OMG I'm pregnant at 41

[Amaze41]

I just turned 41 a month ago and just found out I am pregnant. Only about 4 weeks. Like and absolute idiot I thought I was peri menopausal and even had an appointment booked with a specialist.
I'm terrified 😨

Is this welcome news OP?

I'm not sure, I thought I was done with babies, I have 2 from previous marriage 15 and 7. The 7 year old took four years and 2 miscarriages, I always wanted 3 but stopped as I got my miracle. I'm just freaking out,

Hi op, this must be a huge shock! And a bit scary! You will need time and space to get your head around it. Sending you all the very best

Bless you. Just let it sit for a while, as you don't need to make a decision in any direction yet.
I remember having a complete shocker of a 4th BFP (well, 6th actually, thanks to 2 miscarriages up to that point) and after the initial 'I don't think I want this', it turned into, 'I definitely do want this'. I then miscarried again so the decision was taken out of my hands. We didn't go on to have a 4th, but that's because it was a head over heart decision once I wasn't actually pg. xxx

I think this is pretty common, women think they can't conceive anymore and get a surprise! Take some time to let it sink in and think about what you want.

Without wanting to be obtuse, but why would being perimenopausal stop you getting pregnant? I maintained a regular cycle for the first few years of my perimenopause. Indeed, many, many women have ‘surprise’ babies in their 40s even though their periods are hazard/they are going through perimenopause. This is why it is recommended to use contraception even if you aren’t menstruating regularly.

Anyway, and more importantly, congratulation to you 😀

Your age is not a big deal, however a surprise pregnancy (at any age) is.

I'm 39 and 28 weeks pregnant. I'll be 40 when this baby is born. The pregnancy was very much planned and wanted, though. We also have a two year old (also planned).

How are you feeling other than shocked? Does your husband or partner know?

If this is good news for you, crack on and try to enjoy it. If not, you have options (including allowing yourself time for it to sink in!).

I had my first at 41 OP. It isn’t that old !

I feel fine, a little tired ect. Just really worried, as although not planned i always did want 3. My partner knows but hasn't really reacted

I got pregnant at 41 with second DH. I was surprised but we were both very pleased but I lost baby at 16 weeks. I probably should have rested more. Tried to get pregnant again but it did not happen. Take your time to let the news sink in. Make sure you get plenty of rest. Is partner happy about it or just plain shocked ATM?

I found myself accidentally pregnant at 41. Was fairly upset at first: age, old DCs becoming independent, house too small etc etc.
my friends found it hilarious and I was slightly embarrassed but amused myself!
However, I couldn't imagine not continuing with the pregnancy.
We now have DS, who is a complete ray of sunshine. Pregnancy and birth were a breeze and he was a complete angel as a baby and toddler.
I had more time and wisdom to enjoy this child and I'm treasuring it all.
Plus, he keeps me young and healthy.
Congratulations. Enjoy it.

Congratulations

Same here!
I will be 42 when this baby arrives, years between the baby and my now youngest.
I'm totally in shock as had a miscarriage last year and ever since then periods have been a mess, checking my fertility every month to have nothing and based on that the doctor suggesting that menopause had started.

Can't bring myself to get excited about it until I have a scan as I am still in disbelief that it's happening, although the constant nausea should be enough to convince me!

Him, if it's the age that is the concern - yes there are more risks after 40 but in my experience you got more scan and I had regular scans after 28 weeks.

OMG! That is so great! Congratulation to mommy.

So turns out my partner doesn't want it. Has said he is not financially stable enough for a child

That sounds very stressful. It's ultimately your decision op.

loads of women have babies after 40 so that’s no big deal
seems the more pressing issue now deciding how you really feel since your partner has made his feelings clear. But ultimately it is your choice to make to continue or not.

Your decision, not his.

I’m sorry he’s making this more difficult for you.

Do what you feel is right for you x

Are you financially stable enough for another child? As a couple are young financially stable enough?

Sorry to hear that regarding your partner.
Took us a while to get our heads around it all.
for you.

I just found out today I'm pregnant at 41 with baby number 6 I'm in shock and not sure how I feel 😕😕

I had a dc at 43 2. Do was made redundant the week he was born. Absolutely managed..
Do what feels right for you op.

I'm 39 and although we was TTC was shocked that it happened so soon after laparoscopy. Especially as we been together since 2018 and couldn't conceive.
I forgot what it is like to be pregnant lol. I have a teenager so been so long.

Please do what's best for you.

Hi I'm 41 am unsure if I'm going through premenpause or not I've not had period for 10 weeks. Been getting cramps this week n spotting of old blood. I'm not get any symptoms of my other pregnancy. Not sure whether to do a test or jus make an appointment at the doctors.
I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this before.?