Are there months you’d want to avoid baby being due?

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We’re thinking of trying for baby number 2 around new year but as a Christmas baby myself I want to avoid a December birthday. Where I stay the January and February birthdays are the youngest in the school year so I’d also want to avoid those months but it basically means starting TTC then putting it on hold for 3 or 4 months if it doesn’t happen quickly. I feel like once we start again I will struggle to wait as it consumes your life 🙈 Is there months you’d try to avoid?

Mine are adults now, but the only month I wanted to avoid was December. Mine have May and September birthdays which were fine by me.

December and then August for the youngest in school year.
Other than that I'd have preferences to avoid nov/jan/July too but not enough to stop trying.

December , January September would avoid these dates December is too close to Xmas September is the new school year and January because it's the r most depressing month of the year .

Yes I wanted to avoid December here too!
Next year my siblings are both getting married, one in May and one in September, so we wanted to avoid them (and August too, as the September one is abroad and getting a passport in time would have been tricky). That's specific to next year though.
I also wasn't keen on July/August generally, as they'd be the youngest in the year, but if it hadn't happened I don't think we'd have stopped trying.
My dd was born last February, and I'm just pregnant with another due next march.

I wanted to avoid August... baby is due 28th September but will be born mid August. 😬

December and August. I had have two and my eldest was born on NYE and the staffing levels just weren’t there. My second was born in March which I enjoyed as the weather was slightly milder so could get out and about with the pram after an ELCS

If you're avoiding jan/feb because of school starts, in Scotland (which is where I am too) you have pretty much unquestioned ability to defer them if they're jan/feb. My late feb born 4 year old - was just a question of filling out a form.

You obviously know August September and November December why ask?

Absolutely not. You don’t know how long it’s going to take or if it will be successful.

I am a teacher and should have been trying for the illusive September baby (maximises your maternity pay by returning in the holidays) but unfortunately had early losses. I put the tactics to bed and my beautiful girl arrived a year and a bit after my first MC and in summer pre school holidays. The worst time! But she’s here and I don’t care.

If TTC went on for a while, I would have been frustrated with the missed chances and wasted time. Children are a blessing should you wish for them, and they come when they come.

Just remember babies can be born early! You will love your child whenever they are born, surely a safe arrival is most important. As many will tell you, ttc can be straight away or take a year / never happens. Micromanaging the date is likely to end in disappointment

I have a DC with a December birthday and it's never been a major issue, although early enough in December to not be overtaken by Christmas too much. DD often chooses to do something like go to a local Christmas event for a birthday day out, last year we went to the Christmas Market in our local city and it actually snowed on her birthday, she was delighted. It took me over a year of TTC to actually get pregnant so I would have taken any due date I could get by that point, everyone told me that first babies are always late so it would be likely she would be born in the Christmas week but she actually arrived a few days early.

Well if you want to avoid Dec-Feb then that's July-Mid Feb you can TTC (Apr - mid Nov) so I'd probably start try and now rather than wait til Jan, try for two months then stop again. If you try Aug-Feb without look your priority on when you give birth might change, or else you can have a few months off and try again the following Summer

I always wanted a May or June baby but I never had one. I think it's perfect for a baby to be born after the end of winter but with some months of warm weather ahead.

After ten miscarriages, I would be deeply grateful for any healthy baby, no matter what month it was born in. Unlikely to happen for me. Count your blessings!

Personally I would aim for October, November, skip December and then Jan - May. This is mainly for advantageous ages for the school year (I have a summer born and it's definitely been a disadvantage)

No. If I’m blessed with another baby I don’t mind whatever month it is born in.

I had IVF so was able to choose when I gave birth, well pretty much anyway. I chose October simply due to school. I’m a summer baby and was always one of the youngest, my brother was the oldest, he sailed through primary education. DH is also a summer baby and found primary school challenging. We both caught up but given the opportunity to choose, October was our preference. I also love the autumn, Halloween and all things cosy 🔥 another plus is not having to worry about keeping a newborn cool.

If your child is summer born and you live in the UK, you can usually defer their start. My DS has just turned 5 and will start Reception in September.

I thought like you when starting TTC, but in the end it took years - I'd focus on getting a healthy baby and not worry about when it's born.

Some December birthdays are the best in the year. The problem is it’s very day dependent - some days are so iconic no one will ever forget your bday, and you never have to work a bday, or organise your own party. The atmosphere is always electric - a guaranteed good vibes day 🤣

A lot of the days are just hideous though, before Xmas and people are busy with events and it’s impossible to organise anything. Nearing Xmas and everyone is last minute shopping, too drunk and will forget your bday.
After Xmas and it’s awful because everyone is burnt out.

So it might be worth the gamble. Days too aim for: 24th, 26th, 31st.

Nope. Any month I was okay with.

DS was born in July and now expecting babies 2&3 31/12 but they will be born at 36-38 weeks hopefully if they stay nice and cooped up

@Dodolovesme aww lovely 😊 no messing about there! Congrats

@PinkButtercups that’s so exciting 😍 congratulations, hope they stay put!

@LemonSwan 😂 will check the due date calculator for an exact date! I’ve never had a big out for my birthday as people are always too busy with work nights out etc so mine just ends up being during another night out. Also meant as a child if you wanted something you had to wait a whole year for it and presents were kind of split over both as hard as my parents tried to make it separate🙈

@KvotheTheBloodless yeah that’s the main thing and we’re maybe not in such a rush this time as it’s not the first

@DangerouslyBored I thought that, I’d we tried January then it would probably be an October birthday but the chances of it happening first month are slim. I had a summer baby last time during a heatwave but it was quite nice knowing he was coming soon and I didn’t need to struggle through the whole summer pregnant but as you say, having a baby in the heat is probably harder. I’d like an October birthday then have a few months to hide away and recover before re-emerging a bit more presentable by Christmas 😂