How do you cope knowing you have had last child and you will never be pregnant again?

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Dont get me wrong I have HORRIBLE pregnancies
but having had a baby 6 weeks ago that us growing bigger by the day I am getting increasingly sad that he is my last child.

I am 40 and have a 4 year old dd (I also lost a dd stillborn in 2005)

Another child would financially cripple us as I have to work and I dont think I would survive another pregnancy physically.

Either way, packing awy the newborn clothes hes already grown out of, to sell on ebay I could have cried...

Does this feeling go away?

chocolate peanut I know just what you mean.

I really wanted 4 (and so did DH) but for lots of reasons, not least my age when DS2 was born, plus my superstitious notion that 3 pgs with 3 healthy children was pretty good going, we stopped at 3.

I recall quite clearly b/feeding DS2 and feeling sad that I wouldn't do it again for another newborn.

However as her has grown up the feelings have faded to being so happy with my luck having these 3.

(plus practical things lie - nowhere for another child to sleep etc).

DS2 is at school now and lots of things are a lot easier (tho in some ways they all need me more now). Still have the odd pang for my "second girl" tho - esp when DS2 unthinkingly says "can we have another baby mummy" sigh.

dd3 due in 5 weeks and am happy to know that she is my last, am not good at being pregnant and struggle with it. Its a sad feeling knowing thats it but if one more person says oh youll have to have one more try at getting a boy i might have to thump them. I AM NOT DOING IT AGAIN! sorry!

i am more than happy to know i will have three beautiful girls. am v lucky.

I am agonising about this...am still bfing dd 2 (8months) and no return of periods yet.I am dreading them as then I will have to think about it fast as I am 44.got preg in blink each time (dd 1 just turned 3),but not sure if I can cope with three so close together.And another c-section scares me.as older mummy I have spent most of my adult life with babies (I hoped)in the future and it seems wierd that in such a short time i will have to rule it out.Am packing up baby stuff ...also worry about middle child thing.always wanted 4 but as I started so late (younger husband took forever to make his bloody mind up)think 4 pretty unlikely.Feel sad even reading this thread.

I am pg with no3 and already know that this is the last. I am very happy with that! However, after dd I knew straight after giving birth that I would do it again. And I am no natural mother earth by any means! I couldn't understand the mums with 2 dcs who were so sure this was their last one, but now I completely understand that feeling. That it even though tiny isn't here yet (still shouldn't count my chickens as only 8 and a bit weeks)

I feel a bit sad that my DD will be my last. She's 10 months old now and I sometimes long for another one. But on the whole, I've been blessed with two healthy happy kids so I tend to consentrate on that. Age and financial restraints against us (I'm 43 next week - boooo).

Sx

I know what you mean. I'm 37 weeks pregnant with third and final baby. It took us a long time to decide to go for a third as 2 are challenging at times. However, now that I'm about to have 3, 4 doesn't seem quite so many . Especially when ds1 and ds2 are so excited about the new arrival. But I know that financially that would bleave e mad as taking the time off for maternity will eat into our savings a little and with 3 little ones to care for(and potentially put through uni etc)we have to keep as much cash as possible for that.

Strangely I never felt sad at the thought of never being pregnant before as although I've always had good pregnancies I've never really enjoyed being pregnant - until this time! Part of my sadness at never having another will be that I'll never have a dd. I love my boys and wouldn't change them for the world but would have loved a little girl too.

I felt like you rozzy after had ds2, that id never have a daughter and experience what its like. This is partly the reason(but not the only) that im going to try for number 3.

Whatever happens that wil be the last!
Ive got a book telling you(supposedly ) how to concieve the sex you want!

Been reading all responses and so many share my feelings.

ds is 7 weeks on Wed and I am sat here looking at him growing so quick and cant accept that he is the last even though my pregnancies are awful and we cant afford another.

Maybe it will go eh? But I doubt it.....