. Crossing everything for you lovely ❤️

Also - symptoms really come and go in the first trimester. Try your best not to freak out about this if it happens to you ☺️

I also had some light brown spotting on and off with this one over the course of a few weeks near the start and thought it was all over again!

Thank you so much for the lovely message. Congratulations on your pregnancy, how exciting! I’m feeling a little more hopeful that others like yourself has had two chemicals but then a healthy pregnancy after. One minute I feel positive and the next I’m back to worrying and negative thinking it’s so hard to keep positive until I get reassurance from a scan, I guess I just have to try keep busy🥺♥️♥️♥️

Yes keeping busy and distracting yourself is key! That first trimester is tough but you can do it. Break it down into chunks and celebrate every week that passes if you can. I always saw it as "wow I've never been this pregnant before" so rather than getting too excited that all would be well, I focused on the fact that I was getting further and that in itself was worth celebrating. How does your partner feel about it all? X

Well I have a 5 year old, I fell pregnant within a month of trying with him and had a healthy pregnancy and a really good birth however it was to my ex. My chemicals have been with my new partner of 3 years, so it confused me as I’ve had a healthy pregnancy previously and now I keep comparing like this didn’t happen with my first. We have been making lots of plans this week to spend time with the children (I have 1 and he has 2 girls from a previous relationship), so he’s said let’s just look forward to doing things and making memories and then this coming weekend we are going for a spa weekend so I have that to look forward to, then after that I’m going to ring the doctors to see if they could get me an early scan when I’m 6 weeks because of the previous chemicals, not sure if they can do that or not but it’s worth an ask, he’s just trying to keep me busy and staying positive, it’s only when the children are asleep or it’s a quiet time in the day, I get negative thoughts! And I know he doesn’t really know what to say to me that’s why I’m finding comfort from talking to you lovely ladies xxxx

Ahh he sounds great! Brilliant that you're making plans and keeping busy too. I think chemicals can sadly happen at any time, and they have no idea why which is so frustrating and upsetting, but equally it means that just because they've happened before it doesn't mean it will happen this time again. Great idea on the early scan, they might offer you a reassurance one if you ask GP. We booked a private one for 6 weeks because I struggled to get through to the EPU etc, but all trusts are so different. I was glad to have that 6 week scan though, it made a huge difference to my mood. Still worried obviously but it was so reassuring to see the little bean there on camera! Hope you enjoy your family time coming up ☺️ and you can talk to us any time! Xxx

I had a miscarriage back in February and a chemical on April and got pregnant again currently 15 weeks and it's been so stressful but just try your best not to worry! You'll get your rainbow baby I'm sorry to hear about your chemicals, wishing you a safe healthy pregnancy!❤️

Aw thank you for sharing your experience and congratulations on your pregnancy! However I have had cramps today and then some blood when I went to the toilet. I am not sure what spotting looks like as I never had bleeding or cramps with my son, so I obviously I am expecting the worse🥺

I have been out today trying to enjoy family time but unfortunately have had cramping and some bleeding. I am devastated and expecting the worse, how do I stay positive 🥺

I'm so sorry to hear this OP. How much bleeding was there? I think they say if it's enough to fill a pad then it's a bit of a worry, but if it's a small amount that would be classed as spotting.

Have you been able to get in touch with a midwife yet? If not could you try to speak to your GP? Also what colour was the bleeding? Pale pink and brown would indicate spotting too.

In any case, it might not be the worst just yet - there could be lots of reasons for it, hang in there ❤️

I’m pretty certain it was just some spotting as I haven’t bled anymore. It just scared me as I never had bleeding with my son and obviously the only times I’ve bled is with both chemicals. I am booked in for bloods so that will obviously be reassuring to know the results. I am feeling abit more relaxed today, just hoping there’s no more scares! Thank you for checking in xxx

That's brilliant! Really pleased to hear 🥰 and great that you're booked in for bloods too. It's so unsettling seeing any blood at all! I was so worried when I had spotting in the first trimester. It came and went over a few weeks which prolonged the worry 😫 but all was fine. I started on aspirin around that time to prevent preeclampsia so I wonder if that had any effect as I've seen people write about it on here. Keep going, you've got this! 🙌🏻

so it’s been nearly a week since the tests above, I decided to do another test to see the line progression however it’s much lighter, should I be worried???

Hey ☺️ I don't think that does look lighter to me. Still looks really good.

