Are there months you’d want to avoid baby being due?

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We’re thinking of trying for baby number 2 around new year but as a Christmas baby myself I want to avoid a December birthday. Where I stay the January and February birthdays are the youngest in the school year so I’d also want to avoid those months but it basically means starting TTC then putting it on hold for 3 or 4 months if it doesn’t happen quickly. I feel like once we start again I will struggle to wait as it consumes your life 🙈 Is there months you’d try to avoid?

not in scotland - birthday cut off days are different

@Phrenologistsfinger bless you ❤️ Hope you get a happy ending one day, whatever that may be. Definitely! Was so lucky with everything going well last time I would just be delighted if it went like that again

Oh sorry OP, that makes me sad 😢

I am an Xmas eve babe myself and had the split pressies, but honestly love it and think it’s the best due to the atmosphere.

There’s nothing like walking into a Xmas eve pub with a birthday hat on and everyone sings you happy bday 😂 Absolutely joyous.

Might be getting a bit old for that now lol but good memories 😂

I didn't so much want to avoid certain months, but I did hope I'd have spring/summer babies. They all turned out to be born between May and August.

December - everyone I know that has a birthday around Christmas wishes they didn’t. And August as l wouldn’t want a child to be so young in the school year.

@handbagsandholidays aww no way 🙈 congratulations, not long to wait! Hope everything’s okay

When I started trying to conceive my first I waited a couple of months because I didn't want a July or August baby for school year reasons (I'm in England). I figured I'd have a baby in autumn or winter 2016. By the time DS actually turned up in July 2018 I very much didn't care!

DD2 was born 15 minutes before Christmas Eve! December is a very convenient time for birthdays as the shops are full of fabulous presents, party dresses, etc. And there is no shortage of pantomimes, concerts and shows for birthday outings.
DD1 was born in late August, which was a bit more of a nuisance, as here in Scotland, the schools all go back a couple of days before her birthday. But now she’s an adult and living in Edinburgh, there are thousands of possible Fringe shows to treat her to as birthday presents. And fairly reliable good weather.

I would of avoided July/august (so they aren’t the youngest in the year and December/January as it’s Christmas time…..as it happens I have 2 December babies and 1 January baby 🤣 also have one in May (love her birth month). YES WE ARE ALWAYS BROKE IN DECEMBER 😩

I got it wrong both times, DS is late July and DD two days before Christmas!

First one, I wanted to avoid December/January.

Second one, I tried hard (and did managed) to avoid the whole autumn/winter time. I had a quite bad time with PND with my first so wanted to be able to go out, lighter days etc… with the second, for my own MH.

I'm due an October baby and I must confess I'm a little relieved!

We didn’t plan at all with the first and ended up with January, the second we were more organised as I wanted to give birth from late May to early August and we ended up with a baby in mid June , she was actually due in July but in those days they did ELCS at 38 weeks .

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I could not care less after 4 miscarriages I'm now 17 weeks due the 30th of Dec. But consultant did say to me to ask them to start me on the 20th or around, I'm just happy to be pregnant couldn't care less when it was.

Jan and aug. I have a c section booked on 4 aug…

August so you don’t end up with a summer born starting school just after their 4th birthday.

September because all the extra sex at Christmas/new year causes a lot of babies to arrive around then. Maternity unit usually becomes a heaving conveyor belt, midwives ripping their hair out as struggling to give the levels of care they want to etc (ex midwife here)

@Sneezesthrice oh no I didn’t think of the extra babies thing 😂 I’d be having another section so would really hope they could fit me in on time

I kind of wish I'd planned birthdays a bit better since my entire household, bar one DC, are within a month of each other which makes it expensive! There's no particular month I'd actively avoid though. I think my ideal month would be March because I like spring, not too young or old in the year group when they start school and some years it's sunny, others it's cold so I feel like a good mix of birthday party activities can be held throughout childhood. Obviously, none of my DC are born in March .

@Babyghirl aw lovely, congratulations ☺️ I’m a December birthday and I’m fine so who cares really! Just good to hear some nice news when people have had a shit time of it

@Mymoneydontjigglejiggle yeah that’s the thing and you think you could just buy it a different month but as kids get older they choose what they want so last minute or change their mind so it’s going to end up as an expensive month anyway 🙈 I’d want at least 2 years between them but ideally not as much as 3 so hopefully that way il avoid all the birthdays in one month

I read an interesting study that concluded September babies tended to achieve the best academically (due to them being more likely to be oldest in the school year). This will vary depending on school age cutoffs for your area.

Summer babies (july, august) tended to have on average worst eyesight. Due they think to early exposure to bright sunlight on developing eyes.

And other studies I've forgotten at this point.

For me, once I'd hopped through all the hoops to do ivf I just wanted to get started as soon as possible, so mine is due august. I'm homeschooling so cutoff dates are not so much of a factor, and will be careful regarding eye development.

I'm a Christmas baby and always said I'd want to avoid December for my children. I've ended up with an October and 2 December babies. I think there are pros and cons of most birth months tbh.

I was born on New Year's Eve and I don't mind it from a Christmas point of view as I adore Christmas and am happy to have it in the holidays.

But...

Nobody likes NYE. Every year on here there are multiple threads saying it's shit and people hate it.

People are either hiding or blackout drunk.

If you want to book anywhere, it's triple the price at least.

Everybody's already busy or doing something planned long in advance.

You get joint Christmas/birthday presents.

Your presents are usually wrapped in Christmas paper.

People forget to buy presents because they're busy with Christmas and once Christmas is done, nowhere is open and everybody is skint.

I don't care really and love having a birthday in the Christmas holidays but lots of people find an NYE birthday awful (there are a few of us on here!).

December because we don't ideally want a Christmas birthday and June as we already have 7 birthdays in June amongst the family so I think everyone would kill us haha
DD is September which is a good month I think.

Never thought about it, but mine were born April and July, DH and I were April and may. No complaints.