Terrified of new born stage!!

[Pondz]

Hi everyone!

I hope this is ok to post here. Basically, me and my husband have been talking about how we are ready for a baby. We have spoken about it a lot over the years and now that we feel like it’s time I’m suddenly extremely terrified of the new born stage. So much so that it’s making me delay. We decided to start trying in April but so far have been using condoms because I can’t bring myself to do it.

It isn’t motherhood that I’m afraid of - in fact I can’t wait! It’s the baby stage. I know I want a family, i can’t imagine my life without and I have a deep longing for this. I think about it every day. I am also aware that there are lots of hurdles along the way and each new stage has its own challenges, it’s not as if after they are newborns everything is suddenly easy. I am just very worried of the shock of having a baby and our worlds being turned upside down. I’m scared of the toll it may take on my relationship and the sleepless nights and the monotonous repetitive days that I’ve heard about. Everyone says how unbearably tough it is and when I imagine the new born stage I feel like it’s a few weeks/months of misery.

The thing is, I know I have to just get through it if I want a family. So I am posting here to get some reassurance in hopes that it gives me the kick up the bum to get on with it. Please can you tell me how people get through this stage and offer some positive words? Are there any tips on how to make it more bearable? Is there anyone here who actually loved the new born stage?

There are advantages, like you put the baby down and he/she stays put. With a one year old now I miss that. Now i have to look out for danger everywhere.

I think good advice is not to be hard on yourself and remember if it’s too much it will change soon enough.

I read Gina Ford when I was pregnant and just knew I couldn’t cope with no sleep or having a crying baby attached to me 24/7. I dreaded the newborn stage. Turns out they’re actually pretty cute and you like it 😂 gave him 2 weeks to do what he wanted, even at that it was me who was having to wake him to feed him every 3-4 hours. By the week 6 he started sleeping from midnight til morning. Then by week 10 he slept 7-7 or 8! From 10 weeks old til now at 11 months he has slept at least this, if not longer. Some mornings itl be 9am and he’s still not up. I think I did get a particularly easy one but I also didn’t allow him to become a clingy baby that needed carried about all day long. He knew if it was nap time he went down in his Moses basket or cot from early on and that was that. He still gets loads of cuddles and is the happiest little boy. Do it! Just decide how you want it to go prior to them arriving