What DPO would you be now? What time of day did you take the test? It could be looking lighter in person for all sorts of reasons - diluted urine if you've been drinking plenty, the 'hook effect' where test lines look lighter because there's actually too much hormones in your system (I think - worth looking up), or the test itself just not being quite as sensitive as the last one you took - they're only meant to show yes / no rather than indicate any 'strength' of pregnancy so they're certainly not foolproof when it comes to line progression.

I put the tests down after a bit as it wasn't doing my head any good at all and I ended up obsessing over it a bit. Easier said than done though I know. How are you feeling today? Xx

I’m not sure on how many dpo, AF was due Sunday 14th and of course haven’t came on.
everyday has been a struggle to be honest, the constant checking the tissue when I go to the toilet and looking out for every pregnancy symptom. I feel so relieved each day I go to bed and I haven’t bled but then it’s quickly ripped away as I think ‘tomorrow it could happen, what if I wake up covered in blood’

i know I can’t stop it from happening if it’s going to but after already being through two losses I just can’t go through another🥺
going away for the weekend so that will pass a few more days then I have bloods on Monday! My closest friend has found out she’s pregnant yesterday and we are due days apart, but that only concerns me more that she’s going to have a healthy pregnancy and I’ll be the one without a baby.

I hope you’re enjoying the last few weeks of pregnancy. I’m so excited for you as there is just no feeling like it holding your baby for the first time💙xxx

Oh @LC2204 I'm so sorry, I remember that anxious feeling all too well. It's so so hard. You're doing brilliantly! Keep going, hour by hour and you will get there. Monday is so close now! How far along are you now?

I still check the loo paper! It's just a habit now, the anxiety isn't the same but I know that feeling.

Have you got much planned over the weekend?

I had a similar thing with friends due a day before us - we had some genetic testing worries too which complicated things until about 17 weeks when we got the all clear (I'm a carrier of a condition so had a 50/50 chance) and I remember feeling sick about the thought of having to feign happiness for others when we might be grieving. God pregnancy is tough isn't it. Have you been able to speak to your friend about your worries?

I'm crossing everything for you lovely but I also have a good feeling for you. Hang in there ❤️ xxx

The pregnancy test is still positive! I would try one of the clear blue that tells you how many weeks. I only just found out just over a week ago that I was pregnant.

I had a suspected chemical in June but the test errored and I didn't take another before I started bleeding so no way to know... but the next two cycles I didn't have any of those symptoms and this cycle they came back and I tested positive so it does make me think I had a chemical...

ANYWAY the reason I recommend the clear blue is because I took that last week (my first BFP) and it said 1-2 (weeks since conception not weeks since first day of last period) and then again this week it said 2-3 so I know it has progressed. Might take another next week and then it should say 3+. I think it's more reliable than going by the darkness of the lines!

My ovulation was 3 weeks after the first day of last period so the docs might initially date me at 5+5 atm because they assume ovulation is on day 14 apparently? But I track my basal temp and take LH tests so I know when I ovulated (day 20), so I'm probably more like 4+5.

But the anxiety you feel is understandable because I am the same even though my chemical is unconfirmed (hence me taking more tests too!)

Praying for you to get your rainbow baby 🌈

Sorry just reread - have a lovely time away 🥰

Thank you so much for being so kind.
I am 4 weeks and 5 days today, i found out I was pregnant on the 10th august so it feels like forever I’ve known for🤣, my friend is so supportive and trying to reassure me, as is my partner. We are staying at a spa hotel so hopefully I can relax a little, I think I will take a clear blue Monday with the weeks on it, and also have bloods that day too!

when I fell pregnant with my son, I never worried at all, it’s like my body just automatically knew everything was going to be okay, whereas now it’s just so worrying, I really feel for everyone in the same position because it’s an awful feeling.

Congratulations @PewterHeart , sorry for your previous loss but hoping you have a healthy pregnancy and love every minute of it!!

thank you both so much for sending your love and positivity to me this morning I really needed it! Xxx♥️

When I woke up this morning I knew something wasn’t right. I’ve just been to the toilet and as expected, blood, quite a lot of it.
only the next few hours will tell me if I’m losing the baby depending on if I carry on bleeding.

I just knew something wasn’t right and I’m absolutely devastated to say that I think this is the end of my pregnancy journey 💔

Oh @LC2204 I'm so sorry. Sending you so much love and hugs. Can you get in touch with your GP today or would you rather wait it out and see what happens? X