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When did you tell your partner you were pregnant??

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Sallybeed · 31/05/2022 20:27

when did you tell your partner you were pregnant ?

I have a massive phobia of miscarriage and disappointment :(

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Bubbles1st · 31/05/2022 20:39

The second I walked out the bathroom with the stick !

Iba · 31/05/2022 20:42

I've not been pregnant yet but he gets a daily update if I'm late, by how many days any symptoms etc.

AbbiL0u · 31/05/2022 20:42

I told him I was about to do the test and he was there with me, he was also there to give me a hug and help me feel better anytime I did have a worry or a scare in those early days, and even now at 17 weeks. Your partner will support you through the good and scary @Sallybeed 💕

MarmiteCoriander · 31/05/2022 20:43

When I came out of the bathroom!

How would not telling him change the chance of MC OP?

Trinacham · 31/05/2022 20:45

Same as above- as soon as I saw that I was pregnant looking at the test

shangelawasrobbed · 31/05/2022 20:48

As soon as he came home from work, on the day I'd done the test. (I didn't want to tell him by text message!)

I was also really anxious about miscarriage, but I find this website somewhat helpful in putting my fears into perspective: datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

Heartofglass12345 · 31/05/2022 20:49

We did the tests together

Tapiocapudding · 31/05/2022 20:51

He told me!! He was nagging me to take a test. I didn't want to as I had just come off nightshift and wanted to sleep. To shut him up I peed on the stick and went to bed. He came in and told me it was positive.

I didn't sleep well that day!

waitingpatientlyforspring · 31/05/2022 20:53

As soon as I took the test with the first and he was with me with the second. I couldn't imagine keeping it from my husband!

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 31/05/2022 20:54

He (and I) saw the line appear on the test!

grosgirl · 31/05/2022 20:56

Pregnancy one: as soon as he got home from work.
Pregnancy two (ended in miscarriage): as soon as he got home from work.
Pregnancy three: a week after I got a positive test. After my experience with pregnancy two, I just needed some time to get my head around it and didn't want to tell him so early.

GeometricCurtain · 31/05/2022 20:59

We counted down to testing day and did the test together. He knew the result before I did as I couldn't look.
I understand the anxious feelings. I hope you can tell your partner and use their support through what is an exciting and scary time

weegiemum · 31/05/2022 21:00

With dd1 and ds as soon as I knew, he knew.

With dd2 (very unexpected, I was on the mirena) I gave him the test and walked away. He told me it was positive.

MollyRover · 31/05/2022 21:02

Got back from the dentist with DC1 and a test, had to forgo the x-ray so thought I'd better check to be sure. Did the test, did another one, sat in shock for an hour and handed him the positive tests when he walked in the door from work.

Lesperance · 31/05/2022 21:03

Are you a man? Or do you mean a fear of miscarriage rather than a phobia?
If you are a woman, I don't see how you consciously try for a first baby with somebody who you would then not immediately share the news with, or at least tell as soon as you see them. What would that say about your relationship?
To answer your question, we both stared at the stick together.

Cakecakecheese · 31/05/2022 21:04

I had IVF so we had a specific test day so he knew straight away.

Surely you should tell him though as if you were to miscarry you'd need support.

DogsAndGin · 31/05/2022 21:04

As soon as I found out

strawberrysummer19 · 31/05/2022 21:05

I did the test and set a timer when it went off we both went to the bathroom

Ivf baby and 5yrs infertility couldn't quite believe when we saw positive

Completely understand the anxiety behind it

I'm 32 wks and still find it surreal

Lots of reassurance scans, positive thinking and doing what I can following guidelines, eating healthy and trying to enjoy pregnancy as much as I can helped xx

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Sallybeed · 31/05/2022 21:37

This is super super helpful thank you so much for this link x x

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FfeminyddCymraeg · 31/05/2022 21:38

He was sat next to me so we found out the same time.

You’d need the support if the worst happen, surely?

Notmyzoonotmymonkeys · 31/05/2022 22:15

@Sallybeed
I'm 9+3 today have had 4 miscarriages and have not told mine yet until I get my next scan, I feel like a failure and am embarrassed that my body can't hold on to r well longed for baby i do not want to disappoint him, and r relationship is amazing I'm just trying to protect him I'm the only one that knows by the way and I feel better and more relaxed that I have the other 4 times.

TurquoiseSwirl · 31/05/2022 22:18

When I was doing the test. I wouldn’t have a baby with someone if I thought I couldn’t tell them and have their support if I MC’d. I don’t agree with the not telling people until12 weeks thing either. Those I tell I’d want support for if I’m grumpy,

mobear · 31/05/2022 22:21

Immediately, because he rather uncannily guessed that I was (and insisted I take a test) even though we weren’t TTC and I was only a few weeks along.

SullenAvalanche · 31/05/2022 22:23

I ended up telling him later the same day as he was getting concerned because he thought I was acting weird and was worried he’d upset me somehow.

I wasn’t planning to tell him for a couple of days though just cause I’m a more reserved person and need time to get my head round change whereas he’s more… emotionally full on! It was a planned and much wanted pregnancy, I just need a lot of head space.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 31/05/2022 22:23

He was on a bike ride and I was calling him and calling him. I did the test as it expired that day and didn't think it would be positive at all.

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